Are you feeling a mix of hate and love after the breakup? Do you want to get back together with your ex, but you’re furious with them for all the pain they’ve caused? How do you analyze your emotions in order to press ahead?
After breakups, I often hear people say, “My ex is an idiot, but I still love them.” It’s true that we can’t control our emotions and sometimes we are attracted to someone that has made us suffer. So you’d like to understand what you’re feeling, and also know if your ex significant other still has feelings for you as well. This is what leads to making big mistakes because you have a tendency to focus on your emotions, your past relationship, and the past; three elements that your ex does not want to erase.
In this article I present great methods to use if you want your ex back, and you want him or her to make the first move. A large number of the women I coach on a daily basis are prone to being needy or compliant, putting their ex on a pedestal, and then they talk about not feeling appreciated. When a person says their ex is an idiot, it’s important to come to understand why things have changed, and to be able to adapt their strategy to rectify the situation.
This is why I want to help you to ask yourself pertinent questions about your desire to get back together, and also to clarify your own needs, before taking action and seducing your ex-significant other.
My ex hurt me but I still love them. Is this normal?
When a breakup takes place, you feel an incredible amount of suffering. The reason we have created our coaching agency in order to help you overcome this heartbreak.
My goal is to help you bounce back after this shock, to help you become aware of your actions in order to avoid committing errors, and also to help you choose the right actions to set into motion. Even though you’re hurting, you still have strong feelings for your ex-partner and you’re feeling that you’re not going to be able to turn the page.
This ambivalent feeling makes sense because you’re angry at your ex’s decision to break up, but it doesn’t change the fact that you are still in love. You are going to have to learn how to control your emotions in order to only let positive ones shine through. Just because your ex is acting like an idiot right now doesn’t mean that you have to act the same way!
Ask yourself these questions to help evaluate the situation:
-What could you do to avoid conflict with your ex?
-What positive image would you like to give him/her?
-What actions will help you rebuild yourself and overcome negative emotions?
Take some time to think about these questions. The main thing I’m asking you to do right now is to not declare your love to your ex. Avoid showing how you feel and your desire to get back together, because at this stage, it will only make your ex feel forced, and therefore want to back away.
My ex is acting like an idiot right now and I want to know why?
These days you’ve been asking yourself, “my ex is acting like an idiot since we broke up is it my fault?” you may feel that you’ve improved your own actions, but your ex is remaining pig-headed.
In order to understand a separation and to know why your ex is acting so stupidly, you have to analyze his or her behavior, as well as the reason behind the breakup. If they just recently decided to break up, you find yourself in a delicate situation because your ex is expressing that they were unhappy in your relationship. You can take into consideration the fact that he or she felt like that had no choice but to end your relationship.
Your ex isn’t trying to hurt you; they’re just trying whatever means possible to pick up their own morale. So even if he or she says hurtful things to you and maybe doesn’t even want to see you, don’t panic.
To take it one step further, I’d say that acting out after a separation is not that surprising, as we can’t control our emotions and your ex is just as upset as you are.
The best state of mind, even when my ex is being mean!
The most important thing when trying to get an ex back is to always make sure you won’t have any regrets.
Therefore I suggest you take your time to avoid making mistakes and to make sure you’re in the right frame of mind. This is why I want to reiterate not rushing anything. Take things one day at a time to best control your emotions.
In order to focus on your own well-being, avoid analyzing your ex’s actions. As I’ve explained earlier in this article, your ex will have to face their emotions and their state of mind might not be completely reflected in their words or actions. This is why you should never use your ex’s behavior as a gauge of the success of your attempt at getting back together.
Just because your ex is acting like an idiot right now doesn’t mean that you are doing something wrong! You will see positive changes little by little, and eventually you will see significant results and a complete turn around in your ex’s actions.
You have to take your morale into your own hands and adopt the right behavior, even if you’re thinking “my ex is hurting me by acting to stupidly.”
I often say that anger is an emotion that can help you to understand what your ex is feeling. If you were faced with someone who ignored you and avoided communication, you’d find yourself in a delicate situation. You, like your ex, would refuse to see any change.
Now is the time to revamp your state of mind by changing your actions that will benefit your attempt at making your ex take you back. Doing this will benefit you, even if your ex is acting like an idiot, and you want more respect.
I wish you the best in getting back together with your ex
Adrian, your relationship expert for getting your ex back.