You’ve probably been waiting for this for days, weeks, or maybe even months as you’ve been working on trying to get back together! You’ve been wanting your efforts to pay off and in your opinion, the best way to know that your efforts have been working is if your ex comes back and kisses you. There has been a pretty good amount of time between fights, you had put distance between you and now you’ve gotten back in touch, and it’s true that a kiss is a big sign and serves as great motivation in terms of continuing carrying out your plan of action. Many men and women think that the process of getting your ex back comes to a close as soon as you press your lips against theirs and like magic you’re back together. Does kissing your ex really mean that you’re back together? Does this step mean that everything is back in order?
At the moment that you’re thinking, “I kissed my ex,” your head becomes flooded with questions. Contrary to what one might think, this isn’t a simple situation to be in. You want to speed things up but you also don’t want to rush your process of getting back together… so you don’t quite know how to proceed.
It’s important to properly handle this post-breakup situation so that you don’t make any mistakes. You’re going to get a better understanding of what all this means and whether or not your attempt at getting back together can come to a close.
I kissed my ex, are we back together?
It’s true that this is an important step especially when your rapport with your ex was less than perfect. When contact was severed and conversation wasn’t getting you anywhere, of course any gesture or moment of tenderness with your ex is welcome. So it’s of course a good thing when you kiss your ex!
Keep in mind that this doesn’t mean that your work is done and that you should get carried away. I know that it’s not easy because you don’t want to lose another second without the person you love by your side. You miss your ex and your relationship is a priority, so of course you want to make things go as fast as they can. However, if you’ve been following my method then you know how important big changes are both in terms of yourself and in terms of your relationship. Just one kiss doesn’t mean that everything is back to normal and that you don’t have to continue working on improvements that will make your ex want to be with you again.
Let’s take a simple example. You’re using radio silence, it’s working and you’re figuring out what wasn’t functioning in your relationship. You could write your ex a letter inspired by one of the templates that you can find in my book, “70 Pro Tips To Get Back with your Ex,” in which you express the changes you’ve made and the fact that you’ve figured out what needs to be fixed. But if you kiss your ex before seeing things through, you will have skipped some very important steps. Under these circumstances, you risk shooting yourself in the foot or only getting your ex back temporarily. If you haven’t built solid foundations, kissing your ex doesn’t mean that your work is done. In fact, if this is the case, you have to be extra careful!
How to not make mistakes after having kissed your ex
“I kissed my ex, should I call them or should I wait for them to do it?” “Are we back together?” … There are a ton of questions that rush through your mind in this situation and the fact that you had kissed your ex isn’t enough to get rid of all your doubts and uncertainties. In fact, it might even amplify them!
The first thing to avoid doing is asking your ex questions about what just happened, such as, “Why did you let me kiss you? Do you forgive me? Do you still love me?” All of these questions put a huge amount of pressure on the person instead of helping them to enjoy the moment. Interrogations like this could even make them regret kissing you. You just shared a nice moment and you’re going to conjure up negative thoughts by ‘harassing’ them like this.
Another important thing is enjoying the moment without trying to dissect and analyze it. You’ve been waiting for this for weeks and you don’t want to ruin it by making mistakes! Don’t demand explanations; just focus on continuing your efforts so that you can remain in control of your thoughts.
In other words, you’re going to have to act as though nothing had happened and as if everything was normal. If you become too eager, you can forget to pursue your attempt at getting back together, and if you keep racking your mind with questions, you’re not going to get anywhere.
Be careful not to act like you’re in a relationship after you get a kiss from your ex
I wanted to dedicate a portion of this article to one of the most commonly made errors after you kiss your ex. Not only does a person tend to stop working on their attempt at getting back together, they begin acting as though they were automatically back together and they forget about the weeks that they had been separated from their partner. If you want to advance and truly rebuild a solid couple, you’re going to have to avoid doing this!
It’s of course fantastic when you’re able to kiss the man or woman that you want to be with again, but that doesn’t mean that you should be thinking, “Ok great, now we’re a couple again.” It’s important that you avoid making huge declarations of your love because the breakup leaves a mark that doesn’t get erased by one kiss.
You have to talk about the breakup and the solutions you have to provide so that you can relieve the tension between you. A kiss is a good sign that your ex is still susceptible to your charm, but you still have to communicate and adopt a good attitude so that you can get close to them in the best way possible.
If you’re saying I kissed my ex, you should take advantage of this moment to get closer and to bring your attempt at getting back together to a close. There are a few more little steps that you have to complete, that are important to not neglect. It’s the details that make up a person’s love life that make all the difference so don’t risk pulling a faux pas by rushing things.
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