When a person still has feelings for the person that broke up with them, and the separation is starting to put distance between them, there is a certain fear that starts to settle in. whether this fear is valid or not, I know that you’ve already experienced it.
After something as emotionally shocking as a breakup, you begin to wonder if it means that your relationship is doomed to disappear to the sands of time and if there is any hope left at all. That said, even just the simple act of phrasing it that way conditions you to live with a negative and pessimistic point of view, so you have to do quite the opposite!
So of course, it’s not that simple to figure out a plan of action when you’re in this situation because you lose your self-confidence, you start to question everything, and sometimes you even neglect yourself and put your ex on a pedestal.
If you want to get back on the horse and feel happy and fulfilled in your love life once again, you’ve got to remain positive and to avoid focusing on questions that in the end aren’t that important. And you guessed it, “is my ex going to forget about me,” is one of these very questions!
The reason is simple. If you decide to think for your ex, you’re going to determine your own future. Careful not to misinterpret what I’m saying here; I don’t mean that you should harass them.
In this article you will discover the ideal process for figuring out the best plan of action when you’re afraid of being forgotten by your ex. You’ll also see that this isn’t the only question you should be asking yourself!
Fear of being forgotten by an ex = lack of self-confidence
When you’ve just gone through a breakup, it’s important to limit its power over you. I know this is especially hard when the wound is fresh, but this is essential.
You should know that if you don’t do anything for yourself, and if you let yourself sink into depression, you’ll commit interdictions of getting back together and they’ll make matters worse. This will impede you from getting close to your ex again so it’s crucial to take immediate action and to stop feeling bad for yourself.
I’m trying to get through to you on this because a lot of people think that by showing that they’re drowning in depression, their ex will come back. This however is completely incorrect and means that you think that what you’ve seen in movies and TV shows is reality.
If you want to get your ex back and to make the odds turn in your favor, you have to show that you’re strong and that you can move forward regardless of criticism and difficulties.
I know that a lot of people fixate on this question and wonder day and night if their ex has thrown them out with the trash. It becomes an obsession and can hinder you from moving forward. The main goal when a person is faced with something like this is to conduct a proper analysis of the situation, but also to keep your head up.
Don’t ever forget this because it’s crucial and the key to succeeding in getting back your ex. By the way, don’t hesitate to leave a comment about what you think below, and I will answer you as soon as I can.
When you want to get a reaction out of your ex, you have to do it by using something positive. Sadness, depression or negativity isn’t going to make the ex in question want to get closer to you. Your main priority should be to rebuild yourself so that you can come out ahead and so that the odds will be in your favor.
You have to fight off those moments of uncertainty, and to be resilient when faced with criticism. We’ve written an eBook that can help you to rebuild your self-confidence and stay focused on the goal without letting your emotions control you. It will help you move forward after a breakup and you can find it by clicking here.
Is my ex going to forget about me or do I still have a chance?
One of the most common question I hear as a coach on getting your ex back has to be, “Is my ex going to forget about me?” Before we go any further, I want to share this video with you so that you know what to expect!
It makes total sense that you would wonder after a breakup if your ex is going to move on to something else or if you still have a chance to be together. Nevertheless it’s important to understand that you have to go much further and not only focus on what your ex is thinking.
You have to take action so that you may find a viable solution and so that you may find answers to your questions, and all of this depends on you. When you’re faced with such a painful ordeal, the goal is to have no regrets, because there’s nothing worse than living your life in regret.
What I’m trying to say is that you are the one that can bring about the change you want!
Truth be told, your ex is just as unsure about this breakup as you are, even if the decision had been theirs. You can absolutely reverse the situation but in order to do so you’ll have to make a valiant effort and change your habits and attitude.
The very first step is to begin asking yourself different, and more important questions, and you’ll jump start your motivation!
So for example, instead of saying is my ex going to forget me, ask yourself something more along the lines of, “How am I going to get a second chance?”
Even though these are perfectly normal questions, especially when your ex is sending you negative signs (because they seem distant and you’re having trouble seeing solutions,) you have to do some psychological work so that you can put the odds in your favor.
When you find yourself in this situation, you shouldn’t focus on what your partner will think; you have to set certain actions into motion and not just bend to your ex’s every will. Of course the goal is to get back together and to make your ex want you back, but that doesn’t mean that you should let yourself be walked all over.
I know that most of you are dealing with someone that doesn’t want to give you a second chance, someone who maybe already told you to give up, but your presence on this site shows that that’s not what you want. So don’t let it stop you! Do it for you, not for your ex!
It’s important to ask yourself the right questions and the one you’re wondering currently, “Is my ex going to forget about me,” isn’t one of them because you’re not focusing on your actions; you’re stuck on the past and the desires of the person you love. Use this energy in a different way.
I have to be honest with you… If you don’t do anything, there’s a good chance that your ex will actually move on and not give your relationship a second chance. It’s essential to rebuild yourself instead of waiting around. You want to be able to give your ex a brand new image of yourself – and I don’t mean just physically.
This is the key to not being put out of your ex’s mind from one day to the next.
What should I do to make sure my ex doesn’t forget about me?
Let’s cut to the chase here and step out of the theoretical portion of this article.
As I explained above, it’s important to make the right choices if you want to move forward. In order to remain in your ex’s thoughts, it’s crucial to discuss things with tact while properly understanding their needs and expectations.
Change is going to be essential because pretty much automatically and instantly, your ex will conceive an entirely new image of you. A simple example: if you haven’t really taken care of yourself in years and suddenly they see you with a new haircut, or if you post pictures of you at the gym, within seconds you will surprise your ex and make them understand that you are no longer the same person since the breakup.
You can’t try to get your ex back by being too dependent, or by begging for them to come back because this could be a huge mistake that will make you lose precious time. Instead of wondering whether or not your ex will turn the page, you have to turn your focus to other emotions so that you can make your ex want you back.
To do you, I suggest you make a list of what was working in your relationship, a list of things that your ex wasn’t happy with, and to think about what things need work and will get a positive reaction. The ensemble of these elements are the key to ensuring a solid place in your ex’s mind for you!
Your coach when you’re wondering, “is my ex going to forget about me?”
Sincerely,
Adrian
21 Responses
Hi. I was just wondering what methods to use to tell an ex that you’ve made positive changes to your life?
Hey, its been 2 month without contact. I sent him a letter 2days ago but i fear that he is happy without me and moving on. He doesnt seem to care.
Hi Juno,
I know how painful that stressed you may be right now. Hang in there. Wait for the response. If you don’t receive one within 2 weeks, please book a session with Coach Adrian or myself so we can discuss how to best move forward.
We can help you.
Best,
Coach N.
My ex contacted me 4 days at a stretch during no contact. I either kept my replies short or I ignored all together. Now I’m afraid that he is angry and will not contact me again. Shall I break the no contact? We were in a realtionship for 4 months and our break up happened 3 months ago.
Hi Manaal,
Thanks for reaching out.
I can’t help you in this way because I work a bit differently than most coaches. I like to understand all the intricacies of a given situation before providing insights and to make sure I provide you with the most appropriate way forward based on your current circumstances.
I invite you to book a 1 hour coaching session with me, so I an assess.
Wishing you the very best,
Coach N
By not keeping in touch wont it make him lose focus on me or move on, keeping in mind that this is our 2nd real break up could it be really over this time? And how do i win him back with out being needy or pushy. How do i make him see that am still that lady he wanted merry. How do I make him to open up?
My ex girlfriend of 4 years left stating she wasn’t happy. Came as a shock.. I begged and then realized that wasn’t right.. I have completely change my life on my own and still kept in contact for the next 3 months. We talked about everyday on the phone went to breakfast and had a couple of dates and things were great.. I found out she was talking to someone else and flipped out.. she said he wasn’t important and thinks we shouldn’t talk for a while at this point I don’t kno what to do
I don’t know what I have to do with my ex
On April he broke up with me for two reasons because he knew that I tested him b4 awhile ago i made a fake account and i was acting like a different girl and he went through this account from first day but he changed his mind second day then he went back and wanted to leave me that was on December last year after that on April one mutual friend told him that girl was me so he said completely done it’s mean he’s over with me after two weeks of break up my friend tried to make me back with him and we back and he said we can be friends so I couldn’t tbh be friends with him so I deleted him after one month I added him again and i was acting different girl and i was talking with his friend and his friend told me he broke up with you because you were controlling him then I showed his friend proofs I wasn’t controlling him and I showed him messages when my ex bf tried to make me back with him again so his friend made a group chat and my ex was insulted me so bad like I spread something private I told him he’s your close friend I didn’t spread private he said it’s private because it’s sent between me and you then he said ” why you bothered us why you added me and my friend, we are over, you don’t know how to move on ? ” And I think no chance for me and him back again 🙁
Hello coach natalie & coach adrian, i i deperately need your help. I am Sheila and I’ve been with my sort of ex. Oliver for 9 years. We had
rough times for. We work and live together. That’s why i think the spark of our relationship faded. He cheated on me once with a friend/co worker then we got back together. I became so paranoid.jealous.insecure, i think all the red flags that a woman have in a relationship. I have forgiven him but i think i never got over with what he did for mw before.it was a hard 1 year for me. 2013 was a hell for me.Seeing him and that woman at work. I confided with our common friends.they comforted me and it really got worst. There were gossips especially about them whenever at work etc. Everytime they will tell me i will get mad and freak out. To make the long story short they split. They were never together accdg. to him because i caught them cheating thru text.i never believed him. Then after a year the other woman moved on so fast since we got back together then eventually she dated online ending up marrying that guy. Now she’s happily married and she said sorry to me and we became friends and so on and so forth.By the way during that course we still lived in a same flat until now.2015 his father died whom was so close to him. He was angry and we never had the same relationship after that. He ignored me.he keeps on pulling away. He doesnt even care about me. He doesnt like my friends and says that he’s not yet done with them since they made his stay at work worst during the period when he cheated on me. Again since i was so insecure he thinks im too controlling thats why hes telling me that he is not going to tolerate all my drama etc. I get so jealous with the attention he’s giving to his friends.i know we lack communication he doesnt want to talk either because he thinka im just making a drama. He keeps on comparing me with his girl pals. Worst thing is one of his girl pal likes him a lot and i think she’s flirting with him. I get jealous because he seems so happy with them while so sour at me. Just this july we had a big fight and i freaked out again. He thinks im his enemy now. He ignores me especially at work. I think one of the cause is he’s flirting with our colleague. Who doesnt even bother even if she knows he is my bf. He doesnt even talk to me or even texts me. I made him my world. Thats why i dont have lots of friends. Now my world is crumbling since i dont know how to start again. And the fear that im going to lose him to that girl who is 5 years younger than me, smart. Always positive and happy. I really dont know what to do. I fear that i cant get him back anymore. I do believe that he is for me. But i really dont know what to do. Can i still salvage this relationship? Im just in despair now. I begged and pleaded. Ive read so many books on how to get my exback but nothing seems to work. Then i saw your channel in youtube then it gave me some hope. Please help me. What should i do.? Should i move on and give him up to another girl. Thankyou so much.
Hi Sheila,
Thank you for reaching out and I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I know how painful it is, especially when he’s pulling away. I invite you to schedule a session with me, so we can develop a plan that can turn this around. Im confident you can. Please visit this link if you’d like to connect: http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
Wishing you the very best,
Coach N
I just broke up with mine in august because a girl he used to mess with inbox me out of nowhere that he was harassing her. so embarrassing and yet before anything further happens i dumped him being that he cheated on me before with that same girl. i even told him during our relationship not to contact her and if she does let me know in which he always did. then he stopped. she kept making fake pages to contact him thats when i realized the girl has no loyalty to me so i did not try to threaten or fight her to get answers. however he did leave her blocked on social media yet she was always finding a way to contact him. so when i started seeing him flirt with her after such a traumatic experience she had i decided not to waste any of my time anymore. since he want her so bad again he can have her and her baggage. im still kind of hurt about it because i thought she was history and the love for me was there. also the thing is that she said they were never a couple just sex being that she had her own man who is her baby father today. so why keep chasing mine? and then mine kept entertaining her probably based off the fact he just miss the physical part when i was not giving him any. I do miss him because i want him to miss me not to let me go and chase me. he tried i just wasn’t having it. By all means i wont stalk him even tho i desperately would like to lol but moving on has not been easy but i think im better off. No more looking over my shoulders and worrying about trust until further notice with the next new man. but the damage is done and the trust is gone. i just wish he was better to me and that girl would have left us alone in the first place even though its his fault too. Who should i be more upset with? Seems like the only they both would have stopped is if threats were made smh
Hi BCF,
In my opinion, she doesn’t owe anything to you – but he does. He wasn’t honoring your relationship. I respect you for walking away. I think you may have dodged a bullet here.
Best,
Nat
Hello Cynthia,
Thank you for your comment. He may have felt as though he was being taken for granted during his recovery. Without knowing the full context of the relationship its hard for me to give you advice. I do think you should give him some space till he reaches out to you again and be positive and mindful of why this happened. I invite you to a private coaching session to really talk about the belly of the relationship to see where you would have to go from here. https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
Best,
WMEA Team
Long distance breakup , she cheated on me then went on being with that person and dumped me . I think I’m recovering just fine but I still miss her very much
Hello Jamie,
Hang in there! I know it can be tough but we have no doubt you will pull through this. Let us know if you need any support and feel free to stop by our site and explore if you ever need a boost of motivation.
Best,
WMEA Team
How Can I book a session ?
Disqus 于2017年12月16日 周六23:05写道:
Hello Jamie,
Here is the link to book a session. https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
Looking forward to speaking with you soon!
Best,
WMEA Team
https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
We will assist you and help you get to a resolution and goal.
Hello Andy,
Thank you for your comment. At this moment I would give her space. Initiate no contact for 4-6 weeks and also do new things that will catch her attention. Reflect on the breakup and figure out why it happened. We can assist you with getting to your goal as we speak about the context of the relationship through a coaching session. Here are two links that will help. https://www.withmyexagain.com/audio-ressources/
https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
Best,
WMEA Team