It wouldn’t be true to say that a breakup means that your relationship is over forever and that you’re feelings have to disappear into thin air the second you separate, especially if you’re the one that was broken up with. It’s completely normal to still feel things for the person you shared your life with; the person you shared so many memories with, no matter how long your relationship lasted. If you’re thinking, I still love my ex… Is there any hope for us getting back together, don’t worry. The answer is yes, and in this article will show you how to reach your goal!
So if you’re reading these lines right now, it’s very likely that you don’t want to forget what you had shared and you’re now looking for advice on how to proceed. Your heart still beats for them and deep down you know that things can change. You miss your ex and you want to try everything in your power to rekindle the flame. In love, you should never let remorse or regret take precedent and hold you back from finding happiness. Yes, getting back together isn’t always easy but you’re ready to make sacrifices and a valiant effort in order to reach your goal!
As of now, your mind is being flooded with questions… “I am still in love with my ex but they don’t love me so what should I do?” or, “Do I have a chance of getting back together?” You’re going to have to make sure you see things clearly if you want to design the best possible strategy.
Unfortunately, thinking, “I still love my ex,” and telling them about it isn’t going to be enough to make them fall for you again. You’ll have to use techniques that will have a big impact and you can find out what those are on my site, and you learn more about them here. You’ll finally be able to bounce back, and your ex’s return will become a possibility even if your case seemed hopeless before you read this article!
Do I still love my ex…?
As I was saying, despite the separation it’s hard for emotions to just disappear overnight, especially if the breakup was very painful and unexpected. Even in the most difficult cases (when there had been infidelity for example,) love can turn into hate, but when you take a step back and reflect on the situation you realize that you still love your ex. This can be explained by different factors, and you have to analyze it and make sure you’re not experiencing emotional dependence. In fact, if this is what’s fueling your attempt at getting back together, it’s not going to go very well because your ex will sense that you haven’t made any real changes.
There is a certain amount of time that’s required before a person can truly say that they’re no longer in love, or at least that they’re no longer dependent. Before you ask me the question I can tell you that the length of time varies based on each and every situation. Your ex has their own specific character, you have yours, and each story is unique so there is no “standard response.” Remaining in love with your ex after a breakup can last for years, so if you’re thinking that you’re still in love with your ex or that you still have feelings for them, know that you’re not the only person experiencing this.
In order to figure out the response and to design the best plan, I’ll have to know more about your relationship, and the reconstruction phase directly depends on it. This is one of the biggest reasons why a personal coaching session with Coach Adrian or Coach Nath would be ideal.
You have your unique past, your shared memories, and so it’s normal that you still feel charmed by them. You’re having a tough time stamping out these thoughts and they’re holding you back because you’re afraid of running into a wall. On top of that, you’ve maybe already had a negative experience because you’ve tried to prove to your ex that you’re made for one another but they might as well be an impenetrable fortress. There are explanations behind this; the timing maybe wasn’t right, and/or you weren’t using the most appropriate technique for your situation. Emotions got in control of the situation and things became a little rushed.
Realizing “I still love my ex is nothing to be ashamed. It’s very hard to forget about your relationship especially if deep down, you want them back and know that they’re The One. In truth, the problem isn’t necessarily the love you feel for them; it’s that it’s unrequited. Use this frustration as fuel for your endeavor and motivation to make the best possible choices!
Is it complicated to get back with an ex if you were broken up with?
Getting back together with an ex isn’t only about self-confidence; it’s also about knowing how to properly use direct and indirect actions and how to alternate between the two. A tool like the no contact or Radio Silence will not only help you to work on rebuilding your self-confidence, it also helps you to seduce your ex. On top of working on yourself and on your attitude, you’ll have to work on getting through to your ex as well.
The length of time it will take to get back together with an ex, or how hard it will be is hard to determine because each situation is different. A breakup as a result of cheating or as a result of a fight are two very different things and so they each require different actions. The techniques used to get back together will be considerably different.
Nevertheless, I insist so much on self-confidence because it is important across the board and in any situation relating to getting back together with your ex-significant other. You must always believe in yourself when you’re trying to convince someone to return. You can’t just sit around feeling sorry for yourself thinking, “I love my ex…This is hard… This sucks.” The difficulty of this endeavor will be determined by your motivation and your investment. A driven person that used the advice they acquire from my coaching sessions or from my articles and products has a real advantage!
Getting back together isn’t a piece of cake, but you can simplify the task at hand by following my methods.
A sign that it’s time to begin trying to get back together!
Instead of waking up every morning thinking, “I still love my ex but they don’t love me” and not doing anything about it, ask yourself the right questions because it’s time to take action. After finishing this article, don’t go browse your ex’s Facebook page trying to figure out if they’re seeing someone new, and then click through your old pictures together. You actually have to let all of this go. It’s no good to live in the past because this isn’t going to help you change things. You have to fight for what you want using adequate tools in order to rekindle the flame.
Regrets are not going to allow you to bounce back. If you still feel something for your ex (and even if you think that your case is hopeless), you have to take action and become proactive. The fact that you’re feeling so much is an indicator of how important this is. Figure out and do what will improve the situation! Don’t wait for time to do the work for you, especially when it comes to your emotions.
You might think that your ex is better off without you, or that being in a relationship again isn’t a good idea, all because you’ve gone through a breakup. There is no sense in this kind of reasoning or in renouncing what you’re feeling deep down. Your emotions should be a source of motivation for reawakening what is hidden away in your ex’s heart. One again, I have to insist on the importance of this being done properly…
Getting back together: how to control your emotions
How can we explain the fact that a person could be completely paralyzed at the idea of getting back together with their ex?
The main problem that we see in people that are hesitating about beginning the process of getting back together with their ex is fear, and this is what I had mentioned above. A separation can greatly affect your ego, your pride, and it’s therefore a really hard thing to endure. It is sometimes hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but it’s completely normal when you take into consideration the psychological shock. You’re probably afraid of going through the same heartache again and more than that, the idea of facing your ex is scary. It’s logical that you wouldn’t feel reassured by the idea of being in contact with the person that left you but…
A phenomenon that we often see following a separation is when a person considers themselves inferior to their ex and they lose their self-confidence. You put your ex on a pedestal and you feel that they’re better than you. Just because your ex made the decision to leave doesn’t mean that you’re worthless! You should know that they’re not happy about having left you. They are also going through a difficult period. Separating from someone is never easy whether you made the decision or not.
Who knows, they actually might be thinking, “I am still in love with my ex” as well!
When you’re working on getting back together with someone, it’s important to be able to control your emotions. You want don’t want to let this get you down, but it’s also important in order to avoid making mistakes when you once again win your ex’s heart. Your emotions are turned upside down, but these are what will determine your actions and the words you’re going to use to convince your ex to return. You’ve understood that you shouldn’t get carried away and that you shouldn’t rush anything.
Start by working on rebuilding your self-esteem and your confidence in your actions so that you no longer feel anxious at the idea of setting up a plan of action to get back together with your ex. I’ll outline some tricks for this a little later in the article.
Why is it important to avoid making the same mistakes when I want my ex back?
As you know, the decision to break up wasn’t out of the blue and there were reasons that lead your relationship to this roadblock. That said, it’s important to note that this decision wasn’t easy for your ex to make and they are going through a tough period as well.
Don’t think that they are reveling in the fact that they are now single, that they’re happy about their current situation, and that you’re the only person who is suffering from a broken heart. I’m going to let you in on something… Your ex is might actually be hurting even more than you!
Yes, I know that this is surprising but this is the truth! Not only are they dealing with the fact that their relationship didn’t work, but also with the fact that they’ve hurt you. Under these circumstances, anyone with even an ounce of humanity would ask themselves, “Did I make the right choice?” or “Couldn’t I give my ex another chance?”
Whatever the answer is, the good news is that you can make things improve as long as you begin using the proper techniques of getting back together. Advice from your friends and family about the breakup doesn’t matter; what’s important is figuring out what exactly YOU want.
In truth, human beings aren’t meant to be alone and ending a relationship isn’t always easy to accept even if it wasn’t satisfying both people involved. You therefore have to have real reasons as to why you would do it.
The desire to maintain a bond with someone is an advantage especially when your ex is having trouble making a new group of friends. Are you wondering why? Simply because if they feel alone after failed relationship to failed relationship (platonic or romantic,) there is always one person that will always pop back up in their mind: YOU!
If you want to get back together with your ex you will have to make them change their mind regarding their decision to breakup and to make them forget the reasons that made them do it in the first place. In other words, you need to make the necessary changes and prove to your ex that you two can be happy together.
Relationships are never how they look in romantic comedies and sometimes you don’t meet your ex’s expectations, you develop bad habits, and sometimes you don’t realize what’s going on. Unfortunately you break up and you don’t have enough perspective.
This is typically why I always say how important it is to take a step back and figure out what not to do with an ex as you ponder ways to get back together. If you take everything personally, then you won’t be in a situation that will allow you to act appropriately and your thought process will be altered.
This is why I always recommend not seeing your ex again too soon after the breakup because your ex won’t be able to pick up the changes you’ve made as easily. I know you keep thinking, “I still have feelings for my ex and I want them to see that we should be together…” But when you want to get a positive reaction from your ex and get them back, you have to create a sort of electroshock.
It’s important to make them see you in a new light, that you make them forget the way things were in the past, (meaning the negative aspects of your relationship that persisted during the last weeks or months.) You can do this by pinpointing your errors so you know what not to do with your ex anymore!
This person is suffering and doesn’t want to go through the same issues you were having in the past. No longer making the same mistakes will help you to show them that you’ve made improvements, and it will make them feel more inclined to want to make things better between you and propose a healthier and more solid relationship.
Many people think that this is impossible because it must means that they have to become someone else, to become perfect, and to no longer have any flaws. This isn’t the case at all! All it means is that you have to lose your bad habits and to correspond to your ex’s needs and expectations without losing yourself.
I’m not asking you to never make any mistakes ever again because we are all human and make errors in our love life, our personal life, and in our professional life. In truth, the very first step to getting back together is accepting the breakup, and is this really so hard?
I hope that you shook your head no or at least that you feel reassured, because this is the basis of getting back together!
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Self-confidence is key in your “post-breakup” reconstruction not only for you, but also to attract your ex. Don’t hesitate to double up on activities that can help reinforce this confidence.
In love with ex: Exercise to get back in shape
Physical activity is necessary, and you shouldn’t wait for a breakup to start doing some. You’re going to start feeling better in your own skin because nothing makes you feel stronger and more confident than a good work out. On top of that, you’re going to reach your goals and you’ll prove to yourself that YOU can do it!
You’re capable of succeeding in your endeavors and in getting back together with the person you love. And finally, exercise improves your physique, which is something your ex is sure to notice. The attraction they feel for you will be increased tenfold.
Still in love with ex: Self-motivation phrases to repeat to yourself
You think about your ex every morning; you look at their side of the bed and feel a deep sense of longing for your ex, he or she misses you. You look at your phone in hopes of having received a message from them during the night. Unfortunately you are once again disappointed because there’s nothing there.
However, instead of going through the same thing every day, you can do something that will make you feel considerably better. Every day in front of your mirror, you can repeat self-motivation phrases. Forget your ex, the breakup, and your sadness. Your words will start your day off right and don’t hesitate to repeat them throughout the day if you’re feeling lethargic and blue.
Phrases such as, “This is only temporary,” and “There is an important reason for all of this and soon I will be happy again” help to put things into perspective.
What not to do when you’re still in love with your ex and want them back
Reviewing the breakup as well as accepting it are important steps for making positive advancements, and also for beginning your process of getting back together in the best way possible. That is why you’re on this site isn’t it?!
You want to be together again, that’s for sure, your feelings are still strong but unfortunately you’re not familiar with the proper techniques yet for stealing your ex’s heart again by changing the way you had behaved in the past. As I said, In order to do so you have to give your ex a new image of yourself, but you also have to be careful to avoid making false promises.
Just like for many other people, I can imagine that your relationship had some tension and at some point you had promised to make an effort or you had said, “I promise that I’m going to change.” In truth your ex had been waiting for change but nothing happened.
As a result, you two had separated because it seemed like the only solution. But the separation has had an effect because you’ve figured out what exactly your ex needs and you are taking it seriously. But now you have to do everything in your power to make some tangible changes!
The next step (and incidentally I’ve created a special folder on the subject,) is to work on understanding the reasons behind why you’ve separated and to understand why you behaved the way you did.
Right now, you’re the priority. I know you we have the tendency to put an ex on a pedestal, or your want to write a quote and to idealize them but the process of getting back together really involves making some personal improvements, and there is no point in trying to seek revenge on your ex.
By understanding the breakup, by knowing why your ex was pushed to make this decision, knowing the sensitive subjects, and knowing what not to do and what to change will help you to build a solid relationship with them. Also, take some time to make sure you really do want to get back together!
When you change, you shouldn’t be changing who you are or go against your principals, but you have to improve your habits and your desires so that they correspond to those of the person you love.
Changing for your ex doesn’t mean that you’re supposed to be someone else or to forget about your own personality. You should never try to be the same person as your ex in terms of your behavior, and you shouldn’t stop doing the things that bring you joy just to make your ex happy.
Avoiding making mistakes in order to get your ex back doesn’t involve doing everything to try to be like them.
A relationship involves compromises, sacrifices, and you shouldn’t be the only one that has to change. It would be too easy to take responsibility for everything. Your ex isn’t perfect either!
You have to begin making improvements so that you can start getting positive reactions from your ex and in order to do so it’s imperative that you never appear needy while you’re trying to get back together. There is nothing worse than this, especially when you’re working on proving how you feel!
Loving your ex: Best actions to make your ex love you too!
First and foremost, your goal isn’t to set your emotions aside; it’s to make the person you love feel the same way about you as well. There is nothing more frustrating than loving someone without being loved in return. You want this situation to come to an end and the passion you had both felt in the beginning of your relationship to return.
There are multiple ways that you can revive your ex’s feelings for you and make them want to be with you again. In order to do so, it’s important to avoid having to improvise and modify your actions every day. You need to follow a well-designed strategy. For example, let’s say you decide to start using radio silence. This technique consists of cutting contact and making your ex begin to miss you, and you can’t just quit doing it after 2 or 3 days because it won’t work.
Similarly, if you write a letter to your ex you can’t just write, “I love you.., Let’s get back together!” Each action is equally important and shouldn’t be neglected.
To make your ex love you again, you have to prove to them that you are no longer the person they broke up with a few weeks or months ago. By showing them that you’ve changed and improved, you’ll be able to build a new relationship and experience the joys of a fulfilling relationship.
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