Is my ex in a rebound relationship? 7 signs to know & react

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Is my ex in a rebound relationshipYou can barely believe your eyes… You and the person you love have broken up and you’ve learned that they’re already with someone new. How could this be possible? Could they really move on that quickly after everything you’ve shared?

Breaking up with someone you love is one of the most painful thing a person can go through… Unfortunately for you, that pain has been amplified because you see that your ex started going out with someone else.

Immediately you begin to wonder, “Is my ex in a relationship? Is my ex over me? Is there anything I can do to get them back? Is it too late…”

In this article I will share some signs to look out for if you’re wondering whether or not your ex’s new relationship is actually serious, and what to do if you’re hoping to get back together. I will also reveal some of the secrets that I highlight in my Audio Seminar How To Get Back With An Ex After A Short Term Relationship, to make sure that you realize that it is still possible for you to turn things around!

It may be a lot to digest for you, I know, but if you can keep your emotions at bay and switch your focus to some other, very important things, you can regain control of the situation.

What exactly is a rebound relationship?

Many people wonder about rebound relationship psychology because it seems so odd to be able to go from one relationship to another one so quickly. The truth is that there are a lot of things at play here. The point of a rebound relationship is to fill the void that is left after a breakup. When you date someone, you have a sense of security, familiarity and intimacy, and it’s hard to deal with the lack of those feelings when a break up takes place. Some people make up for it by jumping into a relationship with another person right away.

It’s hard to see the bright side if your ex is in a rebound relationship because you’re hurt and confused, but remember, it means that they’re experiencing a lot of emotions right now. Why is this a good thing? Well, because the opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference. The fact that your ex is going out of their way to dive headfirst into another relationship could mean that they’re going to desperate measures to get over you. This happens more often than people realize and if you want your ex back, you’re actually in luck. More on that later… 😉

How long do rebound relationships last?

Rebound relationships, generally speaking, are not serious. They’re ‘emotional Band-Aids,’ if you will. In most cases, the rebound relationship doesn’t last very long at all, perhaps a few months at most. They last until a person gets it out of their system and can start actually dealing with healing from the breakup!

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A lot of people hide from the pain of losing an ex by trying to replace them with another person. The chances of you finding the ideal mate within such a short span of time is pretty unlikely, so in most situations a rebound relationship is short lived.

If you’re wondering “Is he or is she on the rebound,” don’t panic because even if they are, chances are it won’t last. By the way, if you’re wondering how to attract your ex back from the arms of another, check this article out right away : How to talk to an ex!

Can a rebound relationship work?

Each situation is unique of course, so I can’t tell you whether or not the rebound relationship will actually turn into something serious. Given the circumstances, chances are that no, it will not develop into something long-term.

Even if it does become serious, don’t panic! There are all kinds of techniques to make your ex want you back, and I will go more into detail on those in the second portion of this article!

As I just wrote, the definition of a rebound relationship is something that one uses to mask the pain of a breakup. It’s not the search of one’s soul mate. One’s rebound partner is just that: It’s someone who helps you bounce back and move forward. This does not mean that if your partner has a rebound that all hope is lost. All it means is that your ex is in pain from the breakup and is looking for a quick fix. If your ex partner didn’t feel anything at all after the breakup, it would be a lot harder to get them back (if that’s what you’re hoping to do!)

Alex in the UK reached out to me toward the end of last year after his ex had broken up with him and started dating someone else. He was petrified about whether or not they’d become serious, and this made him question who he was as person and how he viewed himself as a partner.

During the course of this article, I’m going to refer back to Alex, and let him serve as an example to remind you that you are NOT alone in what you’re feeling and whatever concerns are currently on your mind.

Is my ex in a rebound relationship? Look for the signs:

Without further ado, let’s look at some of the signs of rebound relationships. If you want to get back together with your ex, you’ll have to be able to identify what you’re dealing with and what you’re up against.

Don’t worry, I’ll tell you what to do about it, but first let’s pinpoint what we’re looking at.

Rebound relationship sign 1

If you’re wondering is my ex in a rebound relationship, one of the biggest indicators of it is if they started dating someone really fast after the breakup. If you two have only broken up a couple weeks ago and they’re already dating someone new, chances are it’s nothing serious and they’re just “on the rebound.”

No one really moves on that quickly after a break up and you can bet your hat your ex still feels something for you (even if the relationship ended badly!)

Is he in a rebound relationship? Sign 2

How long has your ex been dating The Rebound? It’s hard to tell at the beginning of a relationship whether or not it’s a rebound, but as a general rule the longer it lasts, the less likely it is to be a rebound relationship.ex girlfriend rebound relationship

If you just broke up and your ex is already dating someone, it’s probably a rebound, but pay attention to how long it lasts to get a better idea. Sometimes they just need to go out with someone for a bit to feel better. Maybe it’s to get over you, maybe it’s to feel like they’ve still got it…

Is my ex girlfriend in a rebound relationship? Sign 3

Another way to gauge whether or not your ex is in a rebound relationship is by taking a look at the actual person they’re dating. Do they happen to be your polar opposite? Sometimes an ex tries to overcompensate for the pain they’re feeling by finding someone that is nothing like you. They figure that the best way to get over you would be to go out with your complete opposite.

They could also be thinking that if the relationship didn’t work with you, then it would surely work with someone that has nothing in common with you. Either way, they’re using this person to get over you and that would mean the relationship is a rebound.

In Alex’s case, his ex’s new boyfriend was incredible opposite from him, but they had been dating for over 4 months, and so Alex was very scared that he’d lost her forever. 4 months is certainly longer than what someone would hope, but instead of watching the time go by, Alex got to work and started really focusing on himself.

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Is my ex in rebound relationship? Sign 4

Take a look at your ex’s behavior towards you. If they’re blatantly shoving it in your face or posting all over Facebook about it, such showmanship could be an indicator that it’s just a Band-Aid. If it were serious your ex probably wouldn’t feel the need to wave it around in everyone’s face…

On the other hand, if your ex is trying to hide it from you, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s serious. If you had acted out during the breakup, your ex might be trying to keep this new relationship secret from you in order to avoid any drama.

My ex is in a relationship but I think it might be serious…

To help you to really see what’s going on in your specific situation, I wanted to incorporate some signs that your ex’s new relationship actually be something serious. Not to worry though… Even if you recognize some of the indicators below, it doesn’t mean that you can’t get your ex back! As always, we are here to help so don’t hesitate to leave me a comment below or directly get in touch with us here!

Ex in a new relationship: Serious sign 1

As I mentioned above, the sooner an ex gets into a new relationship after a breakup, the more likely it is that it’s a rebound relationship. That said, if you and your ex have been separated for a while now and they’ve started to date someone new, it might not be an ex rebound relationship.

Of course each person is unique and I can’t generalize, but if you’ve been separated for 6 months and they’ve begun seeing someone new, it could be serious. Time has passed and wounds inevitably start to heal…

My ex is in a new relationship: Serious sign 2

Similarly, if your ex is taking things slowly with this person, it might be more serious. They don’t feel the need to rush, and they don’t feel the need to make up for the lack of something. They’re not diving headfirst into the relationship, so chances are they’re not using it as a Band-Aid to make up for everything they no longer have with you.

With time those voids become less cavernous and people begin to go with the flow. That said, it still doesn’t mean that you can’t get your ex back!

My ex is seeing someone else: Serious sign 3

The most obvious sign that your ex’s new relationship is serious is if they flat out tell you that it is… And I mean if they tell you in a calm and collected manner – not during a heat of the moment fight.

If you and your ex are able to have calm conversations, and they tell you that they’re seeing someone new and it’s serious, chances are they’re telling the truth. The fact that they’re going out of their way to tell you means that they still value and respect you, and don’t want you to be hurt.

In reality, Alex’s ex was getting serious with her new partner. Just the same, I would reinforce the importance of really not giving up, because even though his ex is seeing someone, the history of their previous relationship is also hard to throw away. Alex had to give his relationship the credit it deserved! No one is easily forgotten!

My ex is in a rebound relationship… What do I do?

So now that you have a better idea of what’s happening, you can design your plan of action! As each relationship, and each breakup is different, I’m going to share with you the techniques that work best across the board. For more personalized help, get in touch with me and I can guide you each step of the way.

The rebound relationship remedy #1: The no contact rule

I’m sure you’ve heard of the no contact rule. It’s the single most effective way to attract an ex back to you. Why? Simply because it makes them fear losing you forever. Tensions and emotions are running high after a breakup so it’s not uncommon for an ex to instantly seek comfort in the arms of someone else. But when the smoke clears and they realize that you might actually be gone for good, they can return to you in a heartbeat.

Depending on how messy your relationship and breakup were, you are to cut contact with your ex for a period of at least 3 weeks. They will of course reach out to you when they realize they have no news from you, but in most cases you have to fight the urge to reply. If you give your ex the satisfaction of being so readily available to them even while they’re in a rebounding relationship, you’ll make it easy for them to take you for granted. They’ll have no reason to fear losing you.

Be very carful however the no contact rule should not always be applied to all rebound relationships. It is sometimes better to actually stay in touch with an ex in order to ensure that you have a communication platform to showcase that you’ve changed. In that way you will also become a threat to their new relationship and the new boyfriend or girlfriend could become insecure and push your ex right back into your arms!

For more information on this potent technique and how to get back in touch with your ex after having used it, read this article right away on him to apply the no contact!

What should I do if my ex ignores my no contact while rebounding with someone else ? Remedy #2 !

The no contact is a very powerful technique to get back with an ex but you should never apply it without thinking for yourself; does it make sense based on what you are going through and can it be applied to your current circumstances. Realize that in certain situations the radio silence will not have the desired effect and can even make things worse so it cannot always be applied.

For instance, if you are noticing that your rapport with your ex is getting worse; if your ex is no longer looking to get in touch and stops checking in all together you should re-think your strategy right away. When your ex is in a rebound relationship, you can use no contact to make your ex feel guilty about their decisions and actions. So if the intended results are not met after a few weeks, don’t hesitate to drop the no contact.

In some cases, it is actually best to maintain contact with an ex through-out, especially if you feel like your ex is not in a rebound relationship and that their relationship is looking more and more serious. In these types of situations your presence will most likely become a problem for their new boyfriend or girlfriend, and will create tensions in their new relationship.

So remember that in some cases if you are completely removed your ex can start to forget about you by being fully immersed in their new relationship. So if you are unsure of what to do, and wondering if a no contact is right for you, I strongly urge you to book a coaching session in order for me to provide you with a game plan and tell you what is the best course of action based on what you are going through.

Alex would casually reach out to his ex after the designated no contact period. It (without being aggressive) put strain on the new relationship. Throughout his efforts, he would showcase how he’s changed over the course of their time apart. His ex started to give him much more attention. In the end, they did end up getting back together. However, not without a lot of time and strategy.

Relationship Rebound Remedy #3 !

While you’re using the no contact rule, it’s crucial that you switch your focus to yourself. Right now, you’ve got to focus on healing and growing from the relationship, and that includes multiple elements.

What’s much more important than wondering “Is my ex in a rebound relationship? is actually improving yourself. It must be done first and foremost for yourself, and your ex will undoubtedly notice. Basically what I am saying is that you’ve got to accept and understand the breakup, and then become a better version of yourself in order to ensure that if and when you get your ex back, history won’t repeat itself.

When you understand what went wrong in the relationship, you’re able to pinpoint the proper solutions that need to be implemented if you and you ex get back together. There is a reason behind every breakup, and if you two get back together, it’s going to have to be a new and improved relationship!

By improving yourself, you kill two birds with one stone. You make your life better and more fulfilling, and you jog your ex’s memory of the person they fell in love with at the beginning of your relationship. If you become a new and improved version of that person, you’ll be irresistible! You know that chemistry exists between you and your ex; otherwise you wouldn’t have started dating in the first place.

To summarize, whether your ex is in a rebound relationship or not, if you want to get them back you’ll have to focus on improving your own life. You can’t lay around on the couch allowing yourself to become depressed, imagining your ex with someone else! Go out and grab life by the horns, spend time with your friends and family, move forward at work, pick up old hobbies, and make your life the way you want it to be! This is exactly how you catch your ex’s eye and make them realize, wow… I was a fool for leaving…

They’ll reach out to you and little by little, you’ll start rekindling the flame between you! But if you decide to forget this relationship your can read this : how to quickly rebound from an emotionally abusive relationship!


Your relationship expert when you’re wondering is my ex in a rebound relationship,

Coach Adrian

109 Responses

  1. I don’t know how old this article is…anyway, it’s really hard to tell if he’s in a rebound relationship or not. Thing is our relationship was VERY short, but very intense. To be more specific, it was a little over 2 months. I know, nothing too serious…but I feel it was enough do develop some very strong emotions. We were on a long distance relationship and we both made major efforts to see each other…and each time it was more and more beautiful and our communication intensified, he was making future plans he said…and all his plans include me…he said. However, he got the MAN FLU waaay too early in our relationship 🙂
    He was extremely vulnerable and was complaining all the time…I listened, I cared…however, we had a long weekend trip planned with 2 friends and we were supposed to leave day after my bday. On my day, he was “bitching” all the time. I asked him 5 times that I really need him NOT to bombard me with his “poor me” msgs. And he was hinting that he wasn’t gonna go on the trip. I offered to drive 5h to where he is to pick him up and then drive 4h to our destination, he said no. I offered to drop the trip and I come to his town and we spend the weekend there, he said no. Nothing worked, I started getting angry. With more “poor me” msgs, I said do whatever you want, come or don’t come…he bombarded me with more msgs that he needs me to help him figure out what to do…at that point I ignored him, and said I have ppl over and I’m celebrating my bday…please stop. He got so disappointed and angry that the next day he just sent a text “I’m not going, have fun”. Mind you that the whole trip was his idea. Anyway, next day passed, we went (me and my 2 friends), he didn’t show. Day after I called him and I tried reasoning with him. I laughed at the idea of what he was furious about…that made him even more angry. And that was the end of our relationship…
    Fast forward 10 days, we talk, we end it as friends…him actually wanting to end it over a msg because it was too hard to hear my voice, but in the end did the right thing. Couple days later, I find out that he’s already seeing another girl and planning to celebrate New Years Eve with her. Turns out, at the beginning of our relationship, he showed me her profile on FB saying that he always liked this girl and that she was cool etc. And now turns out he’s seeing her and planning things a month ahead. Was I stepping stone here? Is this a rebound or is it something real?

    1. Hi Helena,
      Thank you for sharing your story. “Is my ex in a rebound relationship?” is a great question. However, I think that you deserve to look a bit more macro than that – your ex really needs constant and abundant amounts of love and attention. The moment he wasn’t feeling like it was coming from you, he went elsewhere. The issues in the relationship you had were mostly just his issues in general. I think you can use this time to identify that you may have dodged a bullet (especially if he wasn’t going to be open to changing how perspective on how to live a happy life).
      Coach N

      1. Hi Natalie,
        Thanks for your reply and I think I agree with you on the “dodging the bullet”. I’ve reanalyzed this situation again and again…and I realized, not once has he asked me a personal question and if I did start getting some of my emotions out…he seemed uninterrsted or would say something shallow like “hang in there…dont know what to say to help you”…basically not caring so I never continued whatever I was saying. So in retrospect, he is the type of person that believes he loves someone because of the way he pours out all his thoughts and all his emotions…but doesn’t realize that he leaves no room for anyone else to share the same. Hope this helps someone else too…believe me, that was a one way road…a selfish one as it was all about him and I do believe now that I dodged the bullet.

        Thanks again for getting back to me.


        1. Helena,
          I’m so happy to hear this! Way to go! I know it’s going to be tough, but you can do it. If you need any help with personal development throughout this process, I’d love to work with you.
          Coach N.

  2. Me and my ex dated for seven months, but things were great. She is a single mother and got a divorce a year earlier before we started to date. After a while she said she’s never felt the way she did about anyone. She was insecure and jealous through the whole relationship but I handled it well.
    Well a month before the break up, I started to get jealous, nothing serious though. Just small comments here and there. Well she became unhappy and broke up with me. A week after the break up she’s started to date another guy. We work together including her new guy. She’s 26 and he’s 19. Well she deleted me off of all social media. Then deleted a lot of our co-workers as well. After the break up everyone took my side on it. I never wanted anyone to do it, and she started to get upset. She thinks I was having people going up to her to get details about her life.
    I started no contact when she broke up with me. Took the time to improve myself. I’ve become happy and self confident again. I started to work out. Lost weight and started to gain muscle. It just seems like she doesn’t notice me. I don’t know how to contact her while she’s in a new relationship. Im just wandering what I should do.

  3. What do you do about a ex boyfriend you knew since childhood. We knew each other fo almost 16 years . We dated on and off through the years too. Last time we slept together was in 2015. Less then two months before he started dating his current girlfriend. Last time we had a friendly chat was in March 2016 then everything went down from there. It’s like we love to hurt eachother. I blocked him frpm messenging me on facebook. He blocked my facebook completely ( in October… i think ). Is there anyway to fix it? I have a gut feeling ( intuitive ) that we’re not done; that there will always be something between us that neither one of us wants to admit first ( yet.).. Then there’s apart of me is scared. Thinking what if it’s just a one sided desire ( from things I read). What should I do? I still want my kids from him and can’t imagine myself having sex with anyone else.

  4. I was always having these gut feelings about my cheating on me with her boss at work but i couldn’t confront her about it because i didn’t want to cause any problems where there’s none. Then my friend told me about an hacker that specializes in remote whatsapp messages access, mobile phone access , online game access , providing passwords to social network like Facebook, Instagram, twitter or anything regarding school issues, i didn’t contact him because I’ve been scammed twice by two fake hackers…At the end of the day, i contacted them and i was able to confirm the fact that she really was cheating on me with her boss at work after i was able to get access to her emails, text messages and also listen to her calls. Very big thanks to (B I R D E Y E dot H A C K at GMAIL dot COM), he’s the definition of genuine and authenticity because he did everything he promised at the stipulated time.,…!

  5. Hello! I’ve trying to win back my ex for 3 months because we broke up last November. It was a roller coaster ride emotionally. It was a hot and cold emotions everywhere. The main cause of our breakup is she got tired of trying to help me change because I was not good in house hold stuff and she became critical to me about it so she nagged me a lot but we talked about and I told her instead of criticizing me, support me and be there for me and in return, I will be the man that she wanted to be.. She agreed with me and gave me a chance but there’s another guy in the picture, it’s her best friend and he was there since then and when we had a lot of problems towards the end. He was there to catch her so she fell in love with this guy so I think she’s on the rebound but she also talks to me and went out many times plus she’s giving a lot of mixed emotions. Recently, we had a big argument that led her to block me in FB because I was showing affection to her but in the recent days, it was ok to her so she told me I don’t care anymore angrily but after two hours, we went out together because she wanted to meet my family again…Towards the evening, we talked about us, I didn’t force the issue because she asked me about my plans for the future, I told her that she’s included in the future and then she brought up, the issues that we had and she can’t be changed because whenever someone criticized her, the more she’s challenged. I was not like that that’s why she got tired but in reality, I addressed that I just don’t want to criticized like a general or nagged upon so that’s why I had problems with that..and then she told me that she is an alpha female and she hopes that the other guy is like that and etc.. I didn’t argue with her I told her that I could change for the better and i am still in the process after that, she became angry again..I felt she is still not indifferent to me and she still cares but I felt she doesn’t know how to deal with the emotions that she has plus I think she’s on the rebound .. by the way, she is in long distance rebound relatioship but according to her, the guy is coming soon ..maybe a month or two.. according to her.. I wanted to win her back and I felt I have a chance and I think I know the problems but I don’t know how to deal with it.. I wanted to get the online coaching but it’s quite expensive because I am in another country…so I hope you can advice on this..By the way, she’s a single mom and I think she wants someone that will support her..

  6. Hi John,
    Thank you for your share. You’ve posed a great question. Is my ex in a rebound relationship? Realistically, without knowing more, it’s going to be difficult for me to assess this. I invite you to book a session with me and we can make a more thorough assessment, as well as how to handle it to work in your favor.
    Coach N.

  7. Hi Niki,
    Thank you for your share. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. Let’s see the bright side here, though – if this girl is as awful as she sounds, their relationship will all on it’s own, and you’ll be the normal, chill girl he’ll remember. I encourage you to exert some patience and let this take its course.
    Coach N.

  8. So my ex ended it with me a month ago. within that time he’s gotten 3 girlfriends. him and I were kinda on and off for 6 months then he ended it by saying, “I just need a break.” …then he got a girlfriend a week later. I’m a brunette who doesn’t wear makeup and could care less about how I look. the recent girls he’s dated were all blonde and wear a ton of makeup etc. but he still resents talking to me and the only time he did was a not-so-good conversation. I started talking about this guy that liked me and my ex got so mad and sent a passive aggressive message. he asks my best friend Natalia how i’m doing and talks to Natalia about this guy named jusice who touched me inappropriately… my ex said that this made him mad and told Natalia every now and then that he’d drive past my house to see if i’m ok.
    whenever I see him he’ll look at me even if i’m not saying anything. I don’t know if he still has it for me or not (although I have a feeling something’s up). plus he never posted pictures of me and him on social media platforms. but with these new girls, he posts a few…
    I don’t know how to handle this situation. please help.

  9. After 22 years together our relationship ended mutually. I was depressed which played a part in the split. We are three weeks down the line and he has already started a new relationship,happily telling our daughter she can meet her…I exploded and told him how sad I was that he told her. I haven’t contacted him before this,so now feel stupid. I am so sad that he is able to move on so quickly,and still love him,which has really shocked me. Is there any hope.?

    1. Hi Sue,
      After a 22 year relationship, it’s safe to say your ex is in a rebound relationship. It just doesn’t add up that he’d be able to truly invest in a new person so soon. He wouldn’t be human. If you need support, I invite you to book a session with me. I’d love to help you sort this out.
      Coach N.

      1. Im ashamed I even communicated. He’s even talking to our daughter if she wants to meet the new woman. That I think hurts,because I see my 12 year old devastated that daddy isn’t the dad she thought. It’s like he’s rubbing my nose in it,and telling everyone he’s in this relationship. Telling everyone I hated his friends and would never go out with him. I’m working on myself and being as supportive as I can for our daughter,but it’s so hard. He shows me so little respect that I don’t know if I even want to try. If I’m honest,I was relieved,but I have all these emotions and I’m so unsure. Is it purely because he’s found someone else so quick? 22 years Is a lifetime….I also wonder if this is an overlap relationship,although he I have no basis on this thought.

      2. Thanks for the reply….perspective is everything. I have my suspicions he was overlapping for about a month. I could be wrong,but he has his feet firmly under her table. Saw his car parked outside her house. I’m hurt at how he is rubbing it my face. The other woman is complete opposite to me. He loves long hair,she has really short hair. I want him to think of me…he’s been telling everyone he’s in a new relationship,and placing the blame on me. I can live with that….just want some guidance on how to move forward please…my priority is out 12 year old,she is so devastated.

  10. My ex live 2k miles from me when we started dating i lost my job and she really wanted me to move out to her so i did we were togther for 1year and 7 months February this year was the worst and resulted in her leaving me she had started talking to a guy who looked like me and was just like me i asked her to not talk to him cause i knew she had feelings for him she didnt deny she did then not a week after we broke up she was dating him and acts like i meant nothing to her and we never were a thing and cant seem to understand how i dont know if i should just give up her track record with guys wasnt good her longest was 4 months befoe me and i was the obly one who lived with her and everyone was surprised i could handle her as she was very hard to handle we were engaged as well should i give up she does still contact me has admited to caring to know if im ok or not but mostly short responses and such

    1. Hi Nick,
      Thank you for your share. I know it’s tricky when trying to determine “if my ex in a rebound relationship” – at this stage I wouldn’t worry about the other man. Remember, the only reason he exists is because you two were struggling. Try allocating time toward deciphering what went wrong. If you need a hand, I’d love to help support you. I invite you to book a session with me.
      Coach N.

  11. Hi,
    I met a guy with whom I became very close (lot of trust) during 2 months. I rejected him twice. We finally became kind of fwb during a month. He decided to end things because he wanted a real girlfriend. It’s been 6 months since the breakup.
    A few days later, he told me he was in a new relationship (to make me jealous or to confide in me ? Idk) but it lasted 3 weeks. I was angry at him and did NC for about 2 months. Directly after that he found another girl and again, informed me about that.. but it didn’t work for him again. Then, we had another huge fight because of misunderstandings. So he told me to “not talk to him anymore” and unfriended me of snapchat, the only link we still had. I started NC again, it’s been about 50 days now. I still have not reply to his last texts considering he asked me to stop talking to him. I still have not apologize even if I really want to, because I was too far. I’m afraid it is too late for getting him back, I truly love him for several months now. I heard he had a new girlfriend since last week, another kind of rebound or serious one ? He posts love quotes etc on his pics, after a week.. So my two questions are : can all these girls be sort of rebounds considering he was only my fwb ? And what can I do to rebuild contact ?

    1. Hi Lucy,
      Thank you for your share and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I’d like to learn more before providing an analysis. I invite you to consider booking a session with me. I can help.
      Coach N.

      1. Hi Natalie,
        Thanks for replying, you seem to consider my situation as hopeless.. What kind of other details do you need ?
        And how can I contact you for a booking session ?

          1. Hi Natalie,
            I have no doubt that you can help me and I’d really like to have useful advices from you, considering I have anywhere else to find solutions to my situation, but unfortunately, I can’t pay as much for booking a session..
            I’d understand if you don’t want to answer to my questions by comments given that provide personal coaching sessions is your job. Thanks you anyway for your offer and help ..!

  12. My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and it has been a yeah and a half since we have broken up (November 2015). During the breakup he had been casually asking to get back together but I refused because he did not show much effort. He recently told me that up until October 2016 he was still open to us getting back together, but (maybe) due to peer pressure he moved on because his friends told him he had been wallowing for too long. The following month he has started going out with a new girl. We had open communication ever since and I even told him I wanted to get back together on February 2017. However he rejected me because he said that he did not want to seem like a player by dropping the new girl, that he did not want to hurt the new girl, and that he was in-love and happy with the new girl and that everything was going easy (although he hasnt told his family about this girl). We had been talking daily up until the last week of March 2017 because the new girl’s friend saw that he was communicating with me. So he has now stopped all forms of communication so he would not hurt the girl and so that he made it clear that he is still angry and hurting from the things I have done to him.

    My ex-boyfriend is the type of guy to take relationships seriously thats why it is hard for me to decipher whether the new girl is a rebound or not. But the way he has been acting, saying he is already in-love and that he still is very much bitter and angry at me for what happened between us shows that he has not completely moved on. I think that he is having a difficult time deciding what to do (given that he has someone who loves him but hurt him and a new girl who he has just started seeing that has potential). Maybe he is just letting his anger takeover and that he is being stubborn (he really is head-strong) by not listening to his emotional side. At one point when he was angry he told me that he will prove to me that he and the new girl will be end-game.

    Is the new girl a rebound? What should I do?

    1. Hi Gail,
      Thank you for your share. I know it is really painful when your ex is in a rebound relationship. I invite you to book a session with me. Let’s turn this thing around.
      Coach N.

  13. My ex has been with a new girl for 6 months now and at first we’d talk a couple times a month I thought for sure she was a rebound in the beginning he’d call and says she not you and things like that but now I haven’t heard a word in 3 months and they’re still together. I really miss him and want him back but idk how to do this.

    1. Hi CW,
      Thank you for your share. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation, I know how hard it can be when you’re stuck wondering “is my ex in a rebound relationship”. In order to assess this thoroughly, I invite you to book a session with me. I can help you.
      Coach N.

  14. I dated a guy for 13 months. We were always together. Towards the end of our relationship he used his other ex to come in between us. Long story short, we have been split up for almost 2yrs but just recently my ex had lunch with his brother and girlfrieniend. The girlfriend and I r good friends so she txted me saying that my ex has saidmy name 3-5 times when he was talking about his new girlfriend he also mentioned that he has ssid my name at his new GF’s house without her hearing it…….does this mean I am still on his mind?

  15. What if my ex rebound is with a previous ex.. he cheated on me 3 weeks before we broke up and hes offically with her after 3 weeks of breaking up with me… i was the longest relationship he was in 1.5 years. When he met me it had been a year since they broke up. So i know i wasnt a rebound. And she is the total opposite of me. Any opinions on this ? Will the rebound not last? I am working on myself i know what i have to do and show.

    1. Hi Stephanie, thank you for your share. I know how painful this can be. When it comes to getting your ex back and rebounds, your situation is looking pretty good. However, we’ll need to set up a clear strategy and plan of action. I invite you to consider a one on one with Adrian or myself. We can help.
      Coach N.

  16. Long story short been with my ex since 08. Since October of this year we’ve been having issues and mutually broke up bc I have been acting distant and I’ve been busy. He has told me many times he loves me but hates that he can’t see me as often and wants to spend more times with me. To fastforward I found out that he has had a gf since February. It’s crazy bc I thought we were working things out etc especially since I see him twice a week and weve been intimate. I message her on Facebook and told her etc she ended up calling me and asking questions etc. long story short he ended up blocking me on every and told me to leave him and his gf alone. Before I found out everything was fine. Currently I’m in NC. I don’t have the money for a session. So I guess as much advice as you could give would be great.

    1. Hi Magestic Artist,
      I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I know that this can be tremendously painful for you. For right now, I advice for you to take a step back from him and his gf. He likely feels very violated that you reached out to her. In time, you’ll be able to reach out and he’ll be more receptive.
      Coach N.

  17. Hi, my ex and i had been to9gether for 3 years. We both are mature adult (i’m 33 and he is 44). I broke up with him at the end of January because of the constant quarrels and unmet emotional need. Not long after, he found out that during the period, i met a guy friend whom i contacted pretty often because initially i was looking for advice from male perspective. My ex was desperate and begged me to be back with him for 3 weeks in February. He told me that he knew where he had gone wrong and willing to change. I rejected him but told him that i need time and space to think about it. I was considering to give him that chance. On the last week of February, he begged me for the last time. Few days after when i wanted to get back to him, he told me that he found someone else (a girl in vietnam from vietnam dating website) and that he did not want to get back to me anymore. I was so upset but thought that nothing much of it. We still keep in contact once in awhile thereafter but i didn’t beg him anymore. 3 weeks after, i found out that he had flown to vietnam to meet the girl. Yesterday i found out as well that he posted pictures of them on Facebook (he unfriended me but his friend told me about the pictures). I was devastated. The new girl looks alot like me! Plus knowing how well he cares about his image to be the good guy, it took a great deal of thoughts to post those photos knowing that people knew he just break up with me… is what he has a rebound? Do i have chance to get him back?

    1. Hi Mily,
      I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. It’s normal to wonder, ‘if my ex in a rebound relationship?’ when you see them with a new partner. In order to identify this, however, I would need to know more. I invite you to consider a one-on-one with me, or try viewing our product relating to rebounds here on this site. Both may be great options for you to assess your chances.
      Coach N.

  18. Hey ,
    Me and my ex were together for 11 months . And just as it was getting close to a year, he started acting funny and we would get into little fights Then, they turned real bad . The last fight was about how he couldnt come over to see me . We never really went on dates ,tbh. I would make plans and he’d agree . And when the day came , he would say that he has plans or he has work . Anyways , eventually he broke up with me . Then a few days later i learned that he cheated on me while we were together . I was so hurt . I didnt understand what i did . I called him almost everyday . I texted him. I was ,not to brag , a pretty great gf . I was faithful and loyal and honest with him . He didnt tell me that he cheated , to make it better , he confided in my friend and he asked her not to tell me . Of course , she did. When I confronted him about it, he said that he was sparing my feelings . I was so upset that i ranted to basically everyone that he cheated . i kinda did it out of spite . He said mean things about me after we broke up and he sort of in a way , asked about me after we were thru. Then he called me in January to say that he was sorry for being so mean to me . I told him that it was a long time ago and he didnt have to worry . He then asked me if my mom was home and i said no . He then asked me if i wanted to hangout and be friends with benefits . And being vulnerable at the time, i said yes. The whole time he was asking me if i liked anyone yet and i told him that i was working on myself . And yet he suggested that i was a girl and that i was easy . But , it doesnt work like that . And that he was single and lonely and that he couldnt “get some” when he is single. Then he told me that i should forget that this day ever happened. The next day , i learned that he was going to meet her parents and that him and the girl he was “just talking to ” were already kind of a thing . I was so angry. He lied to me again …. Anyways , we broke up in December and he got in a new relationship in February . What is his deal ? And how can i move on without him . I dont like him and i dont love him whatsoever but i am still hurting . is he a player because i always hear that he flirts with all the girls at his work ? Is he a jerk ? And am i better off without him ? And is he in a rebound ? He seems to show off his new gf to all his friends and makes it known to my friends as well . Id really appreciate to reply …… thanks …

    1. Hi Melina,
      Thank you for your share. I’d like to learn more about your current situation in order to best assess. I invite you to consider booking a session with me so we can best determine if your ex is in a rebound relationship.
      Coach N.

  19. Hi! My ex and I were together about 2 years and we broke up last October. We did not have communication for about 3 momths and in January of January 2017 we hooked up again and for about a month we started talking over the phone however one day we got in a big argument and she told me she was done with me because I had not changed my attitude. On Good Friday she text me and told me she was with a coworker who I know. I feel like I broke her heart and he is totally the opposite of who I am she told me she liked him because he treated her better. But for some reason I feel like she still has feelings for me. She dedicated sweet songs to me in January and would call me everyday. I’m tall and she would always told me she wouldn’t date short guys however this guy is shorter than her so I’m confused as why she is with him. Any advice?

    1. Hi Edward,
      I’m sorry to hear about your current situation, and it certainly sounds like your ex is in a rebound relationship. Ultimately, a key characteristic of a rebound is getting together soon after the breakup, and for this new person to hold opposite traits to you. Both of these check. Rather than focussing on this new person, I would focus on why your ex wasn’t happy in the relationship. What would you have to change in order to make it work?
      Coach N.

  20. My fiance and i were in a LDR and she broke it off January 18. On 31 january she is listed in relationship on facebook. She is 30, im 37 we were together 3yrs. She is hot and cold all the time and is always telling me of her problems with the new guy. She said she wanted to visit me so i purchased a ticket, this was in February. She got very sick with shingles and couldnt come. For 6 weeks she has been telling me she misses me and wants to come. It happens once a week then she goes cold. I did no contact for 3 days to see what would happen and she unblocked me from facebook and messaged me. I ignored and called her a day later. Now again she is cold, 3-4 texts a day but never communicates at night. What do i do? Is this a rebound for her?

    1. Hi Philip,
      Thank you for your share. It certainly seems to me like your ex is in a rebound relationship. However, if you want her back, it’ll be very important for you to spend time assessing what went wrong and whether or not you’re equip to fix it. If you need help, I invite you to book a session with me. I can help.
      Wishing you the best always,
      Coach N.

  21. Hi, so my ex and I broke up a little over a month ago. I broke up with him cause I thought we were unhappy and that things would be better that way. I made him feel unwanted. We dated for over two years and he gave me everything and we were very serious. About two weeks after the break up, he starting talking to any girl and he sees her when he goes out and sometimes he visits her. He has told me that they are barely talking and hardly know each other yet and he can not even begin to give her the tip of the iceberg that she gave me and that he doesn’t want a relationship right now. However the kisses and the time he spends with her suggest otherwise. Plus after begging him and falling into a depression and “being too much”, we talked one day about serious stuff and it went well until I started be too much and wasn’t giving him the space and time that he wants and he wasn’t over me. But he called me the next morning, still sounding annoyed and frustrated with me, and told he didn’t think she was a rebound(I asked if she was the night before) and all I need to give him time and space that he wants and move on.
    Toward the end of our relationship I made him feel unwanted, and there is this girl who does the opposite. I think she is likely a rebound, but I am not sure.
    Also he says talking to me is painful and makes him angry cause of how I made him feel towards the end of the relationship but he still cares for me. And he says he doesn’t know what will happen in the future and he hasn’t committed to either never trying again or trying again. So he’s undecided?
    What should I do? Is she just a rebound?

    1. Hi Kelly,
      Thank you for your share. The real thing to consider here is why you neglected him. What about your day to day live lends to this outcome? Are you able to make necessary modifications? In reality, it’s not only about getting them back, but rather making sure you’re able to keep them. That will be equally as important. If you need help in this, I invite you to book a session with me. I am here to support you.
      Coach N.

  22. My ex and I love each other , we had an amazing relationship.. we were happy and she too, until she broke up with me because I kinda made her depressed , I regret it,. But then I found out 2 days after we broke up she was in another relationship, yes I know that’s rebound but I’m afraid it may backfire because.. me and my ex dated for 3 months But ! Never met… (we were close to) im Afraid that She may take the relationship serious because they meet everyday (they go the same school ) I feel like she prefers him over me.. but yea during that time me and her still talked , begged her to be single but didn’t work out but when we are on the phone we cry together because I kinda make her feel bad (I’m depressed and hurt ) she crys and feels like it’s her fault .. last Saturday we were suppose to meet but on Friday she didn’t text me at all.. i texted her friend but she said she didn’t have her phone .. by Monday (she didn’t text back stil) I found out that she still has her phone.. I know she needs to have time off but I’m worried about them.. I hope they break up .. and I love her so much .. she didn’t say she loves me but not how it use to be ..

  23. Hey,

    I work in london & she uni in the south west. Together 11 months almost a year and about 8 of that she was working abroad in irlnd so I visited once or twice a month. She started to say she wasn’t handling the distance very well even though there were only a few mnths left before she was back at uni for final year in the uk. She broke up with me when she came to visit in mid-march and I went NC for 4 weeks before I texted hope she’s doing ok and that I saw some cool posters when i visited a market we both went to in greenwich and got quick positive reply and had about 6 messages before I ended it as I had a visitor coming over. About a week later I texted again about a show we both like and again had a very brief conversation. That was about 2 weeks ago now and sort of expect her to initiate this time, but she recently posted a pic of some guy on insta who I think she might be getting close with over there but she only has another month left over there before her summer break and is back in London, do I wait it out with NC until then since she could be rebounding? She doesn’t post much at all so there’s a lot of mystery here.

    Worth saying we had a really good connection and she said she loved me which I knew and felt and had no arguments or fallings out during the relat, since we had a lot of trust and understanding. Break up was friendly terms and I didn’t fight for her even though I wanted to I just said I understood she couldn’t really balance life and love and my feelings are still here but there’s nothing I can do if the feelings aren’t mutual and left it at that.

    Like I said I visited her about 8/9 times and messaged every day so the transition into nothing at all is really quite hard.

    Any advice you can give would be much appreciated, not looking for session just a simple answer to above.

    Thanks 🙂

    1. Hi Jon,
      Thank you for your share and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. It seems to me like the only way to really resolve this, is to have the end goal of being in similar locations. If long distance is hard for her, you’ll have to find ways to accommodate this. If you need help developing a plan, I’m here to support you. I invite you to book a session with me.
      Wishing you the very best in this,
      Coach N.

  24. Me and my ex were together for 8 years and we were broken up for about six months now but only last month he started dating someone new and all that I hear from his friends is that he has been drinking a lot more, smoking a lot more and idk if it’s true but his new girlfriend is moving and she wants him to come down and see her every week but when I went over the other day to grab the very last of my stuff that I forgot to grab he was with his friend and was almost drunk and he wanted to start an argument with me, idk what I should do, please help

  25. Hi, my ex broke up with me 6 months ago after being together for two years and we got back together after 3 weeks but he kept pulling and pushing saying we have to take things slow and he cant jump back to what it was. We kept going on and off for about 5 months till i got fed up and couldn’t do ot anymore so i told him we had to split and move on since few months gine and no change and i dont know where i stand. The whole time he said that all he knew was that he loved me. Two weeks after he met someone and started spending lots of time with her. She is exactly half his age in her twenties. For god’s sake he has a daughetr that age. Four weeks after our break up he takes her on tropical holiday. She is not even a competition compared with me in terms of age, look, social status, career. So i m mot jealous at all but very curious how he could move on so quick and take holiday. I feel so heartbroken, betrayed, lied to and played for months. How could he say to the last minute that he loved me and then move on so quick????To me it seems serious if he took her on holiday. Really wondering what that is all about and if it is serious. Any advice is appreciated.

    1. Hi Heartbroken,
      I’m sorry to hear about your current situation – I know how painful this is. I feel there is a big chance that she’s a rebound. Instead of worrying about them, worry about spending time discovering what dismantled the relationship and how you can rectify those issues. I feel that’s where the changes can happen.
      Coach N.

  26. Hey, my ex boyfriend and I dated for around a year and half and have recently split up because I went behind his back and hung out with an ex, but I wasn’t alone, I was with friends also. Word got around that I had cheated on him the entire time we were together and it caused him to leave me. Not even 2 days later, he was talking to a new girl. About a week later, they were dating and attended prom together that him and I were supposed to go to together. They have been together for around a month now, and I have heard that they argue almost everyday and that she no longer wants to be with him but doesn’t know how to leave. Should I wait for him to come back? Is she only a rebound?

    1. Hi Jackie – thank you for your share and I”m sorry to hear about your current situation. I feel like it’ll be important to you to spend some time determining what was missing from the relationship with you that led you to doing those things. Usually, it’s because the person wasn’t getting something they wanted or felt they needed.
      Coach N.

  27. My ex and I had been dating for around 5 years. And about a year ago my ex broke up with me and I rebounded with someone and I also stopped talking to my ex all together. When I realized the mistake I made I ended that relationship and a month or two later my ex and I started dating again. Well about a year has passed and I got very upset about something a broke up with him. The next day I calmed down and expressed to him that I wasn’t sure if that’s what I wanted. And that coming Saturday I spent the day with him told him, told him I loved him, the whole thing. Then a week later he says that he thinks we should just be friends. Come to find out the night after I broke up with him this girl took him out and they talked on the phone every night till 4am, the week before I came to see him. And apparently they are interested in dating each other, but they just met like a month ago. He says he feels like she understands him and that he’s falling in love with her, even though he barely knows her. Is this a rebound and just revenge for what I did? I really want him back and I’m wondering if I should try to get him back

    1. Hi Marie,
      Thank you for your share and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I know how painful this can be. I feel that, while it’s likely that this is a rebound, it is symbolic that there’s a deep disconnect between the two of you. If you want to get him back, you’ll really have to reflect on how to rectify these issues. If you need help, I can help you and provide a tailored gameplan.
      Wishing you the best,
      Coach N.

  28. I am a 24 year old guy and my ex is 32. She was married when we first met but had major marital problems. She ended up getting divorced and her and I began hanging out. The chemistry was unreal, we joked often about being able to read eachothers minds, we understood eachother, spoke eachother’s language and the whole nine… was heaven on earth for the first 6 months.
    Then some pre-existing struggles of self-worth and self-significance came back to haunt me once the cloud of the newness and perfectness of our relationship wore off. I began seeking attention from other girls to fulfill the attention deficit I needed through feeling insignificant. This set the stage for an on/off relationship for the past 3.5 years now. We absolutely love eachother and she still says to this day that she loved me more than she ever loved her first husband. However, we would break up because she felt betrayed that I was reaching out to be friends with other girls on social media, I would beg for her to come back and tell her it would change and then we would get back together after 1-2 weeks… this happened over and over, probably 4 or 5 times.
    About 2 years ago we had the worst break up of them all, we broke up and instead of not getting back together in 1-2 weeks, we didn’t speak for 3 weeks. She ended up seeing someone else and dated them for 4 months. I never gave up and eventually she came back to me.
    Now here we are in the same boat once again. We broke up at the beginning of February 3.5 months ago and have not gotten back together yet. We have been in communication together nearly the whole time and even attended counseling (separate sessions but the same counselor) in hopes to rebuild our relationship. I love her to death and know without any doubt she is the woman I can’t live without. However, she is obviously scared and says that she can’t do it again because I always say things will change and we always end up back to where we were.
    I just learned yesterday that she is seeing someone (even though she was at my apartment 7 days ago sitting down to have a conversation with me about potentially fixing our relationship) and I’m wondering if it’s possible to get her back. I know she still loves me and I love her but she is very hurt and uncertain if she can trust me.
    I’ve made the argument that it will be different this time because we have never sought out professional help like we have been with this counselor but I still don’t know what to do. Typically in the past, she will block my phone number/block me on facebook but she has yet to do that and she still answers my texts. We even talked on the phone yesterday as she was driving to meet her new guy.

    What do I do?? Is there hope??

  29. Hi I’m 25 and my ex is 22. We have 2 miss together one 2 yrs old and one barely 3 months. We had been struggling for 2 months because he cheated on me. I was struggling to get passed it. He was afraid the whole time that I was going to leave be. He tried so hard and changed so much but I didn’t return it with love. I broke up with him to reflect on what I wanted. Boom a day later he was already seeing someone else(sleeping with too). I was devastated asking for him back. He declined. Then I stopped asking. When I stopped asking he started begging for me back. I declined even though I should have said yes. Then the next day I said ok I want to try and he said never mind he was going to try with this chick. Even though he still loves me???. I don’t know what to do. And with 2 kids very young he is choosing hwr over me. She even has 1 kid. He says he likes her but loves me but there’s to much hurt? Any advice if any?

    1. Hi Victoria,
      Thank you for your share. It seems to me like every time you pull away, he comes back for you. If you want him to come back, then, try pulling away and implement No Contact. When he returns this time, try speaking with him rather then declining. However, please note that this is not the solution for him to CHANGE, but rather just to get him back. If you want help to modify his behavior to prevent the cheating from continuing – I invite you to book a session with me. I can help.
      Coach N.

  30. Hi Guys, I’ve been with now ex gf for over 1 year. She broke up with me just over two months ago. We had broken up once before, it was her who broke up with me then as well but this only lasted a month before she asked me to give her another chance. We are both in our twenties and she hadn’t seemed very happy the last few months of our relationship. We were arguing quite a lot but she kept reassuring me we were fine and we’re even looking to move in together. So when she broke up with me she claimed she felt differently and said we had become more like friends. She said we argue a lot and she hasn’t any energy left as she had been trying for so long. She claims its too late and that she had told me what she was unhappy about. That I made her feel bad a lot of the time as I didn’t get her sense of humour and took offence a lot. She has been going back and forth, blowing hot and cold. One minute saying she loves me and wants to be together and the next she doesn’t and it’s too late and that she isn’t interested. I’m going to try no contact. Any advice. She also said she wants to be by herself and she wasn’t happy with me. She’s had a lot of family issues going on outside of our relationship too and she said it’s too much pressure. Please help

  31. My husband and i were together for 8 years. It was not a perfect relationship and we had many problems. But when it came down to anything we always loved each other enough to do everything we could to stay together. We even made a little family. We both wanted to have kids we only have one and he is 5. Most of our problems happened in the beginning of our relationship..but we still fought on. I had still unresolved trust issues though which made everything really bad at the end. He broke up with me almost a month ago. Not divorced just said he didnt want to be with me anymore. 2 weeks after 8 years and he is still living with me and he is already in a relationship??? How did he move on so quickly? He also told me over and over that he just was killing time with her and it made it easier to not think about me. Blah blah. Then all of a sudden now he is telling me that he is serious about her. It hasnt even been a month…we still live together he says he hates me. Is he really in love with her? What do i do?

    1. Hi Amber,
      Thank you for reaching out. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I feel like it’s important to give this situation and relationship some space. In the meantime, you’ll have to develop a strategy to show him that you are the woman of his dreams. I can help you get him back – I invite you to book a session with me.
      Coach N

  32. Hi Britt,
    I’m so sorry to hear about your current situation – I know you’re in a really painful spot. It’s going to be important for you to take a step back from the relationship. Do not give the woman importance. The more you give, the more important she’ll end up being. If you want to develop a strategy to get him back home to you and the baby, I can help. I invite you to book a session with me.
    Coach N

  33. I am a typical Indian so my situation i a little bit different from others. I thought my ex didn’t love me as much as I did but then I after a month I wish I didn’t end it but later

    1. Hi Nithin,

      I’m Coach Natalie, thanks for tuning into our YouTube channel. I’m really caught up with work today, because at 1PM EST today, we’re hosting a free live webinar on how to secure a date with your ex after the breakup. If you’re free in just over an hour, I invite you to tune in – I feel you’ll gain some additional insight on your situation. Here’s the link:

      Hoping to meet you soon,

      Coach N

  34. My boyfriend and I of 8 months have broken up. He ended it because I bowed up at him. He said twice was enough and he’s scared things were going to get physical between us. He says he no longer cares about me but if we were meant to be, it’ll happen. He doesn’t want to date during nursing school. Our spark was amazing in the beginning. He would tell me he never wanted to end things with me and I’m the first girls he’s ever felt this way about. I felt awful for my actions so I went to the doctor and going to a counselor. This didn’t change his mind and I found out he’s “interviewing” a girl that kept flirting with him while we were dating. We’ve only been apart for 3 weeks! We also work together and go to school Together. He’s deleted and blocked my number he says so the no contact rule is in place. I’m nice at work and I try to laugh and smile to show him I’m okay. I really loved him and want to make things better but idk how. Him saying when he’s done, he done and he doesn’t want to get back together with me gives me no hope. But then he’s telling me maybe in the future? Please help me….

    1. Hello Pancapes,

      Thank you for reaching out to me and for sharing your story.

      There are no guarantees here, as your situation is a complex one…but I do believe that I can help you maximize your chances of making it work – and I do think that it is possible to turn everything around.

      I would recommend that you book a one hour private coaching session in order for me to respond to all of your questions, provide you with insights and a clear way forward.


      Coach Natalie

  35. My girlfriend broke up with me last month after we were together for about 8 months but were seeing each other for about 6 months prior, one week later she is talking to someone new who is the opposite of what she normally goes for and I am convinced it’s a rebound relationship and am just seeking advice on what I can do for myself as I work in the same company as her and see her everyday. What can I do and work on for her to see me as I was and am when we first started talking? She’s been very out of character lately and seems to have cut all of her friends out for the moment. Respond as soon as possible please

    1. Hi B,
      Thank you for sharing your story with me. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation, as I know how painful and frustrating it must be.

      Based on what I’ve read, I invite you to book a session with me. Your situation, although fixable, is complex and will be challenging to express here.

      If you’d like to book, please visit this link:

      I’m looking forward to connecting with you,

      Coach N

  36. Im 8 months pregnant too right now. I found out my ex cheated on me ! I couldnt forgive him for cheating we tried for a few months but i left him i was gone only a few days he text me and told me he was gonna be with the girl he cheated on me with and theres nothing i can do about it! Me and my x already have a 4 year old daughter together. He just contacted me cuz it was her bday otherwise we dont talk we both changed our phone numbers he contacted me over fb. But we keep blocking each other and un blocking. Im getting closer and closer to having the new baby and im scared cuz im alone. I got weak and called him friday over fb messenger. He talked to me infront of the new gf.. said he was really sorry he had to go promised to send me some money. That night i couldnt stop calling him i need him and the gf kept answering his phone trying to talk to me she told me there planning on getting married now and she told me there planning real babies… she even sent me a pic of my x with her son says her son calls him daddy! I called my x the next day asked him if hes planning on marrying her he said yah… when i asked about the new babies he laughed like laughed so hard he said we shouldnt talk anymore he only wants to talk to his daughter… he said he wants nothing to do with the new baby. I told him no he cant speak to our daughter . And now he blocked me again. The new gf tells me how good she makes him do helped him get his licence back like hes so perfect for her!!!! She says i made him bad and now im just jealous i lost such a great guy! Im like he cheated on me ! I cant forgive him just like that!!! When i show my friends the girls pic they all say shes ugly.. she posts everything on fb for me to see and my x doesnt like any photos of hers she even posted a pic of them kissing and he wont like it! She is different then me by the fact that she will be friends with all his friends even the girls that were his fuck friends she will be there friends and i wont. She doesnt care about shit and i care what he does. I keep telling myself this is a joke to hurt me and he knows its working to hurt me…. but the longer it lasts 4 months now and there planning a future i cant help but think i lost him forever. I wonder do i really really want him back? I love my baby in my tummy i love my daughter we dont need him. He doesnt call our daughter just did cuz it was her birthday.. he told me that the new gf told him that he needs me… this new gf wants to talk to me all the time i think ill be messaging him and its her on his phone…. he says hes not keeping secrets from her about me n him talking its only for our daughter… im one month away from a new baby i cant play these games right now i need to be strong in my mindset so i can do this alone and not call him. Im waiting to find out the sex of the baby when its born and he asked me is it a boy??? Thats what we both want… i told him i dont know and im not sharing any details about the new baby when it is born cuz he has a new family!!! He wont post a pic on his fb of him n his new gf… i swear its a rebound i thougjt it would be done by now but it looks more n more serious or at least thats what they want me to think… i dont have him blocked on my messenger…. he blocked me today… everytime he blocks me i feel like ill never hear from him again… i wait … then he does contact me… my baby will be born in august 2017 im trying to be strong for when he contacts me again and i tell myself i wont respond… i cant respond anymore i always let him talk to our daughter then he doesnt call her im sick of this game… i dont get why the new gf talks to me ? I get she tries to hurt me with the pic of him n her son but seriously whats up with this i said he wont marry u she said wait n see… i told him to go ahead n do it i know my x marraige isnt his thing he did buy me a beautiful ring as a promise to take care of me and our daughter he calls me his wife and mama… so i feel utterly replaced . Help!! Lol do i cut him off completely and move on im working on myself and my kids alone its been 4 months i know i can work on myself staying single for a long time im not trying to replace a dad to my kids i know i can but i dont want to… will he ever wake up and want me back? Or could this girl really be his one. He said shes been his friend for 13 years ohh they know each other… i was with him for 5years and he never once mentioned her name!!!! He told me about his exs i thought all of them i dont think they ever dated before just friends maybe a fuxk but he never told me about her… i get the comfort level childhood friends but is it a rebound still or could they really get married… did my x realize things about me dont suit his lifestyle the way hers does fit him better… i feel like she controls him totally especially cuz she writes me on his phone and he lets her!!!! When he was with me he didnt have a lock on his phone i could go threw it but if i told a old fuck friend of his who he swears is just a friend to fuck off he would get so mad at me… so like i said i left him u cant be faithful to me and our family then go ahead have all ur fuck friends so he did hes got all his fuxk friends back and the new gf is friends with them all my x wont like her pics on fb but all the stupid girls that he slept with like her pics… i secretly laugh so hard cuz im beautiful i have standards i have my own friends … i wont be friends with those girls and my x really wanted me to wanted to go drink with them hang out… and i wont!!!! I dont think he should make me be friends with any girl he had sex with.. i have a past too and im not making him be friends with my guy friends i drop them all for him… im almost 30 i hate these games and fighting. He tells me hes diff with her she makes him good… i swear he hasnt changed… i called his boss for money today and his boss said he tried to get ahold of cole all weekend but didnt go into work so hes not better for her. When hes with me he always goes to work new years day will go to work and i trust him hes really working. I still have a chance to find happiness with someone new im so young the right man will accept two children with me… im just mad that my ex could really be happy with her and that i couldn’t make him happy… i really really dont want him to be happy cuz he cheated on me with her!!! If i cant let my ex go the way i should positively i want him to be miserable like i am i miss him so bad everyday i miss my friend…. because i want him to suffer does that mean i never really loved him in the first place?? I gave up so much to make him happy i forgot about putting my needs first. Im mad at myself i let this love game play on so long to the point my daughter is upset shes so sad daddy has a new family… he doesnt care she wont talk to him he says im manipulating our little girl… so on the days she does wanna talk to daddy i let them ! But now that the new gf answers his phone and her kids are screaming in the background me n my daughter r hurt im trying to protect our hearts when daddy keeps breaking them. The new gf keeps telling me i need help… im like u ruined my family u knew i was pregnant and still slept with him… he tried to say sorry but the damage was done i know he didnt cheat on me again but once i left it only took him a couple days to ditch the place we had together n move in with her… he says the only time they fight is about me… im like so then they will fight forever… im trying to get over him and keep him 100% completly out of my life befoee i let a new guy into my life… and when i do let a new guy in he will be for me not a new daddy so im hoping to establish co parenting for our daughter but right now its not working. So i stay alone giving all my time to my daughter and planning the new baby… trying to be strong for the next time my x contacts me then blocks me… i know he will its just a matter of when and how i should really handle this situation. I dont even know if i still love him… i love our kids … i look at his pic and think hes so sexyyy i talk to him and want us back but then when i hear about marriage new babies and he blocks me i think how could i ever still love a man like this…. i dont want him to be happy unless its with me so i dont think i really love him… i love the idea of him and how sexy i think he is.. fuck love so i stay single and i feel like i hate love so much now id rather be single forever and give all my love to my children. My kids are more important then any man… his new gf if she has a baby with him this will be her 3rd baby daddy…. i think its so gross how women do that keep having kids thinking hes the one this time mean while she and my x ruined a family… she stole my daughters father !!!!!!!!! My x said he can only talk to our daughter if the new gf is sitting there watching im like hell no!!! And she lets her sons call him daddy already!!!! while my daughter wonders why we dont have him anymore…. i just dont get it… so i tell him he better do everything he can to make it work with his new gf since he lost me and his daughter forever… and he sure makes it seem like hes trying with her alot more than he tried for me …

    1. Your situation sounds extremely difficult and I can definitely relate to so many things you said. My son is now two weeks old and we are struggling to figure out our parenting situation. I don’t think his new girlfriend deserves to even breathe on our son but he flat out tells me he doesn’t plan on breaking up with her anytime soon. I’m still so in love with him too and wanted to be a family more than anything. I finally came to the realization that I have to put my feelings about our relationship aside and make it strictly about our son otherwise I’ll never be able to move on. Your ex needs to stop controlling the conversation between you two. She should have absolutely no say so when it comes to you and your daughter. I’m so sorry you’re going through this but know that you are not alone. We are strong mothers and know that the only thing that is important is our children and protecting them. Stay strong.

  37. My ex girlfriend broke up with me 4 months back so I went no contact for a 3 weeks after making the biggest mistakes while she’s contacted me twice about my dad’s tombstone unveiling. Her parents came but she’s didn’t and her mum told me she’s had find a promotional job that’s why she couldn’t make it, i made contact and suhe agreed to see me. We met twice and first time we spoke and had a friendly chat she cried and told me she’s proud of my changes and spoke about how we felt about the relationship and then the second time i spoke about getting together and she cried, asking me why we had to get to the point of breaking up and told me she forgives me but cant forget. So she said give her time, plus I find out that she seeing someone else but she hasn’t said anything about it. So now I have been trying to see her again but no luck , she’s always telling me that she will see but doesn’t show up. Can you help me I’m lost.

    1. Hi Terry,

      Thank you for reaching about and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation – I am confident that this can be turned around, but I”m going to need some more info so I can help. I invite you to schedule a coaching session with Adrian or myself. Please visit this link:

      I sincerely hope to connect with you!


      Coach N

  38. Me and my ex met first time in our one year relationship..I fought with him for silly things and now he talks to me in anger and told me that he is on a date with another girl and his phone is busy at night… I don’t understand if it is a rebound relationship or its time for me to move on..bcs he answered my call and don’t block me from any social media…
    Its only 6 days since we met bcs we r in a long distance relationship so he goes to another city for work and daiting a girl whom he met on social media as he told me that

  39. My ex started seeing someone in November … December I came home and he had moved all his belongs out he has been with her 7 months August he called said he no longer wanted to be in the relationship with her and no one would love him as I did he came back for 3 weeks and said he didn’t want us to rush getting back together but to build our trust and friendship meanwhile staying at my house the whole 3 weeks the August 26 his birthday he went MIA the next day I contacted him and he tells me he is back with the girl and he really likes her and that they moved to fast at first ….the whole 7 months that they where together we continued to see one another and sleep together I’m confused I don’t understand what’s going on now he’s been back with her 8 days now but called me once to ask me to take him to work …but now doesn’t speak to me at all

  40. Hello my name is Cristian and I think my ex is in a rebound relationship she met him only days before we broke and wants the first guy she asked out after our break up but I don’t know if I should stay in competitive with my ex or not because somedays she acts like she wants to get back together but the next day she ignores me and she always some how sneeks in a way to mention him in our conversation what should I do

  41. My girlfriend of almost 2 years left me almost a week ago. I’m a freshman in college and she is a senior in high school. She said that she was very stressed with everything going on in her life, and that she can’t handle being in a relationship. In other words, she said that the timing between us was right. We don’t talk anymore. Now she posted a picture of a guy on Snapchat with the caption “counting down the weeks until you get home” with a heart emoji. I don’t know what to think about this anymore. I want to wait for her until she is ready to date again, because I know that we can have a future together like we always wanted. Did she really leave me for someone else? For this guy? Is she lying to me about not wanting to be in a relationship? I just want to have her back in my life one day. She means the world to me and I want her back in my life

    1. Hi Ian,
      Thanks for reaching out – it seems to me like distance can really help. Let her miss you. Trust me.
      Coach N.

  42. Hi I just want to thank you for what you do here.
    I am currently been split from my ex for four months and she has been in a new relationship for two months, I booked a private coaching session and it has worked wonders, I am concentrating on myself and going through self improvement, I would also recommend highly The five love languages as mentioned by coach Adrian. It has given me such a new perspective on things and more understanding. Thank you so much! I hope to book again soon once I feel ready to re-connect!

  43. My bf of 2.5 years broke up with me 2 months ago and I found out yesterday that he already has another gf and apparently have been together for around a month already, I’m in pieces because I still love him and want him back more than anything

    1. Hi Becca,
      I’m so sorry to hear about your current situation. I invite you to focus on your personal development right now. Don’t try to learn about his life in any way. When you’re stronger, you’ll be able to reach out calmly.
      Coach N.

  44. My ex started dating someone 2 weeks after he moved out. It’s been 9 months since then and they’re still together. But we have a child together so in those 9 months he’s been coming every day.will the no contact rule work for me? Please help.

  45. My ex started dating someone else 2 weeks after he moved out and it’s been 9 months n they’re still together. But in that period of time he’s been coming over every day because we have a baby together… Can I still apply the no contact rule? Please help me

    1. Hi Ana,
      You can certainly apply the no contact rule! Even with a baby! For a while, just make sure only to speak when it pertains to the child. Outside of that, stay away. This can have a really powerful impact.
      Coach Natalie

  46. I’m so confused right now. I dated my ex boyfriend for a year and half. I broke up with him via text message when he was in Florida with his family last Thanksgiving. It was very civil just saying that I felt like because he had so much going on with his hot rod and helping his friends and we had so much going on, maybe it was best. He texted me back in January with small talk. He texted me again in February telling me when he sees me, he still gets funny feelings in his stomach and to have a good day. He texted me in May wishing me a Happy Birthday saying its going to be a pretty day. Then he initiated texting back at the beginning of August asking how me and my boys are? He said he hasn’t seen us around and that he has looked. He added he misses our time together. He said he has always been happy with me and had big plans for us. He added he has always hated the way we broke up. He told me he knows I did not like we go from one extreme to another but was there any good that came out of our relationship some positive things? I replied back sure there were. He texted me August 16th that he knew it was late but if my boys were up please tell them good luck tomorrow on their first day of school and that they are his buddy’s. I heard through the grapevine that he had gone on a date with a girl from a local church. I asked him about it and he didn’t answer to start with. Then, he said, yes, I went on a date with a girl from the church. We texted back and forth up until around the middle of September. I saw this girl tag him into 2 different events they had gone to together. I asked him if they were dating. He said, why do you ask? I said Curiosity killed the cat. He didn’t reply to start with. I replied I guess everything happens for a reason huh? He replied yeah…..I guess. He continued with I hope there is no hard feelings. I really liked you alot. I wish it was not like this. I hope you feel like I was good to you. When you broke up with me, I felt like it was over because you said your not going to break up and get back together all the time. I am sorry from the bottom of my heart if I hurt you. You are a good person. I just want you to be happy and I did not think I made you happy and that is why you dumped me. I never wanted for you or the boys to get hurt. I told him he has always made me happy. It was more of a time issue and we had a lot going on too. When I told him I still have feelings for him and asked how serious him and this girl is and is there a chance for us, he replied, define serious. I thought we were serious. He added If you really feel that way how was it so easy for you to just walk away? I told him I have regretted the way I handled the situation since. I am so sorry. Needless to say, about 5 weeks ago, he told me First I like to say sorry for how things are this is not what I had intended for. I have thought long and hard many nights. I know it was 3 weeks we hadn’t seen each other but I did ask if yall like to go to FL with me for Thanksgiving. I did not know it would be over when I got back. I did not hear from you until I went out on date with her. you did not want me anymore. Like it was over. Our boys have Boy Scouts every Monday where I see him. I saw him last Monday and was able to talk like we used to and told him the shirt he was wearing looked good on him. He said thanks. Well, last night he brought his girlfriend of 5 weeks to Scouts with her little 3 year old daughter. I was not able to bring myself to talk to him or introduce myself to the girlfriend. I was hurt. I am just trying to figure out what’s going on his head? Advice please.

    1. Hi Kim,
      Thanks for reaching out and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I will say, that your situation is complex, and quite delicate. I feel that I am unable to help without developing a sense of context. I invite you to consider scheduling a coaching session with me, I can help you yield results.

  47. My ex and I were together for 3 years. 3 months after the break up we slept together again, and one month after he had started seeing this girl. 1 more month later, after them knowing each other for 2 months he deletes me on facebook out of the blue and both of them start’s posting non-stop how much they love eacother all over social media. (He didn’t block me, only deleted me. But proceeded to write to me on messenger, even though he had deleted me) Around 3 months later (when they had been away from each other for 2 months, due to work) he sends me a message about how he never gave me closure, and it was nothing i did and that I was loving and caring etc.. When I said I needed to meet up, as i think we owe that to our 3 years together so I can get an explanation. He says its too late for closure, and it would be inappropriate meeting as he is in a relationship…. (!!!!!?)

    One month later he has proposed to her, and… Plastering all over facebook.. (They had then known each other for 6 months – 2,5 of them being away from each other)

    (I must add. This is a guy that wasn’t the biggest fan of pda, and definitely not a big fan of posting lovey dovey post’s on social media. This was something that was discussed in our relationship, countless of times.. And in 3 months he had posted more of her than he did with me in 3 years!!)

    I have no idea why he sent that message, why he has deleted me, or cut me out of his life in this way. As we were best friends and he made it very clear that he never wanted me out of his life, because what we had was the most real thing he had ever had and we were best friends, and he would always love me.(His words) But the minute he met this girl, he cut me out like we meant nothing, like I meant nothing.. I have been civil, nice and understanding.. As well as definitely not pushy or needy after the break. Both before and after he met this girl. So there is no reason for him to delete me and treat me this way.

    And also, after the breakup he took all the responsibility for everything that went wrong in our relationship and pointed out a lot how he didn’t desevere someone like me, and that he wished I hated him. And that he needed to work on himself. (Which I tried to help him with our entire relationship. But he said that he was leaning to much on me to fix him, becaue it was so easy because of who I was, and how kind I was.. That he couldn’t become this better version of himself while being with me)

    So again, no reason for him to cut me out. As i never did anything wrong, or horrible and was the best girlfriend, and ex-girlfriend anyone could dream of..

    1. Thank you for your comment. I am sorry to hear about this current situation. I invite you to work on your personal development right now. The key things that stood out in your comment were your ex-stated you were too kind, and your ex leaned on you while you tried to help him. Sometimes these things can backfire as being “too nice” can seem as though you’ve been taken for granted. In order to move on look at his closer as a way of trying to make a menze and acknowledge his respect of not meeting with you cause he is in a current relationship. I invite you to reach out to coach Natalie as she can help with this current situation. So the next time you see him and his girlfriend you can introduce yourself with positivity and confidence! 🙂


      WMEA Team

      1. Hey Team! Thank you so much for you reply.
        Yeah its been a heavy year, but I have soared in my career and really spent this this working towards my goals and finding happiness being on my own! At this point I don’t really know how I feel about the whole situation. I haven’t spoken to him, or him contacting me for a very very long time and they are still together.. I still think about him, and cry from time to time.. And I think miss him. But at this point I dont really know what it is that I am missing.. If it’s him, or just someone. I used to think It would be him I would be missing. But now when he is so far away, and almost like the memory of us is fading I dont really know what is real in my emotions about all of this, same goes for the entire relationship we had. Which I think is one of the reasons i cant truly let this whole thing go.. Im confused about a lot of things, and yes.. Its selfish, but I think the reason I would want to speak to him and meet him now is for him to tell me what he truly felt about us, if he meant it when he said that him and me, what we had was as real as it gets and as special as he made it seem when we were together, and even when we broke up. The minute he found her he has treated me, us, and everything we had like it never mattered at all, which hurts and is very confusing..

        I might still love him, I might not. It might be my heart that can’t deal with the pain, an because the memory is so far away the feelings are as well. But I have no idea how I would feel if I actually met him.

        If he is truly happy and this is the love of his life. Well, then I am happy for him, or I will learn to be. But he has changed drasticly since they got together, as a person and in his looks.. Not in a good way, which mutual friends have pointed out to me. As I havent seen him for a veeery long time, so I wouldn’t know. But things they are telling me, sounds like a different person that has completly changed his lifestyle image, personalitiy etc.. On social media, and especially in real life.

        In regards to what you are pointing out with me being to kind. This is something I have worked on personally. I have confronted people close to me, and said enough is enough, and I have started saying more no, and not feeling so obligated to do everything..

        Being taken for granted is definetly something that happened in our relationship.. But does this mean that he didn’t love me enough, or love me at all? Or respect me?
        I was always nice and kind yes, but if he stepped over a line..I got angry as well. However, i know that I shouldve left him a long time ago, when he behaved like he did. But I was afraid that I wouldnt be enought o fight for for him, and he wouldn’t come back if I left him so he would get it act together..

        I can respect the fact that he didn’t want to upset his new girlfriend and so didn’t want to meet me. But when he had known her for 5 months, and me for 3, I do feel the respect and the right thing to do for me, and what we had. Shoudlv’e played a much bigger part. He behaves like what we had never mattered at all. Which, like I said earlier is a question I ask myself a lot..

        I will for sure be confident and myself, and feel great if I ever do bump in to them in the future.. Very little likely but nevertheless..I have worked hard on myself..

        But I wont lie and say that I hope for a scenario where I meet them and he think. Damn.. Have I made a mistake?

        Is it a bad thing to be too kind, or was it just him that couldnt handle it?

        What do you think was the cause of our break up, and his behaviour before the break up, and after?

  48. Hello Mitalene,
    Thank you for your comment. I would do some self-reflection here and ask yourself if this is a good guy for you? Does this man make your life easy, and does he make you happy? Is he a good man for you? Really ask yourself why this relationship is something you want back in your life and if you still want to move forward I would suggest for you to do the no contact for 6 weeks. Work on some self-development and put your focus on something you are extremely passionate about. By doing this your ex will see that you are focusing on yourself and you can gain your sense of control back with this relationship.
    Coach Natalie

  49. Hello Matthew,
    It can be a sign of one. I would invite you to focus on you and show her the man you are becoming and continue to be positive around her.
    WMEA Team

  50. Hello Peter,
    Thank you for your comment. Right now, I would focus on something you are passionate about. Hit the gym maybe change your look. Give her something to notice you about. During this time I encourage you to have no contact and truly just get Peter back. Let her initate everything moving forward.
    WMEA Team

    1. But what if she doesn’t because she is so fixated on her colleagues that she is sneaking around with behind her managers backs and probably her own family too? I get she is probably getting a thrill of it all. She’s doing things that she has vowed she has never done before we were together (dirty pics, cheating etc)

      1. Peter,
        You don’t know until you try. Then I would invite you to do some self-reflection questions and ask if this is a woman you want in your life? If she is a good women for you in your life?
        WMEA Team

  51. Hello Jodi,
    Thank you for your comment. Since I would have to know the exact context of this relationship and since we are speaking about a marriage and it seems you are serious to get your partner and healthy relationship back , i invite you to a private coaching session so we can guide you further.
    WMEA Team

  52. Hello Princess Adrian,
    Thank you for you comment. I encourage you to do a little self reflection here and ask yourself what is the reason why you want him back? Besides you loving him, what is the reason why you would go through these measures? Also, is he a good man for you?
    If you still decide to try and get him back I would suggest for you to do a 6 week no contact as he will try and reach out to you but it seems like he has taken you for granted and I encourage you to take control back and do some self-reflection in the meantime.
    WMEA Team

  53. Hello Sumi,
    Thank you for your comment. I invite you to socialize and show that you are moving forward through social media and posting new activities and adventures with friends. I invite you to a private coaching session as we can give you a tailored game plan when we have full context of the relationship through a coaching session.
    WMEA Team

  54. Hi, I would love a reply. Over the course of the days since I’ve last posted, my ex and I still live together but now she’s staying out all night and I think the situation with the colleague is getting serious.

  55. Hello Jas,
    I would reflect on a couple things here. What was it that made you both break up with eachother? There is no way I can tell you through a blog post if your ex is getting serious with another person but I can tell you that its important that you show change and take the time to change through actions what made you and your ex breakup. I invite you to a coaching session and we can give you tailored advice as well as help you get to your goal.
    WMEA Team

  56. Hello Dj,
    I believe a friendship will be helpful and talking confidently about what you realized you might have done wrong. When you do this be sure to be positive.
    WMEA Team

  57. Hello Nick,
    I encourage you to give her this time. Remember to be positive when she speaks to you and also I would try taking her to different places when you guys see each other.
    WMEA Team

  58. Hello Tim,
    No, I do not think its a waste of time. Why? Because you are challenging yourself and you will move forward to get your answers. It may not be a good relationship with your ex, and she will find that out as time goes by. So the most powerful thing you can do is change through actions and show her the change you have done. Please feel free to write back and briefly share with me your game plan. I would love to hear.
    WMEA Team

  59. Hello Daniel,
    It seems that she knows she has full control of this relationship so she could be taking advantage of it. There were reasons that you experienced this breakup so its important that you reflect on what when wrong during the breakup, stop telling her you need her, focus on your personal growth so you can gain control back and show her you changed through your actions.
    WMEA Team

  60. Great! Remember to also not always seem too available during the process. When she text you in the future end some of the conversations with “gotta run”!
    Best of luck!

  61. My husband left in October out of the blue blaming me for a range of things that meant he didn'[t feel he could go out or have friends and he wasn’t allowed to talk to women as he’d get told off. Now, all a load of rubbish but at the time he managed to convince me that I was an awful person. I’ve since found out that the weekend before he had been on a night out (which he had no hassle from me about) and came in at 6am – very unusual for him. I told him I was annoyed that he came in that late as I was worried he could have been hurt etc. he apologised and begged me not to leave him (which I felt was ridiculous as he had given me no reason to leave him). A week later he broke up with me and left, no contact for 6 weeks he felt I needed space to get my head around things. We meet up and discuss things where he told me that he was struggling to sleep and worrying about me and what I’ll do etc., that night he is seen kissing a girl. A girl who turns out to have been seen talking to him for ‘a very long time’ on the night he came home at 6am. Now a month later after the kiss they are in a facebook official relationship and posting pictures kissing each other over their social media. Not only do I find this totally disrespectful to me, he didn’t have the decency to tell me things with her were serious, only telling me when I asked what was going on that they had been on a date.
    She is the total opposite of me in looks, work, she has a child where he said he wasn’t sure if he wanted kids, she is a avid poster on facebook whereas I like to keep my world more private.
    He told me he wanted to be on his own and to have time to do things he wants to do when he left me. What are your thoughts on if this is a rebound and if there is any chance of him coming back?

  62. Hi, I’ve met my ex 10yrs ago we fell in love, had beautiful daughter who was born with disability, we got engaged but then we started argue about little things all the time, he didn’t pay me attention, we didn’t spend time together, we were going out separately and then I broke up 3,5years ago as I had enough of arguments, my head was so angry with him and didn’t want any sex for a long time, I just felt sick when he did touch me, after split we were apart for about 6months but then started to spend time together for our daughter, even went on holidays together, had good laugh etc but I still couldn’t force myself to have sex. I did respect him but felt like I don’t want to be with him in relationship, he was there waiting, said he loves me and want to be together and so we hanged up like this for all those years. Last year my sister died and I said to him I don’t feel like we ll be ever back together we need to move on, I went on dating sites as I felt I want new thing new attention, in October he found out about it and asked me about that and I was so sure about my feelings and said we have rights to do that since we r single, in December he told me he talks to someone, then after few days he’s already in a relationship with that girl, I don’t know why but my world just felt apart, itd like I woke up and realised that I love him and want to be together so much, is that a real feeling tho? It’s been a month since he’s with her and they are so fast already plannin hols, introduced all kids and sayin that’s the one and that’s it, I’m so confused because it’s what I wanted and now I feel like I’ve destroyed our family and I’ve made the biggest mistake In my life! I feel like I just wanted some silly attention from other guys but now I don’t want anyone else…is my mind playin tricks on me, I’ve decided to give it a while see how it goes but should I hope he comes back? It’s so hard

  63. Hi, we broke up in June due to my circumstances affecting the relationship but we still loved each other very much. Saw him again in August before i left his country (was studying there) to go back to mine.

    We still talked about marriage and a future together and acknowledged this was a temporary breakup until we could be reunited again but he got distant in Oct/Nov and told me he had started seeing someone around then.

    I was devastated but then I went into 5 weeks no contact. I posted pictures of me having fun with friends and doing new activities on social media, (he views all of my stories to this day) and started reaching out in Jan 2018.

    I text him once a week and he’s friendly/positive but doesn’t ask me how i am or how my new job is. I don’t ask him how he is either to be honest. i keep it to shared interests. …but I recently watched coach natalie’s video on youtube that we shouldn’t reach out when they’re dating someone new. Should I stop reaching out? we’re on different continents right now until I can figure out how to close the distance. That was the main reason he started going out with someone who lives in his city but then he started developing feelings for he and i see her on his snapchat.

  64. My ex and I broke up the first week of Sept. She also started dating someone within the week of us breaking up. Now for all of Sept and Oct her and I still had sex, while she was still dating him. I found out he moved in with her in Dec and they just moved into a new apt the last week of Jan. I haven’t seen her since Dec and we haven’t spoke for about a month now. Last time we spoke she still got emotional on the phone about our break up still. It was on a break at work and we were on the phone for about a hour (she went over her break). She told me that it’s still hard for her to tell me no and she doesn’t want to hurt my feelings about anything also she would like to be friends in the near future. Like I really don’t know what to do about her. Should I let her go or should be friends?

    1. Hello Mike,
      It seems like your ex still has feeling for you. The way you will get her back is if you show her personal change. Also, refrain from sleeping together if this occurs in the future to show her you are serious about moving forward.
      Please reach out to us if you need any personalized advice.
      WMEA Team

  65. Colton,
    You are exactly correct and you are in the right direction. Keep up with the no contact and focus on you and you will notice your ex initiating contact with you. Just keep strong during this period and don’t break no contact. You can do it!
    WMEA Team

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