You can barely believe your eyes… You and the person you love have broken up and you’ve learned that they’re already with someone new. How could this be possible? Could they really move on that quickly after everything you’ve shared?
Breaking up with someone you love is one of the most painful thing a person can go through… Unfortunately for you, that pain has been amplified because you see that your ex started going out with someone else.
Immediately you begin to wonder, “Is my ex in a relationship? Is my ex over me? Is there anything I can do to get them back? Is it too late…”
In this article I will share some signs to look out for if you’re wondering whether or not your ex’s new relationship is actually serious, and what to do if you’re hoping to get back together. I will also reveal some of the secrets that I highlight in my Audio Seminar How To Get Back With An Ex After A Short Term Relationship, to make sure that you realize that it is still possible for you to turn things around!
It may be a lot to digest for you, I know, but if you can keep your emotions at bay and switch your focus to some other, very important things, you can regain control of the situation.
What exactly is a rebound relationship?
Many people wonder about rebound relationship psychology because it seems so odd to be able to go from one relationship to another one so quickly. The truth is that there are a lot of things at play here. The point of a rebound relationship is to fill the void that is left after a breakup. When you date someone, you have a sense of security, familiarity and intimacy, and it’s hard to deal with the lack of those feelings when a break up takes place. Some people make up for it by jumping into a relationship with another person right away.
It’s hard to see the bright side if your ex is in a rebound relationship because you’re hurt and confused, but remember, it means that they’re experiencing a lot of emotions right now. Why is this a good thing? Well, because the opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference. The fact that your ex is going out of their way to dive headfirst into another relationship could mean that they’re going to desperate measures to get over you. This happens more often than people realize and if you want your ex back, you’re actually in luck. More on that later… 😉
How long do rebound relationships last?
Rebound relationships, generally speaking, are not serious. They’re ‘emotional Band-Aids,’ if you will. In most cases, the rebound relationship doesn’t last very long at all, perhaps a few months at most. They last until a person gets it out of their system and can start actually dealing with healing from the breakup!
A lot of people hide from the pain of losing an ex by trying to replace them with another person. The chances of you finding the ideal mate within such a short span of time is pretty unlikely, so in most situations a rebound relationship is short lived.
If you’re wondering “Is he or is she on the rebound,” don’t panic because even if they are, chances are it won’t last. By the way, if you’re wondering how to attract your ex back from the arms of another, check this article out right away : How to talk to an ex!
Can a rebound relationship work?
Each situation is unique of course, so I can’t tell you whether or not the rebound relationship will actually turn into something serious. Given the circumstances, chances are that no, it will not develop into something long-term.
Even if it does become serious, don’t panic! There are all kinds of techniques to make your ex want you back, and I will go more into detail on those in the second portion of this article!
As I just wrote, the definition of a rebound relationship is something that one uses to mask the pain of a breakup. It’s not the search of one’s soul mate. One’s rebound partner is just that: It’s someone who helps you bounce back and move forward. This does not mean that if your partner has a rebound that all hope is lost. All it means is that your ex is in pain from the breakup and is looking for a quick fix. If your ex partner didn’t feel anything at all after the breakup, it would be a lot harder to get them back (if that’s what you’re hoping to do!)
Alex in the UK reached out to me toward the end of last year after his ex had broken up with him and started dating someone else. He was petrified about whether or not they’d become serious, and this made him question who he was as person and how he viewed himself as a partner.
During the course of this article, I’m going to refer back to Alex, and let him serve as an example to remind you that you are NOT alone in what you’re feeling and whatever concerns are currently on your mind.
Is my ex in a rebound relationship? Look for the signs:
Without further ado, let’s look at some of the signs of rebound relationships. If you want to get back together with your ex, you’ll have to be able to identify what you’re dealing with and what you’re up against.
Don’t worry, I’ll tell you what to do about it, but first let’s pinpoint what we’re looking at.
Rebound relationship sign 1
If you’re wondering is my ex in a rebound relationship, one of the biggest indicators of it is if they started dating someone really fast after the breakup. If you two have only broken up a couple weeks ago and they’re already dating someone new, chances are it’s nothing serious and they’re just “on the rebound.”
No one really moves on that quickly after a break up and you can bet your hat your ex still feels something for you (even if the relationship ended badly!)
Is he in a rebound relationship? Sign 2
How long has your ex been dating The Rebound? It’s hard to tell at the beginning of a relationship whether or not it’s a rebound, but as a general rule the longer it lasts, the less likely it is to be a rebound relationship.
If you just broke up and your ex is already dating someone, it’s probably a rebound, but pay attention to how long it lasts to get a better idea. Sometimes they just need to go out with someone for a bit to feel better. Maybe it’s to get over you, maybe it’s to feel like they’ve still got it…
Is my ex girlfriend in a rebound relationship? Sign 3
Another way to gauge whether or not your ex is in a rebound relationship is by taking a look at the actual person they’re dating. Do they happen to be your polar opposite? Sometimes an ex tries to overcompensate for the pain they’re feeling by finding someone that is nothing like you. They figure that the best way to get over you would be to go out with your complete opposite.
They could also be thinking that if the relationship didn’t work with you, then it would surely work with someone that has nothing in common with you. Either way, they’re using this person to get over you and that would mean the relationship is a rebound.
In Alex’s case, his ex’s new boyfriend was incredible opposite from him, but they had been dating for over 4 months, and so Alex was very scared that he’d lost her forever. 4 months is certainly longer than what someone would hope, but instead of watching the time go by, Alex got to work and started really focusing on himself.
Is my ex in rebound relationship? Sign 4
Take a look at your ex’s behavior towards you. If they’re blatantly shoving it in your face or posting all over Facebook about it, such showmanship could be an indicator that it’s just a Band-Aid. If it were serious your ex probably wouldn’t feel the need to wave it around in everyone’s face…
On the other hand, if your ex is trying to hide it from you, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s serious. If you had acted out during the breakup, your ex might be trying to keep this new relationship secret from you in order to avoid any drama.
My ex is in a relationship but I think it might be serious…
To help you to really see what’s going on in your specific situation, I wanted to incorporate some signs that your ex’s new relationship actually be something serious. Not to worry though… Even if you recognize some of the indicators below, it doesn’t mean that you can’t get your ex back! As always, we are here to help so don’t hesitate to leave me a comment below or directly get in touch with us here!
Ex in a new relationship: Serious sign 1
As I mentioned above, the sooner an ex gets into a new relationship after a breakup, the more likely it is that it’s a rebound relationship. That said, if you and your ex have been separated for a while now and they’ve started to date someone new, it might not be an ex rebound relationship.
Of course each person is unique and I can’t generalize, but if you’ve been separated for 6 months and they’ve begun seeing someone new, it could be serious. Time has passed and wounds inevitably start to heal…
My ex is in a new relationship: Serious sign 2
Similarly, if your ex is taking things slowly with this person, it might be more serious. They don’t feel the need to rush, and they don’t feel the need to make up for the lack of something. They’re not diving headfirst into the relationship, so chances are they’re not using it as a Band-Aid to make up for everything they no longer have with you.
With time those voids become less cavernous and people begin to go with the flow. That said, it still doesn’t mean that you can’t get your ex back!
My ex is seeing someone else: Serious sign 3
The most obvious sign that your ex’s new relationship is serious is if they flat out tell you that it is… And I mean if they tell you in a calm and collected manner – not during a heat of the moment fight.
If you and your ex are able to have calm conversations, and they tell you that they’re seeing someone new and it’s serious, chances are they’re telling the truth. The fact that they’re going out of their way to tell you means that they still value and respect you, and don’t want you to be hurt.
In reality, Alex’s ex was getting serious with her new partner. Just the same, I would reinforce the importance of really not giving up, because even though his ex is seeing someone, the history of their previous relationship is also hard to throw away. Alex had to give his relationship the credit it deserved! No one is easily forgotten!
My ex is in a rebound relationship… What do I do?
So now that you have a better idea of what’s happening, you can design your plan of action! As each relationship, and each breakup is different, I’m going to share with you the techniques that work best across the board. For more personalized help, get in touch with me and I can guide you each step of the way.
The rebound relationship remedy #1: The no contact rule
I’m sure you’ve heard of the no contact rule. It’s the single most effective way to attract an ex back to you. Why? Simply because it makes them fear losing you forever. Tensions and emotions are running high after a breakup so it’s not uncommon for an ex to instantly seek comfort in the arms of someone else. But when the smoke clears and they realize that you might actually be gone for good, they can return to you in a heartbeat.
Depending on how messy your relationship and breakup were, you are to cut contact with your ex for a period of at least 3 weeks. They will of course reach out to you when they realize they have no news from you, but in most cases you have to fight the urge to reply. If you give your ex the satisfaction of being so readily available to them even while they’re in a rebounding relationship, you’ll make it easy for them to take you for granted. They’ll have no reason to fear losing you.
Be very carful however the no contact rule should not always be applied to all rebound relationships. It is sometimes better to actually stay in touch with an ex in order to ensure that you have a communication platform to showcase that you’ve changed. In that way you will also become a threat to their new relationship and the new boyfriend or girlfriend could become insecure and push your ex right back into your arms!
For more information on this potent technique and how to get back in touch with your ex after having used it, read this article right away on him to apply the no contact!
What should I do if my ex ignores my no contact while rebounding with someone else ? Remedy #2 !
The no contact is a very powerful technique to get back with an ex but you should never apply it without thinking for yourself; does it make sense based on what you are going through and can it be applied to your current circumstances. Realize that in certain situations the radio silence will not have the desired effect and can even make things worse so it cannot always be applied.
For instance, if you are noticing that your rapport with your ex is getting worse; if your ex is no longer looking to get in touch and stops checking in all together you should re-think your strategy right away. When your ex is in a rebound relationship, you can use no contact to make your ex feel guilty about their decisions and actions. So if the intended results are not met after a few weeks, don’t hesitate to drop the no contact.
In some cases, it is actually best to maintain contact with an ex through-out, especially if you feel like your ex is not in a rebound relationship and that their relationship is looking more and more serious. In these types of situations your presence will most likely become a problem for their new boyfriend or girlfriend, and will create tensions in their new relationship.
So remember that in some cases if you are completely removed your ex can start to forget about you by being fully immersed in their new relationship. So if you are unsure of what to do, and wondering if a no contact is right for you, I strongly urge you to book a coaching session in order for me to provide you with a game plan and tell you what is the best course of action based on what you are going through.
Alex would casually reach out to his ex after the designated no contact period. It (without being aggressive) put strain on the new relationship. Throughout his efforts, he would showcase how he’s changed over the course of their time apart. His ex started to give him much more attention. In the end, they did end up getting back together. However, not without a lot of time and strategy.
Relationship Rebound Remedy #3 !
While you’re using the no contact rule, it’s crucial that you switch your focus to yourself. Right now, you’ve got to focus on healing and growing from the relationship, and that includes multiple elements.
What’s much more important than wondering “Is my ex in a rebound relationship? is actually improving yourself. It must be done first and foremost for yourself, and your ex will undoubtedly notice. Basically what I am saying is that you’ve got to accept and understand the breakup, and then become a better version of yourself in order to ensure that if and when you get your ex back, history won’t repeat itself.
When you understand what went wrong in the relationship, you’re able to pinpoint the proper solutions that need to be implemented if you and you ex get back together. There is a reason behind every breakup, and if you two get back together, it’s going to have to be a new and improved relationship!
By improving yourself, you kill two birds with one stone. You make your life better and more fulfilling, and you jog your ex’s memory of the person they fell in love with at the beginning of your relationship. If you become a new and improved version of that person, you’ll be irresistible! You know that chemistry exists between you and your ex; otherwise you wouldn’t have started dating in the first place.
To summarize, whether your ex is in a rebound relationship or not, if you want to get them back you’ll have to focus on improving your own life. You can’t lay around on the couch allowing yourself to become depressed, imagining your ex with someone else! Go out and grab life by the horns, spend time with your friends and family, move forward at work, pick up old hobbies, and make your life the way you want it to be! This is exactly how you catch your ex’s eye and make them realize, wow… I was a fool for leaving…
They’ll reach out to you and little by little, you’ll start rekindling the flame between you! But if you decide to forget this relationship your can read this : how to quickly rebound from an emotionally abusive relationship!
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