Going through a breakup can be an excruciating experience, especially when you feel like you’ve just lost the love of your life. It’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel in this situation, so I wanted to write an article for you on how to cope with losing the love of your life, and what you can do if you truly want to be with this person again. I’ll share some of the exercises that you can use when you’re feeling depressed, and I’ll go over what needs to happen if you want to get back together with the one you love.
How to cope with losing the love of your life by switching your focus
When the breakup is fresh, it can feel like you just can’t live without your ex. You’ve built a life together and you’ve developed a vision of your future that is very hard to let go of. When the relationship ends, it feels like things have come crashing down around you and you don’t know how to start picking up the pieces…
Though things are tough right now, I want you to understand that the pain is temporary and that you have more control over the situation than you might realize. First things first, let’s take a look at how to guard against emotional dependency.
How to deal with losing the love of your life when you feel like you can’t be happy without them
It’s not uncommon for people to feel addicted to the person they love. You end up suffering because you fear losing them forever. This fear leads to panic, which in turn can often lead to making mistakes. When you are worried that you’ll never ever be with the one you love again, you can make the mistake of putting an ex on a pedestal and fixating on only the positive elements of the relationship they had together.
On top of that, it probably feels like nothing you do right now could make you happy, but this is not the case.
The fact of the matter is that you can bounce back, and in order to do so, you’re going to have to make some changes. As long as you are in a state of emotional dependency, you are not going to be able to make this person fall for you again. You will not be able to convince them that you’re the right person for them simply because you’re keeping yourself in a position of weakness.
Losing the love of your life: They key for healing & getting them back
If you really want to get back together with the person you love, you need to focus on healing first. It is not by conveying how sad and depressed you are because of the breakup that you’re going to make your ex want to be with you again. You have to inspire them by living a life that they would want to be a part of!
When you lose the love of your life and you start working on trying to get them back, you’re going to have to make him or her realize that they could be happy with you. By the way, this is done though your actions, my friends, not through words!
Losing the one you love is extremely painful, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t turn things around again. It’s all about having the right approach, and you need to switch your focus to yourself right now.
If you are miserable, crying every day, and you can’t stop thinking about the one you love, you’ve got to prioritize your own well being. By shifting your mindset and focusing on personal development, you are going to get back in a position of being able to make your ex fall for you again.
What to do when you’re missing the love of your life
It IS possible to make your ex fear losing you for good. When a breakup occurs, a lot of people mistakenly think that the person who made the decision to leave doesn’t feel the pain of a breakup… In truth, intense pain is felt on both sides, but it might be in different ways. At one point or another, your ex is going to feel the pang of nostalgia and they will think about the good times you shared as well, so it’s important that you are prepared when this moment arrives.
It all starts with your mindset. If you’re constantly thinking, “I am losing the love of my life and everything is ruined so we are never getting back together,” chances are that you won’t. If you approach the situation with a fatalistic frame of mind, you’re not going to be increasing the odds of making your ex want you back.
That said, we can work together to restore your inner peace, your sense of happiness, and put actions into motion that will make your ex gravitate back towards you.
Dealing with losing the love of your life: Bursting the negative bubble
I know that it feels like the glass is half empty right now, but I want you to keep something very important in mind right now. Oftentimes, breakups serve as the one thing that makes a relationship between two people stronger than ever.
It can serve as a catalyst for very important change. It highlights what wasn’t working, what needs to change, and how important it is to you. Once these changes and improvements are made, you are able to lay out a solid foundation for your relationship that ensures that you are going down the right path and that you won’t end up separating again.
In essence, losing the love of your life can actually be a huge blessing in disguise because it pushes you to become the best version of yourself AND build a new relationship with your ex that is better than ever before.
In my experience, most of the attempts at getting back together with an ex have failed simply because the person went into it with a pessimistic mindset. It is crucial that you believe in yourself again and that you see your potential! Now is the ideal time to become the best version of yourself.
How to deal with losing the love of your life when you want them back
The majority of the time, you don’t actually lose the one you love. There is always something you can do to get him or her back, and if one tool doesn’t seem to be working, there are plenty of other ones to try!
Many of my clients come to me because they want to get back together with their exes immediately. They’re in panic mode and they want to in a relationship with this person again right away. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work like that and patience is a serious virtue!
Like most things in life that are worth fighting for, it takes time. It takes investment, actions, reflection and personal development. I don’t want to sell you lies and tell you that we can get your ex back overnight, because even if we could, it wouldn’t be a a solid and stable relationship. Time is needed in order to establish a new foundation that will protect your relationship against future challenges.
Getting over losing the love of your life is no easy feat, but it IS possible and it is necessary whether you want to get back together or not.
We can equip you with the tools you need that actually work so that you can approach the situation in the right way. We’ve seen this work with our clients all around the world so I want you to rest assured that your story with the love of your life does not have to end here.
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Wishing you all the best in life and love,
Your coach on how to cope with losing the love of your life