There’s always been this misconception that men and women are vastly different from one another. You know? Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus – as they say. The truth is that men and women are more alike than most people would care to think. The differences usually come into effect in the way that each sex arrives at the same conclusion; a conclusion, for example, that a romantic relationship is definitely not working.
Women, historically, have been the most faithful advocates over men for committing to working out a relationship’s issues. However, when a woman finally turns a corner and stops trying, this is one of many signs she wants to break up, if not the most important one. If you’re wondering how to tell if your girlfriend wants to break up, the coaches at With My Ex Again are here to show you and explain why it matters to recognize these signs in order to save your relationship.
Signs she wants to break up with you : why is it important to know them ?
1/ Dont take for granted your partner !
Knowing how to tell if your girlfriend wants to break up is particularly important because it shows that you’re paying attention. Not only that, it shows that you want to pay attention to her moods and her happiness as the relationship progresses. Now this doesn’t mean that you should be paranoid, constantly looking for signs she wants to dump you and red flags that aren’t there. You’ll just come off as needy and insecure.
But relationships can be compared to taking care of a child, a pet, or a house plant. It needs light, but effective attention, care, and nurturing. If you’re not doing these things, it means you’re taking your girlfriend for granted and simply expecting the relationship to take care of itself, which NEVER works. This simply doesn’t happen.
2/ Pay attention and showing love can avoid the break up
You need to work at your relationship and put in effort. There’s no room for laziness. Paying attention and consistently showing your girlfriend, love, care, and affection can do wonders for your relationship and avoid tiffs and stupid arguments down the line. Some may argue that there is no need to “work” at a relationship. If you’re “working” at it, it’s probably a sign that you two shouldn’t be together and that you are forcing it.
Or, relationships should just “be” and there shouldn’t be so much effort exerted towards it. I agree with that to a certain extent. If you and your girlfriend are constantly at each other’s throats, every hour of every day, then yeah, those might be signs she wants to break up, so shape up or ship out.
Conversely, however, just because you are with her, or that she’s already your girlfriend, doesn’t mean that you stop trying. You have to work hard to get her, but you have to work smart in order to keep her. Either way, if you want to keep your girlfriend, you have to WORK FOR IT.
3/ You can save your relationship and add more happiness to your life
Being able to recognize signs your girlfriend wants to break up goes hand in hand with knowing the ins-and-outs of dating specifically, and being able to read social cues and read people, generally, without having to ask them if anything is wrong.
Basically, if you’re like, “I think my girlfriend wants to break up with me,” but can read your girlfriend’s facial expressions, her speech tones, etc. and preemptively improve the situation before it gets out of your control, you will be saving yourself a lot of trouble down the line. All that’s required is making little amounts of effort each day that will eventually add up.
This is what girlfriends notice. They will pay more notice to the fact that you’re trying, over focusing on successful execution of your efforts (as long as you don’t totally bomb every attempt at working for a better relationship). If you are able to bring just ONE smile to your girlfriend at least once a day, by the end of the month, or year, she will notice that the quality of her life is good because her most important relationship is good, healthy, and stable.
7 signs that a girl wants to break up
1/ She is not paying attention to you
This should be a fairly obvious one. If your girlfriend is paying you minimal attention, not looking at you when you have a conversation, not checking in on you throughout the day, not making plans to spend her free time with you, or worse, not even performing the courtesy of asking, “How are you?”, then it’s safe to say she really doesn’t care how you actually are and that she wants to break up. And if she crosses that line, its safe to say your relationship might be on its last thread. Fear the day that your woman stops caring!
2/ She is always negative
If your girlfriend is always negative around you, or gets into a negative state whenever you are around, there is a possibility that your girlfriend wants to break up because you are bringing this negativity out of her. Hopefully, you didn’t do anything to induce this behavior from her or cause her to manifest this attitude whenever you are in her presence. Regardless, if she finds herself in a negative mood when she’s around you, but positive in all other instances, she may soon take notice and act accordingly.
3/ She is hardly home and spends more time outside than with you
If you’re bringing out the negative, unpleasant side of her, and it’s causing her to not want to be around you, this can explain why she spends more and more time outside your home, if you happen to live together. Late nights at the office, impromptu meet-ups with her friends, frequently cancelled plans, or plans made without your input or you being informed, can all be considered signs she wants to leave you and wanting to spend less and less time with you.
4/ No sex or affection
A pretty obvious sign for how to know if she wants to break up is if your girlfriend won’t sleep with, kiss, or even touch you. If you can’t get so much as an honest, genuine hug out of her, then you’re really in trouble. Now, if your romantic relationship wasn’t that sexual to begin with, that is a whole other thing.
But people NEED that release of oxytocin (the “bonding” hormone) in order to build that loving connection with their significant other. There are only two ways or instances that a woman releases oxytocin: childbirth (allowing her to bond with her baby) or orgasm (allowing her to bond with you).
5/ She’s secretive with her phone and her friendships
Going so far as to avoid sharing parts of her life with you, not filling you in on what her family and friends are up to, or even going to lengths to avoid that you seeing what’s on her phone screen, are all signs that a girl wants to break up and its safe to assume she’s beginning to close the inner circle on you and keep you out of it. If there’s one thing women love is sharing every single detail with the man they’re in love with. If she’s not doing this, there’s something up.
6/ She is not the same person you first met
Usually, when a person starts letting themselves go, it means they stopped caring. Now, that’s not to say it’s on purpose or deliberate. There is a possibility that your girlfriend hasn’t even noticed. And “letting themselves go” doesn’t have to relate to the physical. It can also apply to attitudes, outlooks, and habits.
Simply put, your girlfriend doesn’t act the same as she did when you first met and she’s behaves like a totally different person now. What you need to find out is whether she cares or not. If she doesn’t, that probably means she doesn’t value your opinion enough to please you and these are definite signs she wants to break up.
7/ She admits she is not happy and doesn’t bother to tell you why
It can’t get any clearer that there’s trouble in paradise than when your girlfriend tells you she wants to end the relationship and doesn’t even care to give you a chance to try and fix them. Women tend to be champions for “staying together” and “working things out” more often than men, even going so far as to not addressing the issues head on and at first sighting just to not stir the pot. When your girlfriend tells you unequivocally that she’s been unhappy for quite some time, she’s definitely thought of breaking up with you.
There are signs she wants to break up : 3 tips to know what to do !
Keep in mind what I said before: keeping your girlfriend requires just as much, if not more, effort than to get with her in the first place. Simply put: you need to TRY and GIVE A DAMN for as long as you are together. The demise of a lot of relationships can be attributed to people getting lazy. And that’s how the stereotypical negative thoughts on relationships form and get passed down from generation to generation.
People get bored in their own relationships with the day to day monotony, they stop trying to look and act their best in front of their significant other, their significant other, in turn, stops trying in response, both see that the other isn’t putting in any effort, and instead of thinking, “Is she going to break up with me?” they think, “Why should I care if they don’t ?”.
And don’t be mistaken, men need this as much as women do. All people want to feel that the person they love has eyes only for them and that they are attracted to each other as much as the first day they laid eyes on each other.
So it’s important that you create and foster fun, happiness, love, and a consistent basis and effort for mutual attraction.
This is how you save your relationship both in the immediate sense when things are rocky, and for the long term when everything is rosy and going perfectly. You will lose if you attempt to control your girlfriend into not leaving you, instead of making efforts on your end to rekindle an attraction for you.
So, if you’ve gotten lazy with yourself and your relationship, it’s time to shape up, lest you want to be shipped out! Put on a few pounds? Get yourself to the gym and start lifting weights. If you’re the type of man who doesn’t care if your girlfriend put on a few pounds and love her just as much despite the weight gain, then good for you! But this doesn’t mean your girlfriend needs to be subjected to the same mediocre standards yo live by.
If you two have become co-dependent for your entertainment and your social life has suffered as a result, force each other to make plans with friends you haven’t seen in a while. It’s not about changing yourself into a different person, or changing habits that don’t need to be changed. It’s about breaking out of the stagnation and the RUT. Don’t wait for signs she wants to break up rear their heads before you start making a concerted effort towards improving your relationship.
We have an entire planet at our disposal. The world really is our oyster, here for the taking and to share with our loved ones. There are places to go and see, people to partake with, holidays and life events to celebrate, and a lot that we should be thankful for. There is no good reason why we should let our relationship or our excitement for life and enthusiasm to share that excitement with our lover plateau.
Through being grateful for your relationship, and expressing that gratitude at your significant other, you keep the spark that brought you together alive, fresh, and invigorated. Taking action on this front will add years to your relationship or marriage and prevent any possibility of your girlfriend saying you don’t say “I love you” enough or show appreciation for your relationship.
If you’re picking up on signs she wants to break up and are unsure of what to do, book a coaching session with us today so we can coach you towards rekindling that spark you once shared between the two of you!