My ex is acting like an idiot but I still love them!

my ex is acting like an idiotAre you feeling a mix of hate and love after the breakup? Do you want to get back together with your ex, but you’re furious with them for all the pain they’ve caused? How do you analyze your emotions in order to press ahead?

After breakups, I often hear people say, “My ex is an idiot, but I still love them.” It’s true that we can’t control our emotions and sometimes we are attracted to someone that has made us suffer. So you’d like to understand what you’re feeling, and also know if your ex significant other still has feelings for you as well. This is what leads to making big mistakes because you have a tendency to focus on your emotions, your past relationship, and the past; three elements that your ex does not want to erase.

In this article I present great methods to use if you want your ex back, and you want him or her to make the first move. A large number of the women I coach on a daily basis are prone to being needy or compliant, putting their ex on a pedestal, and then they talk about not feeling appreciated. When a person says their ex is an idiot, it’s important to come to understand why things have changed, and to be able to adapt their strategy to rectify the situation.

This is why I want to help you to ask yourself pertinent questions about your desire to get back together, and also to clarify your own needs, before taking action and seducing your ex-significant other.

My ex hurt me but I still love them. Is this normal?

When a breakup takes place, you feel an incredible amount of suffering. The reason we have created our coaching agency in order to help you overcome this heartbreak.

My goal is to help you bounce back after this shock, to help you become aware of your actions in order to avoid committing errors, and also to help you choose the right actions to set into motion. Even though you’re hurting, you still have strong feelings for your ex-partner and you’re feeling that you’re not going to be able to turn the page.

This ambivalent feeling makes sense because you’re angry at your ex’s decision to break up, but it doesn’t change the fact that you are still in love. You are going to have to learn how to control your emotions in order to only let positive ones shine through. Just because your ex is acting like an idiot right now doesn’t mean that you have to act the same way!

Ask yourself these questions to help evaluate the situation:

-What could you do to avoid conflict with your ex?

-What positive image would you like to give him/her?

-What actions will help you rebuild yourself and overcome negative emotions?

Take some time to think about these questions. The main thing I’m asking you to do right now is to not declare your love to your ex. Avoid showing how you feel and your desire to get back together, because at this stage, it will only make your ex feel forced, and therefore want to back away.

My ex is acting like an idiot right now and I want to know why?

These days you’ve been asking yourself, “my ex is acting like an idiot since we broke up is it my fault?” you may feel that you’ve improved your own actions, but your ex is remaining pig-headed.

In order to understand a separation and to know why your ex is acting so stupidly, you have to analyze his or her behavior, as well as the reason behind the breakup. If they just recently decided to break up, you find yourself in a delicate situation because your ex is expressing that they were unhappy in your relationship. You can take into consideration the fact that he or she felt like that had no choice but to end your relationship.

Your ex isn’t trying to hurt you; they’re just trying whatever means possible to pick up their own morale. So even if he or she says hurtful things to you and maybe doesn’t even want to see you, don’t panic.

To take it one step further, I’d say that acting out after a separation is not that surprising, as we can’t control our emotions and your ex is just as upset as you are.

The best state of mind, even when my ex is being mean!

The most important thing when trying to get an ex back is to always make sure you won’t have any regrets.

Therefore I suggest you take your time to avoid making mistakes and to make sure you’re in the right frame of mind. This is why I want to reiterate not rushing anything. Take things one day at a time to best control your emotions.

In order to focus on your own well-being, avoid analyzing your ex’s actions. As I’ve explained earlier in this article, your ex will have to face their emotions and their state of mind might not be completely reflected in their words or actions. This is why you should never use your ex’s behavior as a gauge of the success of your attempt at getting back together.

Just because your ex is acting like an idiot right now doesn’t mean that you are doing something wrong! You will see positive changes little by little, and eventually you will see significant results and a complete turn around in your ex’s actions.

You have to take your morale into your own hands and adopt the right behavior, even if you’re thinking “my ex is hurting me by acting to stupidly.”

I often say that anger is an emotion that can help you to understand what your ex is feeling. If you were faced with someone who ignored you and avoided communication, you’d find yourself in a delicate situation. You, like your ex, would refuse to see any change.

Now is the time to revamp your state of mind by changing your actions that will benefit your attempt at making your ex take you back. Doing this will benefit you, even if your ex is acting like an idiot, and you want more respect.

I wish you the best in getting back together with your ex

Kind regards,

Adrian, your relationship expert for getting your ex back.


    Hi my name is Cassaundra. I don’t know what to do anymore, I feel helpless and alone. Me and my ex boyfriend were together for about only five months, I know it doesn’t seem long but it was the happiest 5 months of my life. Of course we fought sometimes, but it was never a big deal. One day before he went on vacation he broke up with me after a huge fight and said he wanted to be friends, but I told him no because I can’t do that. An hour later he begged for me back. He went on vacation for a week, texting me the whole time saying he missed me, but the day he got back he randomly told me to never talk to him again, and from then on we were broken up. He said he was sorry for everything and I sent him a long message telling him my feelings, which probably was a mistake. Since then, he texted me a couple times, once while drunk, and once when he couldn’t sleep just to say hi. Then a couple days later he randomly blocked me on Twitter and Instagram, and about a week after that he texted me telling me I’m wierd and annoying because I was hanging out with his friends and that he doesn’t care about me. I don’t know why he texted me to tell me he doesn’t care about me. I told him I’m fine without him and to stop messing with my life, but reality is I’m not fine. But I’m just hurt and I don’t want him to hate me, I want to get back together but i don’t know if that’s possible since he has so many negative feelings towards me for something I didn’t intentionally do to make him jealous. It’s been about a month and half since we broke up. I’m miserable, even though I force myself to go out and try to have fun. Could you please give me some helpful advice on what to do or say to
    him? Thank you so much.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Cassaundra,
      Thank you for sharing your story with me. I think your ex boyfriend may be a bit immature and you can definitely use this to your advantage. Based on what you are telling me here, I feel that many of his actions were put in place to try to grab your attention, like blocking you on social media for instance. It is most probably still possible to get him back but time is of the essence because you only dated for a few months and a month and half has already passed. If you are serious about getting back together, the best would be for us to speak over the phone during the course of a one on one coaching session. I could provide you with a tailored game plan to win him back using the friendzone to reach your goal!
      Best of luck either way in your quest to get back with the man you love.

  • jessica

    hi, to sum it up my ex boyfriend has blocked my number two days ago. We were working on getting back together, everything was great and fine and then he went away to college but the plan was still the same, we were together with no boyfriend/girlfriend label but were not seeing other people. thisupset me because i wanted to be with him more seriously, we got into an argument about it the first day he got to school and the next few days he would ignore me for hours but post things online for me to see and the first night this happened i freaked out and let my emotions get the best of me i would bombard him with paragraph after paragraph receiving no answer, the next day we talked it through he said he still wanted to be with me and everything but basically that i was annoying him, this went on for a few days and then finally i said something again and everything went back to normal we were perfectly fine and talking normal flirting, then all of a sudden he got mad at me for something stupid and blocked my number, i reached out to him on another social media outlet and he basically told me that i never listened before, so maybe now ill learn, i continued to reach out with no response and then he would post things to intentionally upset me so i had to delete him off certain social media outlets for my own sanity. i sent a long message on Facebook saying in nice terms like i don’t understand why i was being treated the way i was and trying to end things on good terms but then he never opened it but was online and after thinking i was annoyed and sent another message but this one wasn’t so nice. it basically said to never contact me again. he still hasn’t read it and that was from yesterday. i don’t know what to do, i still want to be with him i just want things to change and be treated properly. weve been on and off for 2 years now, I’m just not sure what to do as i don’t have many options because he blocked me and I’m afraid ill never talk to him again which is the last thing i want. i don’t know what to do

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Jessica,
      Thank you for sharing your story with me! I can tell that you are lost and completely overwhelmed by the situation; I know that you may even be feeling a bit hopeless at the moment but cheer up, it is still possible for you to turn things around and to make him miss you and want to be with you!
      You have to understand that you are dealing with a guy who is still a bit immature and who has been taking you for granted. You also lost complete control of the balance of power in your relationship the moment you accepted to be dating him on and off for such a long period of time without the “girlfriend” title.
      In a way you have made him feel like he could get away with anything, and your insecurities eventually got the best of you!
      For now your best bet is to take a step back and to let him come back around. I’m not advising you to do nothing, on the contrary, you should be as proactive as ever to rebuild your self esteem and to once again become that lady that inspired him at the beginning of your relationship. I truly believe that I could help you achieve this process of personal development and to turn things around in order to make him start to chase you!
      If you are serious about doing everything possible to win him back I urge you to book a coaching session with me in order for us to discuss what you are going through at greater length over the phone or on skype!
      Best of luck either way in finding happiness in love.

  • Sean Ellington Wells

    Hi my name is Sean ive kinda had the same thing in my relationship. Me and my fiance were together 5 years, we were getting married had a home and department store.. At that time I had lost myself in our relationship and was dealing with personal issues that were hindering my relationship. She is my first love also, I know now after getting myself back I became clingy and our relationship was no longer evolving. When she left me I was very heartbroken did all that stuff I lost it, begged pleaded, numerous text.. I just couldn’t believe I was loosing my family. Since then I’ve gotten in shap e, got a life coach began reading numerous books on relationships ect. I really put in the effort and I’m sincerely sorry for things I did. It’s been 14 mo and 2 months after we split, she began dating this one guy, I ran him off.. Then immediately after she got with this other guy, who now lives at our house and they been going out 114 mo now.. Is he a rebound I mean she never took time alone.. Because I stayed single 8mo I still loved her very much and still do. I’ve loved her since kids, I know we forgot why we were together and both destroyed what we had. Now my actions led to it.. Do I have a chance. I could really use some input. I’ve dated other girls I’m 36 she’s 33 we’ve talked a few times first time I took her roses on mother’s day 2015 she was so mad, we spoken via text and she dosent really talk.. I just wish she would let me show her I’m 1000% sorry for the dick I was. One morning I came up stairs and she told me she prayed I would do better, the wheels vegan spinning and I got myself together. She’s telling this new guy she loves him on FB it hurts to see that, but I can deal now..I was so angry at her for destroying us but how can I be mad at her cause elfor everything I was mad at her for, she can be mad at me for something, she raised hell about me doing right, I don’t know I sit sometimes and I still miss her so much #daily. It would be so nice just to talk. I’ve been NC 2mo she dosent ever reach out its like I don’t exist, I moved to VA for her. She said she didn’t love me anymore.. I’m not so sure of that. Her new bf fell off the ladder broke his neck 2 places, so I know she’s pulling wheight. When I first got together after 15 yrs apart I would snatch the sun down for her, I lost that somewhere became depressed and had anxiety. I don’t think she knows how much work I have put in I had no relationship skills. Any advice, how to get her to talk?

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Sean,
      Thank you for reaching out and sharing your story with me. I can tell that you’ve gone through a lot and that you have started to evolve! I know that proving to an ex that you have changed can be very challenging, and seeing her with another man is only making matters more complicated.
      Nevertheless I feel like you are not approaching this the right way as you are still holding back; your life is on pause, and you really haven’t forgiven yourself for whatever it is that you did to her. I would love to help you with your personal development in order to ultimately win her back!
      I always remind the people that I coach every day that in most cases people aren’t miserable because they got dumped; they got dumped because they were miserable. Find balance and inner peace and it will be a so much more easier to win her back.
      If you are interested in doing everything possible to win her back I urge you to book a coaching session in order for us to start working together.
      I wish you the best of luck either way in your quest to get back with the one you love!
      From my heart to yours,

      • Sean Ellington Wells

        Yes Adrian so much has happened on both ends, I just don’t even know where to begin, I’ve see other women, have a close female friend now young girls 25-29 super fun and hotter. When I lay down at night I still love her, she did something to me I guess she left her imprint on me. I’d like to have you as my coach I will book a session my next pay period on the 14th I really feel if I don’t do something I’ll regret it for the rest of my life. I also feel its time to have someone that can direct me the biggest reason is I’ve posted my story on a few sites your the first coach to show empathy and reply. Thsts huge means you are really involved in ur clients lives. Thank you for your time I’m excited to learn more to hopefully win her back.

        • CoachAdrian

          Hey Sean.
          Again thank you for your trust, I look forward to speaking with you and to help you turn things around!