I received an email from one of my clients last night telling me that her ex finally came back. She had been working on getting her ex back and she had found herself in a tricky situation because the man she loved had started dating someone new. It was very difficult for her to navigate through her emotions and fight off discouraging thoughts, but we worked together and were able to define a concrete plan of action that ended up attracting her ex back.
Her ex came back after the rebound because she was able to handle the situation in a way that made him see her in a new light and realize that he would be much happier with her. Very often, a person will panic when they are faced with an ex in a rebound relationship, so I wanted to write this article for you today to offer you some reassurance! Exes do come back after rebound relationships, if you play your cards right! So let’s take a look at how to put the odds in your favor.
Veronica’s ex came back after a rebound because she did this
The first thing I wanted to explore with you is the importance of mindset. If you go into this thinking all hope is lost, that you have lost your ex boyfriend or girlfriend forever or that this a new person has something that you don’t, you are setting yourself up for failure. Why? Simply because if you’re going to allow negative thoughts to cloud your mind, it’s going to be hard to focus and define an effective action plan.
The more you dwell on negative thoughts, the more time you waste, and the more you risk making mistakes. Pessimistic and destructive thoughts can actually put you at risk for desperate, needy, or clingy behavior, which is of course the exact opposite of what we want right now.
Her ex came back after a failed relationship because she had the right approach…
If you want an ex to come back after a rebound, you have to avoid doing things that will push them closer to their new boyfriend or girlfriend. Think about it this way, if your ex sees you behaving in a way that makes you look bad, it’s only going to reassure them and that they made the right decision in letting you go. What’s more, it makes it easier for them to get closer to their new partner, even if it is just a rebound.
So remember that the way you approach the situation will have a direct effect on your odds of success.
You can make your ex come back after a rebound relationship
Starting now, I want you to start telling yourself that you can make your ex come back after a rebound! You have what it takes, your ex has fallen in love with you before so you know what makes them tick, and this experience can actually serve as something that will make your relationship stronger in the future.
I know that is hard to believe at this moment, but it is not uncommon for me to hear from clients that this break up was actually a blessing in disguise. It sheds light on the issues that the relationship was facing, made them realize how important the relationship really wants to them, showed them what they were willing to do in order to make it survive, and gave them the opportunity to zero in on long-term solutions.
If you prioritize optimism, it will go a long way.
What to do when your ex rebounds: The key
One thing that is important to keep in mind is that rebound relationships typically don’t last. They serve as an emotional Band-Aid that help distract a person from the pain of a break up. The emotions that follow a break up can be very overwhelming and for some people, the best way to protect themselves against having to face them, is finding a good distraction – whether they consciously realize this or not.
That doesn’t mean that the emotions will not have to be dealt with at one point. They will surge up.
That is why you need to make sure that you are being presented in a positive light at all times! At one point or another, your ex will be curious about what you’ve been up to and might ask mutual friends or browse through your Facebook or Instagram… Word might even spread that you are doing very well, and this can also spark your ex boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s interest.
So instead of showing your ex that you are hurt and affected by their new relationship, show them that you are becoming the new and improved version of the person they fell in love with. If you are familiar with our philosophy, then you know that this is the key to success in the break up recovery process!
Making an ex come back after a rebound relationship by focusing on yourself
A lot of people ask me if they should use no contact when their ex is dating someone new, and the answer is that talking to your ex is not going to make any difference until you make changes in your own life. The truth is that if your ex made the decision to break up with you, it means that he or she started to doubt your overall ability to make them happy in the long run. So take some time to respond to these questions:
• What exactly went wrong in the relationship?
Did things become monotonous, predictable and boring? Did you get too comfortable in the relationship and stop making your partner feel special?
• In what way was your ex partner not fulfilled?
• What were you not communicating?
Until you’ve figured out what wasn’t working, reaching out to your ex won’t help anything. Success will come once you have started to make concrete changes and improvements in your own life. So instead of focusing on your ex and their new relationship, I encourage you to prioritize personal development.
Your ex’s rebound relationship doesn’t matter.
Yes, you read that right. Your ex’s rebound relationship and their new boyfriend or girlfriend do not matter! If it wasn’t this person, it would be somebody else, and they don’t actually have a role in your story with your ex partner. We need to focus on the variables that we can control: your own life.
Once you have made the changes you needed to make, you can communicate with your ex. You just need to make sure that you communicate in a productive way that presents you in a positive light, and that you approach the situation with grace and poise.
Do not to talk about your ex’s rebound to them !
As this article comes to close I want to highlight one more important element to keep in mind. Once you have made the necessary changes and it is time to reestablish communication with your ex, whatever you do, do not mention their new partner to them!
As far as you are concerned, this person doesn’t even exist. The moment you start asking about them, talking about them, asking about the relationship, etc, you give it power. In other words, the bigger deal you make a out of it, the bigger deal it becomes!
So it is very important that you show your ex through your attitude and approach that you know no one will ever at the value that you did to their life.
I know that each and every situation is entirely unique and that there are many variables that you are curious about. I wanted to provide you with a general exploration of this theme, but I encourage you to reach out to me or a member of my team for one-on-one guidance. By asking you targeted questions about your specific situation, we can provide you with a clear action plan that will help you reach your goal.
You can also leave any questions you might have been the comments section below.
Wishing you all the best in life and love,
Your coach when you want to make your ex come back after a rebound
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