So you want to get back with your ex? You want to know how to make your ex miss you and want to get back together? It’s possible to seduce your ex and make him or her regret the fact that you are no longer together. In order to achieve this goal and to once again be reunited with the man or woman you love, you will need to have a game plan and put some thought into your approach.
This is where I come in to provide you with my expertise in order to help you get back together. As a relationship expert and love coach I speak with people just like you, who are going through a similar situation every single day. I often get asked how to make my ex want me back, especially if he or she is the one that broke up? In this article I will share 3 powerful steps that will shift the balance of power in your favor and make your ex want to be with you again!
Radio Silence is a good way to make an ex miss you and want to be with you
Following a separation you are often put in a compromising or vulnerable situation; especially if the decision to end the relationship was taken out of your hands. You may be surprised, angry, or hurt and you react accordingly telling your ex things that won’t make him or her want to take you back.
So the first step that you should take is to surprise your ex; instead of pleading and begging to get another chance, take some distance and do a radio silence. A no contact period of at least a couple of weeks following a breakup can prevent you from making mistakes, and also force your ex to face the separation. If you are constantly reaching out to them or calling every other day they won’t feel as if you are out of their lives. He or she will have the comfort of knowing that a change of heart is always possible and that you will be there waiting. In order for your ex to want to get back together it is necessary for him or her to understand what life without you is like!
That’s how you will be able to make your ex miss you and genuinely want to hear from you. Just make sure that you stay positive if he or she reaches out to you and that you show them that you are staying active and busy and not letting the breakup hold you back. You will need to show an evolution and an eagerness to engage in projects or endeavors of your choosing; that is a good way to start to inspire your ex to want to be with you again.
How to make my ex want me back if I’ve made mistakes?
It’s absolutely crucial for you to understand the reasons that led to the breakup if you want to have any shot at making it work with an ex. That’s why the second step that you will need to take is to reflect on your relationship and ask yourself where things went wrong and why? By finding the root causes of the issues that you both experienced, you will be able to change your behavior and thus prove to your ex that you can make them happy in the long run.
It is essential for you to acknowledge some of your shortcomings or the mistakes that you may have made. So when the people that I coach ask me “how to make my ex want me back ?” I often reply “you need to acknowledge your mistakes and want to change”. Your ex will always be more receptive if you show an ability to be self-critical and acknowledge some of the issues that he or she must have brought up while you were together!
You must really take a step back in order to really understand some of your ex’s frustrations; you will need to understand the fundamental issues that you experienced as a couple in order to surprise your ex with your ability to analyze your past relationship. More than simple talking points, you will be able to start thinking about potential solutions that you can start to implement right away in your daily life. It will prove to your ex that you are serious about changing and make him or her feel better about being in another relationship with you!
A well written letter can make an ex forgive you!
Once you have identified targeted messages that you want to share with your ex; you will need to showcase your change or evolution and find the right approach to ensure that your ex is receptive to your message. I have found that very often the best way to communicate with an ex after a no contact period is through a hand written letter. Words on paper can be very powerful because they provide the reader with the ability to understand each and every single one; to be fully engaged and not worry about their own thoughts or reply. Furthermore you will surprise your ex! When is the last time that you wrote a letter to him or her? This alternative way of communication will further enhance your change or the new you and increase your chances of getting back together!
You will need to make sure that your letter is written in the right way, that’s it’s not too long and that its centered around specific targeted key messages. You will need to stay positive in your letter and not convey any criticism or negativity to your ex. You will want to use certain key words that will further prove your change and that will make your ex want to give it another try; you will need to pass along your deep desire to make him or her happy in the long run and once again become that person that he or she always dreamed of being with at the beginning of your relationship.
Each letter will need to be tailored around your specific love story and include examples that will speak to your ex and make him or her want to be with you again. For further support, don’t hesitate to reach out to me or to book a one on one coaching session in order for us to work on writing the perfect letter together. It would be my pleasure to help you meet your goal of getting back with your ex.
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