Having an ex with ambiguous behavior can be really frustrating and confusing. If only there was a way to figure out how your ex really felt about you. With the way they’ve been acting recently, it’s starting to seem like they want you back but are trying to hide it. This is something that pops up pretty often in my coaching sessions with clients, so I wanted to go over the biggest and most telltale signs he wants you back but won’t admit it.
There are many different reasons behind why person would act like this, so I want to give you some tools and techniques that will help you assess the situation and determine the best plan of attack. If your ex is hesitant about accepting their feelings for you, keeping their emotions secret out of pride, or even if they are pretending to be over you because they think that the relationship is a bad idea, there are plenty of things that you can do. By the end of this article, you are going to have a much clear idea of how to handle this situation.
Why you might be seeing signs he wants you back but won’t admit it?
As I started to explain in the intro, there are a couple reasons behind this type of behavior from an ex.
I know it’s frustrating because you want to get back together with this person, and your suspicions are giving you a glimmer of hope.
So why exactly is your ex boyfriend (or girlfriend) hiding the fact that they want you back?
Signs your ex boyfriend wants you back but is keeping it a secret: Head vs Heart
The most common reason behind this type of thing is usually that this person has feelings for you, but they think that getting back together with you might not be a good idea.
Perhaps the breakup was really messy, maybe you had a really tumultuous relationship, but whatever the case may be, your ex partner feels it might be best to stay away.
It’s a classic case of your heart telling you one thing, and your mind telling you another.
Generally speaking, this is the most common reasoning behind why people see the signs an ex wants them back, but their ex won’t admit it.
They don’t trust that you have changed or that things could be different between you.
They don’t want to step back into a relationship that they think isn’t going to make them happy longterm.
Does my ex want me back: Pride and Ego
Another reason why you might be seeing signs he wants you back and won’t admit it is pride.
Perhaps your ex is the one who chose to end the relationship and they don’t want to go back on their word.
People don’t like to admit that they’re wrong, especially when such intense emotions are involved.
It’s also possible that your ex told their friends and family that it was all over between you, so they don’t want to have to admit they’ve changed their mind after making such a big fiasco out of it.
And speaking of emotions, your ex boyfriend or girlfriend might not want to admit their feelings for you simply because they feel that they’ve hurt you enough.
So you might be thinking you’re seeing signs your ex wants you back, but they don’t want to stick you on an emotional roller coaster – especially if they’ve already caused you pain and suffering in the past.
Understanding the reasons when your ex wants you back but won’t tell you
These are just some of the reasons why an ex might be acting like this, so I encourage you to analyze the situation.
You know your ex partner very well, so what reasons might he or she have for hiding or not admitting their feelings for you?
The better understanding you have of your ex’s approach to this situation, the easier it will be to
find solutions.
The positive thing to keep in mind right now is that if you are sensing attraction on your ex’s part, this is good.
They’ve just got a bit of a defense mechanism at work, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t change things!
Before we dive into the “how to” section of this article, let’s take a look at some of the concrete signs he or she wants you back but won’t admit it.
The main signs your ex is hiding their feeling
There are a couple different things to keep an eye out for when you’re wondering about whether
or not an ex wants you back.
Signs they secretly want you back: Questions
When you notice that your ex has started to reach out to you a lot and ask you all kinds of questions about your personal life – i.e. what you’ve been up to, who you’ve been hanging out with, if you’ve been seeing anybody… it means that they’ve taken an interest in you.
If your ex is distant and isn’t asking you any questions or inquiring about your life in any way, they might not be that interested.
But if they are, it’s a good sign that you are on their mind and that they might even want you back.
By asking questions about what you’ve been doing, they’re able to test the waters.
Signs he wants you again when you’ve made improvements in your life
One of the patterns that we’ve noticed in all our coaching sessions is that an ex typically starts to want you back when you start feeling great about life again.
When you move on a little bit and start making sure that you’re enjoying your life, they start to realize that they may have made a mistake in letting you go.
You’ve clearly evolved and become the new and improved version of the person they fell in love with, so it comes as no surprise that they would start thinking, “Uh oh… Was it a mistake to leave him/her? Do I still have a shot at being together?”
This is about when they will start trying to get close to you again and test the waters.
Does my ex want me back: Jealousy
If you started to notice that your ex seems to be very jealous when you are talking new people, it is very possible that they still have strong feelings for you.
Sometimes people don’t realize how much they feel for someone until they see them talking to someone new, and the threat of losing them starts to feel real.
Pay attention to how your ex reacts if they see you start making new friends or even talking to members of the opposite sex.
The bigger reaction they have, the more likely it is that they “secretly” still have feelings for you.
What to do when you see signs he loves you but is scared
As I was saying above, the most effective thing you can do is to make sure that you are living a life that is inspiring and fulfilling. We want your ex to look at you and recognize that their life would be considerably better if you were in it.
By becoming the new and improved version of the person he or she fell in love with, it will be easy to make your ex doubt their decision to leave you.
Simultaneously, there is a tool called the no contact rule that can make a huge difference.
Unfortunately, a lot of people take others for granted when they feel like they’ll always be around.
The NC serves as a tool for giving your ex an electroshock because it consists of cutting all forms of communication with them for a predetermined period of time.
For more information on how to harness the power of this technique, I highly recommend reading this article on using the no contact rule.
To quickly summarize, you shock your ex by taking them off that pedestal and make them crave your attention by becoming the 2.0 version of the person that they fell in love with.
It makes you irresistible and will help to remove the doubt about a relationship with you that they’ve got in their mind right now.
If you would like one on one guidance throughout this process, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me or a member of my team by clicking here, and you can leave any questions you might have in the comments section below.
Wishing you all the best in life and love,
Your coach when you are wondering about the signs he loves you but is scared
Adrian
