I know that when a breakup happens, you can feel like everything has fallen apart around you and you don’t even know what to believe anymore. On one hand, you love this person and you want to be with them, but on the other hand, you two have broken up. Is there any hope left at all? Is there anything you can do?
Because I work with people in this situation so often, I wanted to write this article for you on how to find an answer to your burning question. If you are wondering, “Is my relationship over,” then you’ve come to the right place. I am going to provide you with various signs that it’s over for good and by the time you get to the end of this article, you will have the answer. So let’s get started!
Is my relationship over for good: The biggest sign
I understand how confusing and frightening the situation can be. Just this morning I received an email from Julian who wrote,
“… this is the person that I envisioned spending the rest of my life with. I saw us having a family together, I saw us moving to her hometown, and for years nothing could shake my confidence in our relationship. As things started to fall apart, I started to lose that confidence but my love for Francesca never wavered. With everything that happened, we ended up breaking up after 5 1/2 years together. Now I’m left here feeling stunned. Never thought I would lose her. Is my relationship over forever, or do you think you could help me get her back? I’m willing to do whatever it takes.”
Julian’s message actually highlights the first thing I want to over with you.
If you are thinking, “We broke up and my relationship is over” there is one surefire way to tell if there is still a chance that you two might get back together.
It is your answer to this question:
Are you willing to fight for this relationship?
If your answer is, “No, I’ve already done everything I could, I don’t see this working out, there is literally nothing that would make this work and I’m done trying,” then yes, your relationship is over simply because you have mentally checked out already.
On the other hand, if your answer is, “Yes! This is the person that I love and I believe in a future together. Our relationship has so much potential and we can be so happy. We experienced a lot of problems that led to this break up, but I’m willing to do whatever it takes to find solutions,” then your relationship isn’t necessarily over.
You see, it all boils down to your mindset and what you are willing to do. If you are willing to take action and fight for this relationship, then there is a huge chance that you can get back together with your ex.
So the first sign your relationship is over is this you are not willing to fight for it anymore.
Is my relationship over: signs to keep an eye out for
When people come to me asking, “How do I know my relationship is over for good,” there are various indicators that can help answer your question.
If you are recognizing the signs I am about to go over but you still want to get back together with the person you love, don’t panic. There are plenty of tools that you can use that will help to repair the damage of the issues that led to break up, while offering you the means to create a new foundation. So even if you see the signs your relationship is over, it doesn’t mean it’s over for good if you don’t want it to be.
I always remind my clients that you are in control of more than you might realize, so it is important is to keep your eyes open and analyze the situation so that you can determine the best approach.
• Your ex partner or spouse is unable to stop putting their needs before yours, at your expense
Despite the fact that you have been trying to analyze the situation and find solutions, your ex is still prioritizing their own needs, often times at your expense. This is a sign the relationship is over, but it can be remedied by some distance and focusing on your own well-being, and I will expand on this at the bottom of this article.
• I think my relationship is over because we are always playing the blame game
This is a common phenomenon after a breakup because both parties involved are upset and frustrated by the situation. They try to deflect blame and point fingers, and it can leave you wondering, “Is my relationship really over?”
• When you no longer see any good in each other
Another sign it’s over is when neither of you can recognize anything good in the other. You probably still see goodness in your ex because you miss them, but I don’t want you to panic if they don’t see any good in you right now. With some space and time, you can provide solutions.
• If your ex thinks that only you are the issue
It is not uncommon for a person to think that the other is the root of all the problems, especially when the heartbreak is fresh. Many people make the mistake of assuming that the person who decided to end the relationship doesn’t suffer, but that’s not true.
Again, your partner might see you in a negative light right now and have no intention of taking you back, which means that the relationship is really over right now, but that doesn’t mean that you cannot change their mind. Just remember that this takes time and patience, and that anything is possible in love if you are willing to put forth the effort.
Signs my relationship is over: The solutions
Instead of scouring the internet for “is my relationship over” quizzes or desperately trying to figure out what’s going on in your ex’s mind right now, my advice to you is to switch your focus to yourself.
You are only in control of your own actions. It does not matter if your ex isn’t talking to you or if your ex is dating someone new right now, the only thing that matters is that you start to zero in on what you can change in your own life, and how you are going to pave the way for a better future.
Once you start to rebuild your sense of self confidence and happiness in your life, your ex is going to start to see you in a new light.
I mentioned that you can change the situation a few times above, and the truth is that it all has to do with personal development. Use this breakup as a catalyst for very positive change in your life, and use it as fuel to make yourself into the new and improved version of yourself!
We are here to help you every step of the way, so please don’t hesitate to reach out to me or a member of my team for one on one guidance. By asking you targeted questions about your specific situation, we can define a powerful action plan that can help you reach your goal in no time!
You can also leave any questions about whether your relationship is over or not in the comments section below, and it would be our pleasure to personally respond to you!
Wishing you all the best in life and love,
Your coach when you’re asking, “Is my relationship over,”
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