Understanding the psychology behind how to make someone miss you is the key to success. When you pay attention to basic human nature, it becomes much easier to make someone miss you and begin to crave being around you. I work with people every single day who come to me for help in making the person they love miss them, and I always make sure to explain the psychology behind it.
Because this is such a common topic, I wanted to write an article for you on how to make someone miss you psychology, so that you can start to define the best action plan for getting your ex back for good! I have dedicated my life to helping people get back together with the person they love, and this has enabled me to gather quite a bit of insight regarding what goes on in a man’s mind following a breakup. So let’s dive right in, shall we?
How to make someone miss you psychology: what is the key?
One of the things I always remind my clients of is the simple, yet often overlooked fact that if your ex made the decision to leave this relationship, it means that he or she had lost faith in your overall ability to make them happy long term.
There is always a reason behind the breakup, whether it is one big thing or if it’s an accumulation of multiple little things that pushed your ex to a breaking point. The main thing that’s going to change the situation is YOUR ability to change.
Your ex is not going to want to get back into the same exact relationship you had before because you both already know how that ended. The goal right now will be to show him or her that you have understood what needed to change, and the breakup served as a wake up call for you.
How to make them miss you by surprising them
We want to make your ex start falling in love with you again by realizing that you are evolving and becoming the person that they had lost faith that you could be. We want to surprise them in the best way possible.
So if you can put yourself in your ex’s shoes and start zeroing in on what exactly went wrong, you can start to define concrete solutions.
For example, if he or she felt that you were selfish, now would be the perfect time to start prioritizing selfless activities that start to positively impact the lives of others. Carve out some time to volunteer at a homeless shelter, or bake a batch of your favorite cookies for a retirement home on a regular basis.
By doing things like this, not only will you be making the lives of those around you better, you’ll surprise your ex in a way that will make him or her think, “Wow, my ex really seems to be growing and changing in a way that maybe I was too quick to assume wouldn’t ever happen… I think I miss them.”
Keeping your eyes open when you want to make your ex fall for you again
That said, there is another thing I want you to keep in mind. Oftentimes, a person will focus so much on the psychology behind making a person miss you that they actually think about how they can adapt to their ex’s expectations, without factoring in what’s best for themselves. A specific example comes to mind as I write this.
I recently worked with Anna, who was trying to use the psychology of love to make her ex miss her. One of the main reasons why their relationship fell apart was that she was extremely tidy and organized, but her ex was the exact opposite. He needed her to be more chill and stop harping on him for being so messy. It caused a lot of tensions in their relationship until he felt like he couldn’t take it anymore.
So I explored the relationship and breakup with Anna. I asked her to reflect on the situation and really ask herself if the relationship was worth her giving up living in a clean home that genuinely made her happy. In her specific situation, she realized that there were multiple elements like that that made her feel like it would be better to go back to the drawing board and actually consider dating someone that is on the same page as her.
So I invite you to keep your eyes open and make sure that you’re setting yourself up for a future full of happiness!
Using NC psychology to make someone miss you
Now, let’s take a look at how to use female and male psychology to get someone back. As I said above, the key to success in these situation is surprising your ex and showing him or her that you can actually become the person that they weren’t sure you could be.
There are a couple different tools available to you to help you do this, and if you are familiar with our philosophy, then you have undoubtedly heard of the no contact rule. For those of you who are unfamiliar with this tool, it basically consists os giving your ex an electroshock that makes them realize that you have taken them off that pedestal and they no longer have access to you like they thought.
In many cases, we see that it’s easy for an ex to take advantage of you because you’re always available to them. When you stop being readily available to them, you surprise them and spark their attention. As you do this, it is imperative that you use this time wisely!
The NC rule is to be used for a predetermined period of time that depends on the intricacies of your relationship, ranging from three weeks to three months. While you’re in zero contact with the person you love and miss, you are to focus entirely on yourself and how you can improve your life.
Make sure that you are carving out ample time to focus on your personal and professional goals, especially if you had neglected them while you were in the relationship! Think of what other types of activities you can introduce that can bring you joy. The busier you are with things that benefit you, the better. Think about how you can use this time to make other people happy as well!
For example, you can focus more on your passion for baking AND take a fresh batch of cookies to your favorite aunt that you haven’t seen in a while. The busier you are, the better!
Get more physically active and you’ll start to see a shift in your mood, that will make you feel more motivated to keep making positive changes in your life.
For more in-depth information on how to use the no contact rule, I highly recommend reading this article. We are also here to help you every step of the way, so please don’t hesitate to get in touch for one on one coaching and it would be our pleasure to help you define the perfect action plan to make someone you love miss you.
Thinking about human nature when you want to use psychology to make someone miss you
As this article comes to a close, I want to do a quick recap.
At the end of the day, your ex wanted to see changes that didn’t happen, so now is the time to prove to both you and your ex that you are capable of changing and evolving!
It is basic human nature to take something for granted that we assume belongs to us and isn’t going anywhere. So the key to making someone miss you psychology is surprising your ex in the best way possible by becoming the new and improved version of the person they fell in love with in the first place, using a tool like the no contact rule to give yourself the opportunity to bounce back and make improvements, while showing your ex that your world no longer revolves around them, and proving to yourself that you can be the person you’ve always wanted to be.
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Wishing you all the best in life and love,
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