How to get your ex back after 3 months and not look back

How to get your ex back after 3 monthsLove is funny… It can make us move mountains, it can make us make mistakes, it creates new habits, and it’s one of the strongest emotions a person can feel. I don’t want to give you a definition of what love is, but it’s important to remember these elements because a lot of people don’t understand how a situation like the one we are about to explore can exist.

Just a few months ago, you were still together and you had been in a relationship for a relatively long time. It had been intense and your emotions were sincere and strong. Unfortunately, this love story didn’t last and for one reason or another, you have separated.

Maybe you’ve dated other people since then, but your feelings for your ex have never really dissipated. You can’t, or you don’t want to turn the page and you’re wondering how to get your ex back after 3 months.

A lot of people might think it’s ridiculous to want your ex back after months (or even years,) but you shouldn’t let a third party influence your decision.

If deep down you know that this story isn’t over and you are hoping to get back together, why shouldn’t you try? Do you think if a breakup is starting to date back that it means that you can’t be together again? Well guess what.

I’m going to prove that the opposite is true in this article!

Why do I still think about this relationship so long after the breakup?

I know that most of you aren’t necessarily happy about not being able to move on from the breakup you had gone through. You want to be able to move on and to no longer feel like something’s holding you back. You dream of your ex and you’re asking yourself all kinds of questions about how to proceed.

But the one thing that you can’t seem to figure out is why they still occupy so much space in your mind, and you want to know why you can’t stop thinking about this relationship after such a long time.

First of all, the most obvious reason is Love. Love is what makes you want to figure out how to get your ex back after 3 months or more.

Your feelings for your ex haven’t disappeared; you’ve shared some very special moments together, you had a strong affinity, and you miss all of this. You haven’t found another person that made you feel like this…

If you have kids together, it’s even harder to move on and to forget your ex. You’re still in touch for your children’s sake and you still see each other often. It’s not rare for your emotions to remain strong, even if it’s been years since the divorce.

You spend an afternoon with the whole family together for a birthday, and that night you dream about the first time you had gone on vacation together, and about your relationship. This shows that you’re ready to take action to do what it takes to be together once again.

The best tips to figure out how to get your ex back after 3 months

In order to get an ex back after a long breakup, you’ll have to use some specific techniques because when months have passed, the methods you need will as well. If you haven’t been in touch with your ex for a while, Radio Silence isn’t the best move because you are already out of touch.

Communication is what you need if you want your begin a new relationship with your ex.

I’ve been talking about the process of getting back together since the beginning of this article, and there is one principal that needs to be respected at all times: never rush things.

When you want to know how to get your ex back after 3 months or more, you have to take some time to think because the person you had known before may have changed.

Before you think about getting back together, having new plans together, you have to get in touch first and get to know each other again. You have to do this even if you haven’t been in touch for 3 months because things can evolve very quickly.

Whether you like it or not, the breakup has left a mark and you’re not the same person anymore either. This doesn’t mean that you two are strangers to one another, but it’s important to rediscover one another.

When you want to reestablish communication with your ex you have to present them with something new and avoid basing all your conversations on the past. If you haven’t changed anything since you’ve separated, whether it’s physically, professionally, or in other aspects of your life, your ex will feel like they’re just returning to the past.

In order to attract them, you need to show them something new and exciting. Talk about a trip you went on, your promotion at work, or issues you had been faced with that you had surmounted. This is a great way to create an exchange and to start over.

You shouldn’t try to have the same foundations that you had when you were still together. A huge number of men and women make this mistake. Don’t forget, the relationship ended up in a separation so avoid the past at all costs, and don’t make the same mistakes as before.

One tip for getting your ex back after 3 months is using physical attraction. You already know each other and if you had been together it means that there was already a considerable amount of attraction. So it’s up to you to recreate this chemistry with the person that you’re still in love with.

The best thing to do is to begin a game of seduction. If you can spark their interest by becoming more seductive and more confident, you’re going to make them want to approach you again despite the distance between you.

Your support to grasp how to get your ex back after 3 months,

Sincerely,

Adrian
Motivational speaker, Life Coach & Relationship Expert

  • Joe

    so i went 3 weeks no contact like you suggested and worked on everything in between try to reach out and still blocked ,it sucks cause i still want her back, no time will change that but when do you just give up trying when do you realize you cant get her back ?.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Joe,
      Like I said during our call, stay focused on our plan and let’s work on this letter.
      I still believe that we will win her back, just stay patient!
      Best,
      Adrian

      • joe

        sent you a copy of letter, let me know if its good to send

  • Help?

    Hello,
    I can’t afford any coaching sessions, but I was hoping you could read my story and give me any advice you might have!

    My ex and I broke up 4 months ago. We were together 7 months, and it was great! The last month I noticed he was distancing himself, then he dumped me. He told me lots of things, but mostly that he just didn’t want a serious relationship right now. (He will be leaving on a church mission in the summer for two years, maybe that’s why? He didn’t really say… Part of me thinks it’s his parents…) Yet it’s very common for missionaries to continue their relationships, or at least try, while they are abroad. I thought that’s what we would do. He told me he was falling in love with me and wanted to date seriously when he returns, meanwhile we would just be friends. We would still spend time together, and I’d go to church with him, etc.

    I took that to heart, but about two weeks in he quit talking to me. Not ignoring me, just not initiating contact like before. Sadly, I totally fell apart. I tried to get answers from him a couple times but nothing came of it. I gave up. Then in February he started seeking me out again, texting and talking to me a lot. I was so happy, but also very suspicious. I see him every day because I manage his tennis team, and he spent all his time with me once the season started. Others began to ask me what was going on, so I knew it wasn’t just in my head. I confronted him about it and spilled my heart once again (I know, not a good move), and he basically told me he doesn’t like me anymore, doesn’t see how it would work out even when he gets back (he cited my going far for college as the issue) and that he “doesn’t see the problem with being friendly”…

    That was about a month ago. He quit talking to me as much, of course. I know I messed up confronting him, but I’m so confused. When he broke it off, he really fell apart. He cried and cried, and seemed so adamant that we date in the future. He even told me it was “not a break up, just a break.” I guess he changed his mind, but I was really holding on to that. He is an incredible guy, and I love not only him but his whole family. I know nothing big will happen before he leaves, but I feel like if we part ways now as things are we may not be able to find a future. I know I want him, I’d do anything, but I need him to want that too. I can’t tell what he really wants. I only have about 3 months left with him, I don’t know what to do. He’s still friendly to me, if I talk to him, but he is to everyone. He doesn’t initiate contact anymore, and I know he is subtly blowing me off a bit now as well.

    If you have any guidance, I’d really be grateful ?

    Thanks!

  • CoachAdrian

    Hey,
    I will preach patience here. If you know this is “the one” you will need to control your emotions and accept to stay friends for now. Prove to him that you can stay on good terms and be friendly with him in general. Do not chase him, but simply ensure that you leave him with a positive image of you before he goes away…
    In time once he realizes that you are no longer his, the fear of loss will work in your favor. However you will need to be patient and rebuild your appeal and value as right now you are fighting an uphill battle.
    I sincerely wish you all the very best.
    From my heart to yours,
    Adrian

  • jorge58

    Hi, my name is Jorge and I been living together with with my girlfriend for about 2-3 years. We first were close friends that met each other online before we started to date in real life after visiting each other. I first visited her home and met her family. She then came to visit me and meet my family. Then after some times we gained feelings for one another and I asked her if I could live with her and her family and that is how we start to be together ever since. She has been having problems from time to time with our relationship with how we got together (had to choose between another guy that she met online or me). She choice me because she did have feelings for me she never really felt for anyone else. She wasn’t sure the other person would be best for her. Throughout our time together we had great times like any other couple. And there were other times she would be overcome with sadness thinking of her past and would question about if she had depression and if our relationship was right to get together by having to choose. I would give her time to think and usually helped her and after we would talk and be happy to be with each other. But recently we been very stressed out with each other and she would not give me much attention. She would not look at me much or talk to me much and really didn’t feel like talking about us. We had these a few times before but wasn’t as serious. Just yesterday we finally talked and she told me she felt forced into being together and felt that she had been pushing aside her thoughts and didn’t love me the way I did to her. She said she wanted her independence, freedom and to be stable. She doesn’t want to return home as she never happy being there and felt it was hell living there with all the problems she dealt with daily with her family. Also, we been in financial problems and she was the only one working lately. I am not sure exactly what to do. She wanted to break up and I agreed with her but still live together for the time being and be close friends. She was unsure what would happen in the future but told me that she can see us being together again but was afraid all this would happen again. So I am lost as to what to do. Should I let her go or should I keep trying as I truly do want her in my life. I don’t want to force her into coming back to me. I really do want her to realize how much I meant to her. Sorry for such a long read and lacking some the details. Just need guidance before I do anything to see if can change anything.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hello Jorge,
      Thank you for sharing your story with me!
      I understand the dynamic and what led to the breakup. You suffocated her with your love and became needy early on in your relationship. The fact that you were essentially living with her family, and unemployed also prevented you from being able to inspire her!
      Moving forward your challenge is going to be to quickly find a sense of emotional independence while also proving to her that you are indeed the man that can make her happy and bring some thrill and excitement into her life.
      I believe that I can help you achieve this goal.
      If you are serious about doing everything possible to win her back, I urge you to reach out to me and book a coaching session.
      I sincerely hope to hear from you soon.
      From my heart to yours,
      Adrian

  • Blessed

    Hi my ex broke up with me five months ago and . He started dating someone just one week after our break up … Within a week he was telling everyone that he is in love with.. ,we have a child together but comes to see our son he acts like he still has feelings but afraid to say it and other times he just wants to pick a fight over NOTHING .. I still love him what is your advice to me pls. Thank for all

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey,
      This situation is indeed quite unique but I truly believe that I can help you win him back because of the fact that you still have a child together and thus have a platform to prove to him that you can make him happy.
      If you are serious about doing everything possible to make it work, please book a coaching session.
      I look forward to help you meet your goals!
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Blessed

    Adrian.. Thank how is the coaching as I DON’T have a lot of money.

    • CoachAdrian

      Here is a link to our coaching page;
      https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
      During our session I will take the time to listen to your story and pinpoint exactly where things went wrong and why; I will provide you with a tailored game plan to meet your goals; and answer all of your questions.
      Hope to hear from you soon.
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Blessed

    I can’t afford any of that now.. I may have to wait and see what I come up . Thank you so much your post .May GOD continue to bless you in every thing,

    • CoachAdrian

      Thank you and good luck!

  • ryan

    hi i broke up with my ex 6 months ago, i didn’t text her back or nothing i never saw her i just left. this left her devastated and in a dark place and angry. she loved me so much and would do anything for me and i just took her for granted! she still loves me now. i’ve realised how much i love this women and i want her back, i recently got in contacted her and wrote a letter to tell her how sorry i am and how much i love her. she now has a boyfriend she’s been seeing for a couple of months I’m guessing, she’s told me she still loves me but she’s angry with me for coming back into her life and expecting her to drop everything for her(which i don’t expect her to do) she says she going to give this new bloke a try and i should respect her decision. we had been together for 3 years i just feel she’s more angry than anything thats why she being like this. i really don’t know what to do i think about her every day i just want her back

    • CoachAdrian

      Thanks for reaching out. Are you sure that you want her back for the right reasons? What has changed since the breakup? And how have you tried to prove to her that you won’t take her for granted again? These are all questions that I would need answers too, but for now what I can tell you is that it is definitely still possible to win her back. The fact that she is still talking to you and that you are the one that broke up should be enough. All you need is a plan to regain her trust. I highly recommend that you book a coaching quickly to avoid making more mistakes and to speed up the recovery process.
      Best of luck either way!
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Myra Novak

    Adrian, excellent article! I am trying to get my ex back but need expert advice. How can I reach you and schedule a coaching session?

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Myra,
      Thanks for booking a session, and again thank you for your trust.
      I love working with you and I am convinced that we will turn it all around.
      Speak soon,
      Adrian

  • Kristi Welker

    I have been with my ex for the last 7 years. We have a 4 year old son together. In the beginning we were both so into each other, in love with each other. Over time I developed something called a co dependency for him. I became needy and slowly pushed him away. He stopped trying as hard, and became less and less interested in me. It became to the point where I was left being strung along, with my emotions running high for this man, and hoping for something to be different. We broke up 4 days ago. With a few attempts to contact me, a have not answered him. I am so hurt and I feel like I am to an point where I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve always wanted things to work with him so much, but Idk if it will? Is it too late? Should I just give up? Or is there something I can do?

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Kristi,
      Thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. If this could be your soulmate you owe it to yourself to fix the deep rooted issues and to make things work. Having a kid together is an extra incentive to fight for this relationship. Please let me help you, let’s work together to help you evolve and snap out of this co dependency once and for all. I hope to hear from you soon.
      From my heart to yours,
      Adrian

  • Chazz Baltimore

    Good evening! I broke up with my girlfriend cause she wasn’t over her previous relationship, we broke up on good terms, she said her feelings were somehow “blocked and locked up”. We tried to solve the ex guy issue, he cheated on her and wounded her deeply, after some time I had to realise I can’t help her, she was still carrying the wounds and I can’t give up my mental sanity for someone who is emotionally not available to be in a relationship. She said she wants to be with me, but not like this, wants me to be happy and not to always worry about her crappy mental issues, I love her but I am giving her time and not contacting her so she could sort out her feelings or if she really wants to be with me. We also attend to the same university, have the same classes, so we meet pretty often. Maybe sometime later we could make this work? Do you think letting her “go and be alone” might help her? Wish I could be with her, but she insists on pushing me away in order to save me from misery. Thanks in advance!

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Chazz, don’t think that she should be alone…that’s probably not the answer. You simply have to approach her in the right way.
      Book a coaching session in order for me to help you!
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Fernanda

    Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. First year in a long distance relationship then we moved in together. He got a job and had to move out, I stayed because of my job. Everything was working out even though it was hard to be distant again. Out of the blue he text me ending our relationship. He said our situation was not healthy. I tried to call him that night but he did not pick up. I decide to step back and we haven’t talk or seen each other for almost 3 months. I still grieving and missing him a lot. I really want to have a chance to talk to him again, however, I don’t know how to approach him on the way he answer me back. I tried to go out and meet other people but I can’t take him off my heart. I would really appreciate an advice on how to initiate a contact. Thank you.

  • Sharon

    I have had a really rough break up after almost 4 years together. It’s been 4 months now. I did everything wrong and did the begging and pleading bit after the breakup. My ex has remained in contact and every time I would try no contact it would fail. As he would reach out and start talking about emotional triggers that would draw me back in, which would start the cycle of me asking him to reconcile our relationship. Which would lead him to switch up from being hot to being cold and irritated. He says he wants to be friends and when I try that too, he also does the emotional triggers that had me asking for reconciliation. I called him on this and he got annoyed. I think he is seeing someone as well. Though he denies it. He keeps insisting he loves me and misses me. But he’s not making any action to get back together. He is also on top of the world as he has had a promotion and things are going well for him. I still love him and want him back, but I feel he only contacts me when he bored or whatever. And when he is good he speaks to me but causally. Which just makes me sad as I want more. So my question is what is he doing and do I still have a chance of getting him back. Or is this hopeless because he seems happy and I’m feeling like he is slowly fading away and moving on with his life. what should I do ?

    • Coach natalie

      Hi Sharon,
      Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation, and I know how painful it can be to feel mixed signals from your ex, especially when you’re trying to get back with him around the 3 month mark. I definitely do feel that you have a chance at getting your ex back, but you’re going to have to make a solid action plan. I can definitely help you with this if you decide. Please feel free to book a session using this link, https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
      Sincerely,
      Coach Natalie

  • Sha

    I have had a really rough break up after almost 4 years together. It’s been 4 months now. I did everything wrong and did the begging and pleading bit after the breakup. My ex has remained in contact and every time I would try no contact it would fail. As he would reach out and start talking about emotional triggers that would draw me back in, which would start the cycle of me asking him to reconcile our relationship. Which would lead him to switch up from being hot to being cold and irritated. He says he wants to be friends and when I try that too, he also does the emotional triggers that had me asking for reconciliation. I called him on this and he got annoyed. I think he is seeing someone as well. Though he denies it. He keeps insisting he loves me and misses me. But he’s not making any action to get back together. He is also on top of the world as he has had a promotion and things are going well for him. I still love him and want him back, but I feel he only contacts me when he bored or whatever. And when he is good he speaks to me but causally. Which just makes me sad as I want more. So my question is what is he doing and do I still have a chance of getting him back. Or is this hopeless because he seems happy and I’m feeling like he is slowly fading away and moving on with his life. what should I do ?