I know that when you find yourself facing a breakup or if things have already fallen apart, it’s very hard to be optimistic. The easiest thing to do is to just say, “Well, it’s all over and there’s nothing I can do about it…” But I wanted to write this article to let you know that fixing a broken relationship is possible even if it seems like everything has fallen apart beyond repair.
As a love and relationship coach specialized in getting people back together, I can confidently say that anything is possible in love as long as you’re willing to do the work. Today’s article is going to explore how to undo damage on a broken relationship with a special emphasis on what to do if the breakup has already taken place. You will find preventive measures as well as tools and techniques for repairing a relationship post breakup.
Fixing a broken relationship while you’re still together
I wanted to start things off by talking a bit about the fundamental elements of relationships that keep them stable and protect them from falling apart later on down the line.
If you’ve found yourself in a situation where your relationship is teetering on the edge of separation, it is helpful to zero in on which one of these pillars needs some work.
How to fix a broken relationship by focusing on communication
The most important one is of course communication. Fixing a broken relationship is going to be contingent on proper communication. If there is zero communication or improper communication, things will only become more tense.
One of the simplest things to do right off the bat is to pay attention to the way in which you talk to your partner. Are the conversations constructive or hostile? For example, let’s say the issue is that your partner isn’t prioritizing you and you’re feeling neglected.
Are you more likely to say, “You’re always too busy for me. You never make time for me and you’ve always got something better to do,” or, “I miss spending time with you” ?
I’ve noticed a common pattern in many of my clients. We tend to use the word “you” as ammunition without even realizing it. The difference between “You never make time for me” and “I miss spending time with you” is that the second one is not an attack.
When tensions are running high, people are more sensitive to your words so always pay attention to your delivery. If something comes across as an attack, the other person will be less likely to enter into a constructive conversation.
If you have trouble expressing yourself when you’re talking to your partner, I encourage you to write it out in a letter. Express your emotions without attacking, but also propose solutions. Incidentally, the letter is one of the powerful steps to fixing a broken relationship after a breakup as well, and I encourage you to click the link to find out more about it
How to fix a broken relationship by renewing complicity
When two people are together for a long time, it becomes easy to fall into a routine. Unfortunately, it can make things feel monotonous and predictable while making a person feel neglected at the same time.
So in order to fight against this, it’s important to come up with new things to do as a couple and new things to do on your own, in your own life!
Think about activities that you would enjoy trying. Maybe a ceramics class, going for a hike, seeing a comedy show or a magic show…
It’s dangerously easy to fall into a rut, so it’s up to you to keep things feeling fresh.
As each situation is entirely unique, I encourage you to get in touch with me or a member of my team so that we can determine the best plan of action for saving your relationship.
How to fix a broken relationship and get back together
If the breakup has already taken place, you’re going to have to work on how to fix a broken relationship and trust again. When a relationship comes to an end, it’s because one or both people stopped trusting that they would be able to find happiness together.
The entire process of getting an ex back is going to depend on showing your ex that they can trust in you and this relationship’s ability to make them happy in the long run.
At the end of the day, every single person wants the same thing: Happiness. So if your partner can’t imagine themselves being happy with you, they’re not going to want to get back in a relationship with you.
This is why actions are so important. When a breakup happens, we have the tendency to try everything in our power to convince our ex to take us back, but it ends up pushing us further away from our goal.
Begging and pleading won’t fix a broken relationship. It will only make your ex want to run for the hills because they’ll feel suffocated, and incessant apologizing will just conjure up negative emotions.
The key to changing things and fixing a broken relationship is going to be to temporarily put some distance between you so that you can make a stronger comeback.
How to fix a relationship post breakup with the NC Rule
If you’re familiar with our philosophy then you have undoubtedly heard about the no contact rule. For those of you who might not be familiar with it yet, this is a tool that is used for giving your ex an electroshock and making them realize that their lives could be significantly happier if you were by their side.
It consists of cutting communication with your ex for a predetermined period of time ranging from three weeks to three months, depending on the complexities of the breakup.
During this period, you are to avoid all forms of communication with him or her, and this includes liking social media posts, “accidentally” running into them, and asking their friends about them. You are to be completely radio silent in order for this to have an impact.
As of now, your ex is probably expecting you to be pining for their attention and waiting for a chance to talk to them.
If they’ve been on a pedestal in your mind up until now, it’s going to come as a big shock when you suddenly aren’t giving them your attention anymore. Even if you weren’t at their beck and call, they’ll notice when you stop going out of your way to speak to them and stop giving them your attention.
I highly recommend reading this article on the no contact rule for more in-depth information on how to use it and make your ex want you back!
Personal development when fixing broken relationships
I know that when your heart is broken and you’re feeling vulnerable, you probably want to focus your energy on convincing your ex to take you back. It’s perfectly normal.
It’s just that this doesn’t happen through words; it happens through actions.
When you’re using a tool like the NC Rule and you want your ex back, you’re going to have to make concrete changes. Fixing a broken marriage or relationship isn’t going to happen with promises, it’s going to happen when actions that prove that changes are being made.
Your ex needs to understand and come to the conclusion on their own that this breakup served a purpose and was a catalyst for positive change that revamped your relationship. They will not want to step back into the same relationship as before because you both know how that ended.
Now is the time to lay the foundation for a brand new relationship that is better than ever before. It might not feel like it right now, but breakups are often blessings in disguise that shake things up so that the pieces can fall into a better order.
That is why your radio silence needs to be accompanied by actions geared towards improving your life. You want to focus all of your energy on becoming the 2.0 version of yourself right now (not on your ex!)
We can help you do this with a plethora of videos on our youtube channel, articles on our website, audio seminars, and one on one coaching. You can also leave any questions you may have in the comments section below and it would be our pleasure to personally respond to you.
I encourage you to read this article on how to bounce back from a breakup so that you can become the new and improved you who attracts your ex back like a moth to a flame!
Wishing you all the best in life and love,
Your coach for fixing a broken relationship
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