Love is funny… It can make us move mountains, it can make us make mistakes, it creates new habits, and it’s one of the strongest emotions a person can feel. I don’t want to give you a definition of what love is, but it’s important to remember these elements because a lot of people don’t understand how a situation like the one we are about to explore can exist.
Just a few months ago, you were still together and you had been in a relationship for a relatively long time. It had been intense and your emotions were sincere and strong. Unfortunately, this love story didn’t last and for one reason or another, you have separated.
Maybe you’ve dated other people since then, but your feelings for your ex have never really dissipated. You can’t, or you don’t want to turn the page and you’re wondering how to get your ex back after 3 months.
A lot of people might think it’s ridiculous to want your ex back after months (or even years,) but you shouldn’t let a third party influence your decision.
If deep down you know that this story isn’t over and you are hoping to get back together, why shouldn’t you try? Do you think if a breakup is starting to date back that it means that you can’t be together again? Well guess what.
I’m going to prove that the opposite is true in this article!
Why do I still think about this relationship so long after the breakup?
I know that most of you aren’t necessarily happy about not being able to move on from the breakup you had gone through. You want to be able to move on and to no longer feel like something’s holding you back. You dream of your ex and you’re asking yourself all kinds of questions about how to proceed.
But the one thing that you can’t seem to figure out is why they still occupy so much space in your mind, and you want to know why you can’t stop thinking about this relationship after such a long time.
First of all, the most obvious reason is Love. Love is what makes you want to figure out how to get your ex back after 3 months or more.
Your feelings for your ex haven’t disappeared; you’ve shared some very special moments together, you had a strong affinity, and you miss all of this. You haven’t found another person that made you feel like this…
If you have kids together, it’s even harder to move on and to forget your ex. You’re still in touch for your children’s sake and you still see each other often. It’s not rare for your emotions to remain strong, even if it’s been years since the divorce.
You spend an afternoon with the whole family together for a birthday, and that night you dream about the first time you had gone on vacation together, and about your relationship. This shows that you’re ready to take action to do what it takes to be together once again.
The best tips to figure out how to get your ex back after 3 months
In order to get an ex back after a long breakup, you’ll have to use some specific techniques because when months have passed, the methods you need will as well. If you haven’t been in touch with your ex for a while, Radio Silence isn’t the best move because you are already out of touch.
Communication is what you need if you want your begin a new relationship with your ex.
I’ve been talking about the process of getting back together since the beginning of this article, and there is one principal that needs to be respected at all times: never rush things.
When you want to know how to get your ex back after 3 months or more, you have to take some time to think because the person you had known before may have changed.
Before you think about getting back together, having new plans together, you have to get in touch first and get to know each other again. You have to do this even if you haven’t been in touch for 3 months because things can evolve very quickly.
Whether you like it or not, the breakup has left a mark and you’re not the same person anymore either. This doesn’t mean that you two are strangers to one another, but it’s important to rediscover one another.
When you want to reestablish communication with your ex you have to present them with something new and avoid basing all your conversations on the past. If you haven’t changed anything since you’ve separated, whether it’s physically, professionally, or in other aspects of your life, your ex will feel like they’re just returning to the past.
In order to attract them, you need to show them something new and exciting. Talk about a trip you went on, your promotion at work, or issues you had been faced with that you had surmounted. This is a great way to create an exchange and to start over.
You shouldn’t try to have the same foundations that you had when you were still together. A huge number of men and women make this mistake. Don’t forget, the relationship ended up in a separation so avoid the past at all costs, and don’t make the same mistakes as before.
One tip for getting your ex back after 3 months is using physical attraction. You already know each other and if you had been together it means that there was already a considerable amount of attraction. So it’s up to you to recreate this chemistry with the person that you’re still in love with.
The best thing to do is to begin a game of seduction. If you can spark their interest by becoming more seductive and more confident, you’re going to make them want to approach you again despite the distance between you.
Your support to grasp how to get your ex back after 3 months,
Sincerely,
Adrian
Motivational speaker, Life Coach & Relationship Expert
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so i went 3 weeks no contact like you suggested and worked on everything in between try to reach out and still blocked ,it sucks cause i still want her back, no time will change that but when do you just give up trying when do you realize you cant get her back ?.
Hey Joe,
Like I said during our call, stay focused on our plan and let’s work on this letter.
I still believe that we will win her back, just stay patient!
Best,
Adrian
sent you a copy of letter, let me know if its good to send
Hello,
I can’t afford any coaching sessions, but I was hoping you could read my story and give me any advice you might have!
My ex and I broke up 4 months ago. We were together 7 months, and it was great! The last month I noticed he was distancing himself, then he dumped me. He told me lots of things, but mostly that he just didn’t want a serious relationship right now. (He will be leaving on a church mission in the summer for two years, maybe that’s why? He didn’t really say… Part of me thinks it’s his parents…) Yet it’s very common for missionaries to continue their relationships, or at least try, while they are abroad. I thought that’s what we would do. He told me he was falling in love with me and wanted to date seriously when he returns, meanwhile we would just be friends. We would still spend time together, and I’d go to church with him, etc.
I took that to heart, but about two weeks in he quit talking to me. Not ignoring me, just not initiating contact like before. Sadly, I totally fell apart. I tried to get answers from him a couple times but nothing came of it. I gave up. Then in February he started seeking me out again, texting and talking to me a lot. I was so happy, but also very suspicious. I see him every day because I manage his tennis team, and he spent all his time with me once the season started. Others began to ask me what was going on, so I knew it wasn’t just in my head. I confronted him about it and spilled my heart once again (I know, not a good move), and he basically told me he doesn’t like me anymore, doesn’t see how it would work out even when he gets back (he cited my going far for college as the issue) and that he “doesn’t see the problem with being friendly”…
That was about a month ago. He quit talking to me as much, of course. I know I messed up confronting him, but I’m so confused. When he broke it off, he really fell apart. He cried and cried, and seemed so adamant that we date in the future. He even told me it was “not a break up, just a break.” I guess he changed his mind, but I was really holding on to that. He is an incredible guy, and I love not only him but his whole family. I know nothing big will happen before he leaves, but I feel like if we part ways now as things are we may not be able to find a future. I know I want him, I’d do anything, but I need him to want that too. I can’t tell what he really wants. I only have about 3 months left with him, I don’t know what to do. He’s still friendly to me, if I talk to him, but he is to everyone. He doesn’t initiate contact anymore, and I know he is subtly blowing me off a bit now as well.
If you have any guidance, I’d really be grateful ?
Thanks!
Hey,
I will preach patience here. If you know this is “the one” you will need to control your emotions and accept to stay friends for now. Prove to him that you can stay on good terms and be friendly with him in general. Do not chase him, but simply ensure that you leave him with a positive image of you before he goes away…
In time once he realizes that you are no longer his, the fear of loss will work in your favor. However you will need to be patient and rebuild your appeal and value as right now you are fighting an uphill battle.
I sincerely wish you all the very best.
From my heart to yours,
Adrian
Hi, my name is Jorge and I been living together with with my girlfriend for about 2-3 years. We first were close friends that met each other online before we started to date in real life after visiting each other. I first visited her home and met her family. She then came to visit me and meet my family. Then after some times we gained feelings for one another and I asked her if I could live with her and her family and that is how we start to be together ever since. She has been having problems from time to time with our relationship with how we got together (had to choose between another guy that she met online or me). She choice me because she did have feelings for me she never really felt for anyone else. She wasn’t sure the other person would be best for her. Throughout our time together we had great times like any other couple. And there were other times she would be overcome with sadness thinking of her past and would question about if she had depression and if our relationship was right to get together by having to choose. I would give her time to think and usually helped her and after we would talk and be happy to be with each other. But recently we been very stressed out with each other and she would not give me much attention. She would not look at me much or talk to me much and really didn’t feel like talking about us. We had these a few times before but wasn’t as serious. Just yesterday we finally talked and she told me she felt forced into being together and felt that she had been pushing aside her thoughts and didn’t love me the way I did to her. She said she wanted her independence, freedom and to be stable. She doesn’t want to return home as she never happy being there and felt it was hell living there with all the problems she dealt with daily with her family. Also, we been in financial problems and she was the only one working lately. I am not sure exactly what to do. She wanted to break up and I agreed with her but still live together for the time being and be close friends. She was unsure what would happen in the future but told me that she can see us being together again but was afraid all this would happen again. So I am lost as to what to do. Should I let her go or should I keep trying as I truly do want her in my life. I don’t want to force her into coming back to me. I really do want her to realize how much I meant to her. Sorry for such a long read and lacking some the details. Just need guidance before I do anything to see if can change anything.
Hello Jorge,
Thank you for sharing your story with me!
I understand the dynamic and what led to the breakup. You suffocated her with your love and became needy early on in your relationship. The fact that you were essentially living with her family, and unemployed also prevented you from being able to inspire her!
Moving forward your challenge is going to be to quickly find a sense of emotional independence while also proving to her that you are indeed the man that can make her happy and bring some thrill and excitement into her life.
I believe that I can help you achieve this goal.
If you are serious about doing everything possible to win her back, I urge you to reach out to me and book a coaching session.
I sincerely hope to hear from you soon.
From my heart to yours,
Adrian
Hi my ex broke up with me five months ago and . He started dating someone just one week after our break up … Within a week he was telling everyone that he is in love with.. ,we have a child together but comes to see our son he acts like he still has feelings but afraid to say it and other times he just wants to pick a fight over NOTHING .. I still love him what is your advice to me pls. Thank for all
Hey,
This situation is indeed quite unique but I truly believe that I can help you win him back because of the fact that you still have a child together and thus have a platform to prove to him that you can make him happy.
If you are serious about doing everything possible to make it work, please book a coaching session.
I look forward to help you meet your goals!
Sincerely,
Adrian
Adrian.. Thank how is the coaching as I DON’T have a lot of money.
Here is a link to our coaching page;
https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
During our session I will take the time to listen to your story and pinpoint exactly where things went wrong and why; I will provide you with a tailored game plan to meet your goals; and answer all of your questions.
Hope to hear from you soon.
Best,
Adrian
I can’t afford any of that now.. I may have to wait and see what I come up . Thank you so much your post .May GOD continue to bless you in every thing,
Thank you and good luck!
hi i broke up with my ex 6 months ago, i didn’t text her back or nothing i never saw her i just left. this left her devastated and in a dark place and angry. she loved me so much and would do anything for me and i just took her for granted! she still loves me now. i’ve realised how much i love this women and i want her back, i recently got in contacted her and wrote a letter to tell her how sorry i am and how much i love her. she now has a boyfriend she’s been seeing for a couple of months I’m guessing, she’s told me she still loves me but she’s angry with me for coming back into her life and expecting her to drop everything for her(which i don’t expect her to do) she says she going to give this new bloke a try and i should respect her decision. we had been together for 3 years i just feel she’s more angry than anything thats why she being like this. i really don’t know what to do i think about her every day i just want her back
Thanks for reaching out. Are you sure that you want her back for the right reasons? What has changed since the breakup? And how have you tried to prove to her that you won’t take her for granted again? These are all questions that I would need answers too, but for now what I can tell you is that it is definitely still possible to win her back. The fact that she is still talking to you and that you are the one that broke up should be enough. All you need is a plan to regain her trust. I highly recommend that you book a coaching quickly to avoid making more mistakes and to speed up the recovery process.
Best of luck either way!
Sincerely,
Adrian
Adrian, excellent article! I am trying to get my ex back but need expert advice. How can I reach you and schedule a coaching session?
Hey Myra,
Thanks for booking a session, and again thank you for your trust.
I love working with you and I am convinced that we will turn it all around.
Speak soon,
Adrian
I have been with my ex for the last 7 years. We have a 4 year old son together. In the beginning we were both so into each other, in love with each other. Over time I developed something called a co dependency for him. I became needy and slowly pushed him away. He stopped trying as hard, and became less and less interested in me. It became to the point where I was left being strung along, with my emotions running high for this man, and hoping for something to be different. We broke up 4 days ago. With a few attempts to contact me, a have not answered him. I am so hurt and I feel like I am to an point where I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve always wanted things to work with him so much, but Idk if it will? Is it too late? Should I just give up? Or is there something I can do?
Hey Kristi,
Thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. If this could be your soulmate you owe it to yourself to fix the deep rooted issues and to make things work. Having a kid together is an extra incentive to fight for this relationship. Please let me help you, let’s work together to help you evolve and snap out of this co dependency once and for all. I hope to hear from you soon.
From my heart to yours,
Adrian
Good evening! I broke up with my girlfriend cause she wasn’t over her previous relationship, we broke up on good terms, she said her feelings were somehow “blocked and locked up”. We tried to solve the ex guy issue, he cheated on her and wounded her deeply, after some time I had to realise I can’t help her, she was still carrying the wounds and I can’t give up my mental sanity for someone who is emotionally not available to be in a relationship. She said she wants to be with me, but not like this, wants me to be happy and not to always worry about her crappy mental issues, I love her but I am giving her time and not contacting her so she could sort out her feelings or if she really wants to be with me. We also attend to the same university, have the same classes, so we meet pretty often. Maybe sometime later we could make this work? Do you think letting her “go and be alone” might help her? Wish I could be with her, but she insists on pushing me away in order to save me from misery. Thanks in advance!
Hey Chazz, don’t think that she should be alone…that’s probably not the answer. You simply have to approach her in the right way.
Book a coaching session in order for me to help you!
Sincerely,
Adrian
Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. First year in a long distance relationship then we moved in together. He got a job and had to move out, I stayed because of my job. Everything was working out even though it was hard to be distant again. Out of the blue he text me ending our relationship. He said our situation was not healthy. I tried to call him that night but he did not pick up. I decide to step back and we haven’t talk or seen each other for almost 3 months. I still grieving and missing him a lot. I really want to have a chance to talk to him again, however, I don’t know how to approach him on the way he answer me back. I tried to go out and meet other people but I can’t take him off my heart. I would really appreciate an advice on how to initiate a contact. Thank you.
I have had a really rough break up after almost 4 years together. It’s been 4 months now. I did everything wrong and did the begging and pleading bit after the breakup. My ex has remained in contact and every time I would try no contact it would fail. As he would reach out and start talking about emotional triggers that would draw me back in, which would start the cycle of me asking him to reconcile our relationship. Which would lead him to switch up from being hot to being cold and irritated. He says he wants to be friends and when I try that too, he also does the emotional triggers that had me asking for reconciliation. I called him on this and he got annoyed. I think he is seeing someone as well. Though he denies it. He keeps insisting he loves me and misses me. But he’s not making any action to get back together. He is also on top of the world as he has had a promotion and things are going well for him. I still love him and want him back, but I feel he only contacts me when he bored or whatever. And when he is good he speaks to me but causally. Which just makes me sad as I want more. So my question is what is he doing and do I still have a chance of getting him back. Or is this hopeless because he seems happy and I’m feeling like he is slowly fading away and moving on with his life. what should I do ?
Hi Sharon,
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation, and I know how painful it can be to feel mixed signals from your ex, especially when you’re trying to get back with him around the 3 month mark. I definitely do feel that you have a chance at getting your ex back, but you’re going to have to make a solid action plan. I can definitely help you with this if you decide. Please feel free to book a session using this link, https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
Sincerely,
Coach Natalie
I have had a really rough break up after almost 4 years together. It’s been 4 months now. I did everything wrong and did the begging and pleading bit after the breakup. My ex has remained in contact and every time I would try no contact it would fail. As he would reach out and start talking about emotional triggers that would draw me back in, which would start the cycle of me asking him to reconcile our relationship. Which would lead him to switch up from being hot to being cold and irritated. He says he wants to be friends and when I try that too, he also does the emotional triggers that had me asking for reconciliation. I called him on this and he got annoyed. I think he is seeing someone as well. Though he denies it. He keeps insisting he loves me and misses me. But he’s not making any action to get back together. He is also on top of the world as he has had a promotion and things are going well for him. I still love him and want him back, but I feel he only contacts me when he bored or whatever. And when he is good he speaks to me but causally. Which just makes me sad as I want more. So my question is what is he doing and do I still have a chance of getting him back. Or is this hopeless because he seems happy and I’m feeling like he is slowly fading away and moving on with his life. what should I do ?
Hi Adrian. How can I find out how much it costs to book a session with you?
Hey Susan, you can find the different packages that we offer here:
https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
I look forward to speak with you soon!
Best,
Adrian
please can you help me i dont know how to use this app to tell u my problems do u have account on facebook ? please i need your help too much
Hi I have a very long story and basically the bottom line is that I would do anything to get my ex girlfriend back. We were dating for about 10 months and the first 4 months were amazing! We loved each other very much but after constant arguing afterwards we completely drifted apart. I was going out drinking and lieing about that, my ex behaved very hot and cold and was always in control and that got between us. She has recently lost close members of her family and that has not helped at all and I’ve tried to be there however she has pushed me away and cut all contact now. I pestered her and didn’t leave her friends and family alone desperate to get any sort of reaction and I now realise that was wrong. She broke up with me begging of december but called me on nye saying she wanted to see how it’s goes between us and start a fresh. We then met 2 weeks later and everything went fine, we cuddled, we talked and agreed that we need to give it another go. She even told me she loved and missed me. Then it all went pear shaped again and she was talking to me in a very cold and distant manner which really tormented me and caused me to behave irrationally by pestering her for answers etc. Our last contact she said things like; drop dead, wish I never met you, I don’t love you anymore, do I have to sleep with someone so that you get the message, and many other hurtful things. I’ve had all this before but we have always reconciled. I know my problems are through alcohol use and depression and I believe that we both have demons to get past. All I know is that she is the one and I want to win her back. It’s not easy as I’m blocked on all of her social media and her friends and family have told me to leave it. I really want to get her back and am prepared to answer any of you’re questions and fingers crossed I can make her miss me and fall In love again. Hoping it’s not too late because I really love this girl with every bone in my body.
So my ex gf broke up with me on NYs day. She blamed the fact that I had some traits she didnt’ like and felt I wouldn’t/couldn’t change as she had already discussed this with six months earlier and nothing had happened. I started the wrong way begging etc doing everything I shouldn’t initially but then I read up about it and stopped and tried to get mental strong. 23 days later we moved from low contact (while she cleared the rest of her stuff out – she delayed taking it all) and we had to rehome our gliders (again she was upset about this) and get my keys back (she got upset when I asked for this). 2 days after breaking up she joined the sugar daddy site and began seeing/dating a rich guy(S). I know for sure she’s slept with one but she’s made it clear she doesn’t want to get re-attached. She has date nights Wednesday and Saturday specifically no other days like routine. Previously before the no contact started she had been contacting me every so often (maybe once twice a week) she also asks her brother about me.
What would be the best plan of action in this situation.. she works down the road so its easy for me to bump into her, atm i’ve changed my route to avoid contact. 30 days of no contact finishes on feb 18th, so I’d like to have an idea of the best way to deal with things.
Hi Adrian,
I broke up with my girlfriend in January, but after about 3 weeks I realized my mistake and tried to get back to her. At this point however, the tables turned and she didn’t want to get back together because my attitude and laziness had been dragging her down. Past this I made every mistake usually known, begged, bought her flowers, promised changes and acted in a slightly desperate aggresive way (No shouting or physical violence). To make matters worse she had a debt to me, which I got persistent about in a bad way and wanted her to set up monthly payments (Regretted my approach to this and apologized soon after). It’s been a month since this and her “unfriending” me on facebook, so please tell me if there is a chance of getting her back? And can your course help me do this? We were together for about 1.5 years.
Kind regards
– Frederik
Hi Fred,
I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I think that Adrian’s Crash Course can certainly help you on your journey back to your ex. I do have faith in your ability to turn this around. If you take the course, you also get a big discount on a session with Adrian. This may also really help you.
Please let us know how to course works for you. We’re invested in your story.
Best,
Coach N.
Hi Fred,
Thank you for your feedback! If you register through the Crash Course, you’ll get a 30% discount on the 1 hour session. I think that, for now, let’s just use an hour to assess what’s going on and to develop a game plan. We may not need more than that if you have a pen and paper ready. I think you’ll gain a lot of insight on what to do to maximize your chances at getting your ex back.
I’m excited to connect with you and to learn more about your story,
Coach N.
Hi,
I made a no contact of 3 months (Yeah I know it was too much, but I felt that I was not ready).
This month I decided to message my ex, and she respond. We talked a
few days. However, almost her messages were neutral (not pure neutral
like “yes” or “ok”), sometimes she didn’t respond at all and all the
time it must be me to initiate the conversation.
So after a few days I decided to say that she looks indifferent about
me (I didn’t react as needy or desperate, I text her in a calm way),
and she told me that if she was indifferent, she wouldn’t respond at
all. So I decided to ask for a coffee and she declined saying that it
was too soon to meet someone who broke up only a few months ago (3
months).
The thing is that I really not understand her. She seems a lot
uninterested but when I say that she is uninterested about getting in
touch again (no idea if I should do that, but sometimes it feels that I
am talking with a zombie) she says that it is a lie, that she answer
only when she has something to answer and she says only when she has
something to say. However she never initiate.
Should
I continue to talk to her knowing that most of the times she doesn’t
respond or make again No Contact after that 3 months of No Contact?
If I should make again no contact, after a few days it is going to be my birthday. If she gives me
happy birthday (probably via Facebook) should I thank her?
Thank You
Hi John,
When it comes to understanding an ex, we often oversee how critical seeing their side is. I can really help you here. I invite you to book a session with me. I can support recovering this relationship.
Wishing you the very best,
Coach N.
Hello I need help she’s over me cuz she made I her mind how can i get to her .
Hi Alfredo,
I would recommend that you book a one hour private coaching session in order for me to respond to all of your questions, provide you with insights and a clear way forward.
I sincerely hope to hear from you soon.
Coach N.
Hi, it’s been 4 months since I ended a 4 year relationship with my ex, mostly because I knew I needed to work on myself as I was negatively impacting the relationship. We’re in on/off contact, mostly via text, seen each other for coffee, and I know she still thinks highly of me when were doing well. But I know I’ve made some bad mistakes which I know have pushed her further away from me such as bring up the past and taking the conversation into an emotional and painful place. I know now that I shouldn’t bring it up. I’m committing now to get her back and make our relationship better than ever. I’m trying to meet with her face-to-face for the first time in a while, but she seems on-the-fence about seeing me. I’m trying to play it cool and relaxed and not force anything, but I’m also worried that she is becoming less interested. What should I do?
Hello Dennis,
Thanks for reaching out.
I think that I can help you turn things around but you will need to book a coaching session in order for us to work together.
You can book a coaching session with me here:
https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
If you book a session, I will reach out to you right away to schedule a time and day for us to speak.
Hope to chat with you soon!
Sincerely,
Coach Natalie
My ex bf broke up with me about 2 months ago and I’ve been miserable ever since, we was together just under a year (10 months) which is quite a long time considering we are both 14. He ended the relationship due to “too much arguing” I was very needy when he first broke up with me-begging for him back and what not, but I am going to try applying the no contact rule, will it work? We often speak but it doesn’t seem he wants anything more. Is there anything I can say now or after the no contact rule that doesn’t make me seem needy/desperate in any way? I am just miserable and it would mean the world if I could have him back. Thankyou
I and my ex broke up 2 months ago and he started hating me even coz he thinks that all this way I have been fooling him and lying to him about my love him …Also the conditions made him think so…He is also sure that I was on a double date,though I wasn’t nd he also got FAKE proofs for tht…I myself saw tht ….
Now he has started hating me like hell nd thinks me as a girl who isn’t Virgin anymore,coz he got my n****s from my ex…Wht shall I do to get him back…Also he is planning to go out with some other girls nd when I asked him so..He said tht he is gonna date another girl and he is after his ex girlfriend a lot even after so many denials from him…
My ex broke with me 10 days AFTER we returned from a tropical island, yes we did have an argument there, but we patched it up not only there but also a week later we patched it up. We had dated for 11 months. Then one day we went toa watering hole and the bartender asked if I were on a date with her; yes an 11 month date.. I got a weird look from the bartender. Was it something I said or something he knew? Yep, it was something he knew; the girl I was with had been cheating on me forthe past 4 months at that watering hole; coming in almost every week with some other guy paying the tab. I was the last one to find out she was a ‘skank’.
Luckily we weren’t married. Be careful what you wish for;the relationship you thing is normal because it has ups and downs like all relationships do..In some circles that is viewed as a challenge going forward. Some girls want a perfect relationship as girlfriend /boyfriend before they will ever jump a broom. Some want a certain physique for their husband ” a trophy” even if they are no trophy themselves.. like a size 22.. ..Some girls you can’t please no matter how much you do for them they want to be treated like dirt cause that’s what they are used too. When you praise them & do everything for them they treat you like dirt and our selfish. C’est la vie.. (age 59)
It’s almost 3 mths since I contacted my ex.
He divorced me in 2014 claiming it was only because I didnt want to have children (I was already in my 40s when we met). It really seems hopeless but I’ve really struggled to let go hence my decision to stop initiating contact for a while. I don”‘t know what to do next as he is not reaching out to me but am afraid of leaving it too long.
Hi Anita,
Thank you for reaching out – I know how hard this is. I invite you to schedule a session with me so I can learn more. The more I know, the more thorough my advice on what you should do will be. Please visit this link if you are interested in connecting : http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
All the best!
Coach N
I have been with my ex around 7 months and recently he broke up with me.
I really don’t know why he broke with me. Our relation was very good. There were ups and Downs but still we never think of leaving each other.
Even my bf was too much possessive for me. He loved me so much. He promised me alott that he will never leave no matters how’s the situation. And always gives me assurance.
But one day he said I’m pissed off and I want to leave. He said I’m done.
How could he quit? 😔
I begged and pleaded alott but he don’t change his decision.
He never talked with me in high pitch but on that day he abused me and said get out of my life.
Plzz tell me what should I do.
I’m not in my senses.
It’s been 2 months and I haven’t moved on. I’m still waiting that may be he will come…
Hello. It was 6 month relation.we was so good.he also admited that we were fine together. The break up started 2 months ago.he asked for a break.and then he went for vacation and he slept with someone.i found out by his phone.anyway we had huge fight.he appologized few times and i accepted.after he was on and off most of times.and i was mixed by him.so one day i decided to do smthing i spoke with a guy so i can know his intentions.he saw and he was so angry even he said to me before i can do wtever i want.and he told me that even if he had a little feeling for me now not and that the woman he want to have not to talk to other men.that meant that he had feelings for me.but he never said.ofcourse bcs im not a playgirl i explained him many times.but he refused to listen and he yet speaks to that girl.it is so hard for me.but also lately we met 2 times.1 time 3 days ago.but we argue and i explained him that i did to know his feelings.he said many things that day that could not sleep.and 2 days ago met again bcs he wanted to do some tests.and we spoke.i explained my feelings the day before and he said he is sory.also i admit my mistake i did and that i know it was stupid.and that i care.also that day i tried touching his arm.we even huged so tight.that night he had to go to a party.and a common friend invited me that day.im not sure if he told her or not.but bcs he asked me before if anyone invited me i told him no.
At the party he didnt leave me.and we dance together all night and we kissed.he saw a common guy kissed my hand that mean respect.i felt him lil jelous bcs he kissed our common friend hand.
but i want a 2nd chance.i even try to show him that.and i do care.when he tell me go see someone.i tell him i dont want.we started meeting recently..i love him …i need some help ..thx
Hey Coach Adrian,
So I am a single mother an unfortunately just cannot afford a coaching session. But I’ll give you the low down and see what you think. I reconnected with an old friend a little over a year ago. We started casually dating and after about 7 months decided we wanted to be in an exclusive relationship. We made it official and with in 3 months he broke things off with me… Back up a little – when we first started hanging out (after about one month) he told me that he wasn’t looking for a serious relationship as recently (within the previous 2 months) his ex left him claiming to be a lesbian and he just wasn’t ready for anything serious. They were together for 4 years and have 2 dogs together, therefore they remained friends and share custody of the pups. Turns out a few months after leaving him she came clean and told him she was not a lesbian and that she just didn’t know how to break up with him without hurting him. Apparently she treated him pretty poorly. Anyway, things began to develop between us and soon we were casually dating. We had an awesome time dating and spent a lot of time together. He invited me to parties and introduced me to all his friends, he introduced me to his parents and siblings, he invited me to his grandmother’s birthday out of state, we went hiking, watched football, had long late night conversations, etc. He told me how we shared a connection that he’d never felt with another woman and wanted to make us an official exclusive couple. I was honestly never really worried about his ex. At least not until he decided to move into her house. She was having financial troubles and moved out of her home and decided to rent it. Because they have the dogs together he offered to rent the house with a mutual friend of theirs, that way he could keep the dogs there and not have to look for a place that would allow dogs. They have a nice large fenced in yard where the dogs could roam free. About a month after making the decision to move in there was when he told me he wanted to be exclusive with me. Things continued wonderfully, I would go spend the night there, we had fires in the yard, laid in hammock and star gazed, he was always goofy and making me laugh, he treated me and my daughter like princesses. We spent weekends at his parents house on the lake (they absolutely adored both me and my daughter, buying us clothes and inviting us to stay whenever we wanted), we went away for weekend trips together to visit friends and/or family. I was weary to completely open up to him as so many men in my past had hurt me, he begged me to open up and let him in, told me he was willing to fight for me and show me that I could trust him and trust that he was not like these other men. And he was right, he was nothing like any man I have met before, he was kind loving, sensitive, funny, never rude of mean, always making sure I was ok, treated both my daughter and I amazing, not jealous, always understanding, I could go on and on. So finally I let him in and started opening up to him. Unfortunately during all of this I was going through a rough time, I did not have stable housing and was staying with friends and family, I was very stressed but he was always there for me whether I needed a hug or a shoulder or an ear. He was my best friend and my lover. There was never a time that we weren’t happy together, our chemistry was undeniable and everyone could see it… One night while my daughter and I were staying the night at his place, his ex showed up with their mutual friend and decided to spend the night. This made me a bit uncomfortable and he completely understood my uncomfortableness. We did get into a fight about it as I felt it odd for her to just show up and stay the night and he defended her saying it’s her house and she has that right. A fews days later after things calmed down I explained to him that I would feel much more comfortable if they set up some sort of boundaries and he agreed. We discussed it only one more time and then things were fine. We continued on with our relationship very happily. After planning a surprise party for his mother and all spending the weekend up at her house, we had planned to spend the next few night alone at his house as the mutual friend would be gone. The second day in I caught him in the stupidest lie ever, he had taken the salad I left in the fridge for my daughter to work thinking it was his roommates (and she was gone for a week so he figured he’d eat it instead of let it go bad), he immediately came clean but because of previous trust issues I blew this out of proportion. That night when we were alone together I brought it up and he instantly got defensive, then out of no where he broke up with me. He told me he wanted to stay friends, that he cherished me and my daughter, that he still wanted me to come to his parents house with him and to come hang out with his friends as they all adored me. I told him that I could not be his friend because I was in love with him and would always desire a relationship with him. He would not let me leave as we had been drinking so I slept on the couch. In the middle of the night I must have got up to go to the restroom and wandered into his bed. I woke up in his arms as he rushed out the door for work saying I hope we can stay friends. I texted him and immediately apologized for the fight and explained. A day later he messaged me and told me he could not do it anymore, that we were fighting too much for him to appreciate all the good we had together, and that we should have to change (or let our walls down) for the person we love, that we should understand and work around that. I went over and we talked, we both cried and when I left I gave him a hug and told him that someday I hope he finds the love he is looking for because he is an amazing man with so much wonderful love to give. I waited a month before texting him to get my stuff from his house. He was kind and friendly and helped me load my stuff into the car, gave me high fives and then went back inside. It has now been another month and I have heard nothing from him. We went from talking every day and being best friends to not talking at all. I miss my best friend and I still love this man very much. I would do just about anything to reconcile our relationship. What can I do? Is it too late? How do I approach him when he has made no contact with me at all? I would greatly appreciate any adive or insight you could give me!!
Hi Atlantic Front,
I’m sorry to hear about your current situation – I know how challenging this is. Due to the complexity of your relationship, I can’t really assist without knowing a lot more context (8.5 years is a lot to cover 😉 ) I invite you to consider scheduling a one-on-one with me, so we can discuss and see what will put you in the best possible position to rekindle.
Hope to connect sometime soon,
Coach Natalie
Hi Sagar, being without contact for a month in a relationship is a very long time, and it seems to me she lost your trust. I would encourage you to purchase our EBOOK https://www.withmyexagain.com/product/70-pro-tips-to-get-back-with-your-ex-for-women/ on getting your ex back and regaining her trust back again. She may be feeling very hurt and may need some space. This particular situation is delicate since you didn’t contact her for a month. Your ex may feel as though she was left out of your life. If this is something you wouldn’t do again, I encourage you to show through actions. I recommend you to set up a coaching session with one of our coaches so we can guide you through these action steps. Hope to hear from you soon.
Sincerely,
WMEA Team
Hello Patrick,
Thank you for your comment. I know these times can be a little confusing and it seems as though there is still some contact with you and your ex. I invite you to look into this as it may help you with getting back into a relationship with her. https://www.withmyexagain.com/product/70-pro-tips-to-get-back-with-your-ex-for-men/
Best,
Coach Natalie
Hello Lola,
I invite you to do some self-reflection and some personal development. I believe right now you should just focus on yourself and then see where this goes. When doing this I wouldnt make yourself too available and give him some space so he can see that you are seriously working on some personal development. Good Luck!
Best,
Coach Adrian
My ex and I were in a long distance relationship for over 2 years, we saw each other every 4 months and he broke up with me nearly 3 months ago over Skype. I made the mistake of begging him to take me back and he eventually blocked my number. I haven’t spoken to him for a week and my next chance to visit him is at the end of December. I’m running out of time and hope, can you give me some advice please?
Hello Anne,
Without knowing the full context of the relationship I would not be able to give you advice. You can feel free to reach out to us for a private coaching session if you feel called to. Also, I have attached a link that may give you some guidance. https://www.withmyexagain.com/blog/get-back-with-your-ex-following-a-long-distance-relationship/
Best,
WMEA Team
I have found out last night she is dating someone else. Then I’m puzzled, why does she still want me around?
Just after purchasing your e-book and will be reading it tonight 👍
Great! Would love to hear what you think when you finish it. Also just in case here is another blog that you may find useful. https://www.withmyexagain.com/blog/is-my-ex-rebound-relationship/
Best,
WMEA Team
Hello Emiksanek,
Thank you for your comment. If you still want to be in a relationship with your ex I think its a great idea to try and move forward if there are still feeling there. Depending on the reason for the breakup I would invite you to read our EBook which will give you some direction and help you along the process. https://www.withmyexagain.com/ebooks/
Best,
WMEA Team
Hi Patrick,
It can be but you have to stay focus and implement this breakup in the right way in order to try to win her heart back. The Ebook should give you guidance on how to do this.
Best,
WMEA Team
Hello,
I was with my ex boyfriend for 11 years, who broke up with 3 months ago. We have 2 boys together 3yr old and 8 months. We’ve of course been through plenty of ups and downs but I guess this last round was the last. He is seeing someone else and sometimes gives me mixed feelings when he comes over to visit the boys. We were intimate twice since the break up and nothing seemed to change his mine. I really have hope and want to fight for my family but I don’t want to continue to be misled so I gave him till next month to make a final decision. So I can move on. Is that wrong. I don’t know what to do.
Hello Irene,
I know this time can be very confusing and hard. My advice to you would be to work on your self-development. What I mean by this is let your ex see change. Change can be you focusing on something your passionate about, working out , changing your look, and something that will capture his attention. Also, really sit back and analyze the relationship and see where things went wrong. Then see how you can change to show that these things will not happen again.
Best,
WMEA Team
Mo,
I know this is an extremely difficult time. We are here for you and if you would like some guidance to move you forward in this relationship please reach out to us here. https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
Best,
WMEA Team
Hello Ida,
During this time I would act as though this does not affect you. He is feeling hurt it seems and I would allow him to go through these emotions and give him time.
Best,
WMEA Team
I can’t believe it today after class he waited for me and asked if we could talk. He said he is really really sorry for what he said on the telephone (one month ago) and he did not mean anything he said. Well does this also mean he does not think the realtionship is broken? I just said well it’s fine and than we had smalltalk until my bus came. How should I go on in this situation? I’m confused bc he got really close and touchy with a few girls in uni which I have to vitness everyday and seems very happy. Nevertheless he had to reach out again after so many weeks with no contact to say he is sorry eventhough it wasn’t even relevant anymore… did he just do it to not feel any guilt? Or does he still cares for my admiration?
Hello Ida,
I invite you a private coaching session so we can go over the full dynamics of the relationship and I can give you tailored advice. https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
Best,
WMEA Team
I would love to but I can not afford it right now. Thanks though for this amazing website!
hi my ex boyfriend finished our 3 year relationship 2 months ago due to my insecurities other than one text 4 weeks ago there has been no contact, in that message he told me he still loved me but couldnt get back with me as he didnt see things changing, since our break up i have spoke to a councellor about my issues and i still love and miss my ex do u think their is any chance of getting him back, he still has me on his fb and my pics are still on his instragram and he still looks at my snapchats when i put them up
Hello Sabrina,
If you are focusing on moving forward to better yourself since the breakup, this can be a great chance for you to get him back. Without the dynamics, through a private coaching session, it would be hard to give advice. You are more then welcome to schedule a private session if you feel you need more guidance. Focusing on you and moving forward and showing that you are changing through implementing actions is a great way to start. Your ex will reach out again as three years is hard to waste.
Best,
WMEA Team
Hello Sabrina,
We have a couple different options for sessions. Here is the link. Looking forward to speaking with you. 🙂
https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
Best,
WMEA Team
Hello Bea,
It seems as though he may have another relationship at this moment. Even though I am not 100% it seems as though there are signs that lead you too this. What I would suggest is to do some self-reflection here. Ask yourself why you would want to be with this man if he does not show you security and shows a lack of security and faith in your relationship. I invite you to a private coaching session so I can help you get to your goal. Wishing you the best. https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
– WMEA Team