When you break up with someone, it’s very common to experience doubts about whether or not it was the right move to do so. Maybe it happened in the heat of the moment during a fight. Maybe it had been brewing in you for a while before something happened it was the last straw. You pulled the plug. But now, you’re not so sure…
Did I make the right decision to break up? What if I was wrong, is there anything I can do now? Is it too late? Have I lost the love of my life? I know that right now your head is full of questions and you’re trying to find some clarity. Fortunately, you’ve found this site and you have all kinds of tools at your fingertips that will help you to make the right move right now. Whether you decide to get your ex back or not, rest assured that you will find help and guidance from A to Z right here!
I don’t want you to panic if you’re thinking that you may have made the wrong move. It’s not the end of the world and you can turn things around, but you’re going to need to be careful with how you approach the situation. Together we are going to go over how to determine whether this was the best choice, or if it’s time to turn things around and attract your ex back into your life.
Did I make the right decision to break up: Analyzing the situation
There is one thing that always happens when a person decides to pull the plug on a relationship. At one point in time, whether it’s right away, a few months down the line, or maybe even a few years down the line, doubts surge up.
Doubts surge up and make you question your decision to leave this person, the reason you had for doing so, and what’s going to happen next. Sometimes people begin to experience fear about what the future holds, and I wanted to take a moment to make sure that your doubts about leaving your ex are not stemming from just the fear of being alone.
So much fear surges up in your body and you start to question the decision. It’s not because the reasons for breaking up with that person were necessarily wrong; it’s because the fear begins to overshadow those reasons.
Right now, the one thought that keeps running through your mind is, “Did I do the right thing breaking up with him or her,” and it’s very important to get to the root of why you’re feeling this way.
At this stage, you’ve stepped out of your comfort zone… Your comfort zone being your ex. Now you’re single, maybe it’s been a while since you were single, and it’s all feeling very foreign and kind of scary. If on top of that you’re looking at your ex and thinking that this person might be the love of your life, it’s normal that you might feel a bit of panic surging up.
The most important thing to do right now is to really take the time to explore how you’re feeling and figure out what you truly want. Is your doubt about breaking up with your ex stemming from the discomfort of being suddenly single, or have you been able to put things into perspective and now you are certain that this is the person that is right for you? It’s important to be very honest with yourself right now. If you truly want your ex back, there is nothing to be ashamed of and there is plenty that you can do to turn the situation back around.
If you aren’t sure about why you’re feeling like this and whether or not breaking up was the right thing to do, it’s important to take some time. This is not something to rush. If you truly want your ex back, you’re going to have to take the time to build something solid and that doesn’t happen overnight!
One thing to think about when you’re wondering if breaking up was the right thing to do, is to think about whether you were giving much more to this relationship than your ex was. Also, if you knew at the time that that was the decision you needed to make, you have to trust yourself.
As I said, the fear you’re feeling right now can overshadow the reasons you had for making this decision, and it can make you experience a huge amount of pain.
I want you to understand that this is normal, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that you made the wrong decision in breaking up with this person. Sometimes the loneliness and the fear can make you worry that you’ll never find someone better and that you lost your chance with the love of your life. That is why it’s so important to go back to the emotions you were feeling when you made the decision to leave.
If deep down you know that those reasons were valid, then you should trust your decision.
On the other hand, if at the end of the day you’re realizing that this might have been a false move, don’t panic…
Did I make a mistake breaking up with them? If so, here’s what to do!
So you’ve taken the time and you’ve come to realize that though you had been thinking about breaking up for a while, it was a mistake to actually do it. Now you regret your decision and you’re panicking at the prospect of losing the person you love for good. So what can you do?
And what if the breakup isn’t even recent? Is there anything that you can do when you want your ex back?
I’ve got good news for you! As an expert in love and relationships, specialized in getting people back together, I can confidently tell you that you CAN get your ex back.
You’re probably thinking, “I think I was wrong when I said, ‘We need to break up…’” But let me tell you something that perhaps you aren’t aware of yet. You are actually in a favorable position because you’re the one that made the decision.
The goal is to hold on to the power and switch your focus to re-attracting your ex.
Now, that doesn’t mean that it’s going to be easy. Getting this person back will require personal development, introspection, patience, self control, motivation, and hard work, but at the end of the day, you’re going to be happy you did it. Just make sure that you use this time wisely.
One thing I would like to mention is that given the circumstance, the No Contact Rule would not be ideal for you. The first step for you would be to reestablish communication with your ex, and do your best to avoid talking about the past. You need to focus on the future, not what happened yesterday.
If you focus on the past, keep apologizing, and if you are needy, you’re going to send them down a negative memory lane. You’ll either be putting them on a pedestal, or you will not be giving yourself the opportunity to build something new with them.
You want to new relationship that is independent from this breakup.
It’s important to note that yes, perhaps this was a mistake and you regret breaking up, but it is through mistakes that we are able to learn and shape the future to that is becomes better.
This is an opportunity to hit the reset button and create an entirely new relationship with your ex. You just need to be able to propose something entirely new!
If there was something wrong in your relationship, you and your ex are going to have to discuss it if you’re going to get back together. You do not want to end up in the same situation again a few months down the road! He needs to understand why you left, and when you start piecing things back together, you’ll have to work as a team to overcome those obstacles in the future.
You’ll both need to be honest with one another once you start having more serious conversations, and don’t be afraid to talk about what needs to change. This will come after you’ve gone through the re-attraction phase.
As always, we are here to help you every step of the way so don’t hesitate to reach out. Leave any question you might have in the comments section below or get in touch with me or a member of my team right here!
Wishing you all the best
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