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I know that a breakup can often leave a mark and conjure up a feeling of rejection that doesn’t really match the spirit of getting back together. You want to forget the person that you had been with for years. You want to stop hurting because of the breakup and you don’t want to think about your ex all the time anymore. So, you decide to turn the page once and for all.
It isn’t always easy to let go of the years you had spent together and to forget about everything you had felt. You can feel like you’re being pulled back and forth between love and bitterness towards your ex-partner. There might also be a “technical difficulty…” Your ex doesn’t want to leave you alone and sometimes, even if they’re the one that decided to separate, they can remain present and hold you back from moving on. Sometimes they still want to spend time with you and this blocks you from rebuilding yourself as this tends to conjure up doubts. This situation is becoming more and more unbearable. And you are still missing him/her everyday.
What do you do when “I don’t want to think about my ex anymore?” how can you move on without suffering too much? Is it really possible to forget your ex ? Discover the answers to your questions in this article that’s going to help you to move on for good, or, it can also help prepare you to get back with your ex in a healthy and stable way.
Why We Think About Our Exes :
You keep seeing people on the street that look like your ex, you see the same car they drive all the time, and it seems like every character you see in a movie has the same name as them. Sometimes it feels like someone’s playing a cruel joke on you.
No matter what you do, no matter where you go there are things, people, and events that make you ask yourself, “why do I still think of my ex?”
It’s therefore completely normal that you’d be thinking like this and that you would notice all the things that you weren’t seeing before. Nevertheless no one is trying to play a trick on you, there is no conspiracy against your happiness. In simple terms, when a person really wants something, and in these circumstances, someone, they tend to see them everywhere.
Your mind is fixating on the person that you love and no matter what you do, you can’t seem to get them out of your head. Unfortunately, you are no longer with the person you love and this sadness is profound.
When you really want something you can become obsessed with it, it is constantly on your mind and can even make appearances in every day things. A pair of shoes or a piece of jewelry can remind you of them…not to mention the heartache you’re currently feeling.
When you think about your ex all day, it’s because you want them back and you regret having broken up.
In addition to your need to get them back, it’s important to note that spending very intense weeks, months, or even years with someone automatically results in your mind focusing on them day and night. Emotions develop, memories are created; it’s a beautiful love story that you are sharing. Unfortunately sometimes the relationship doesn’t quite progress in the way we would have liked, and it ends in a breakup. Separations are oftentimes unexpected, which is precisely what makes them so hard to cope with.
Some men and women are able to move on and overcome the post-breakup heartaches very quickly. But it seems that this isn’t the case for you. You don’t want your love story to end on a false note. Getting back with your ex is the path that you’ve chosen. You should have no regrets, and you should be willing to try everything it takes to win back what was lost, in order to show this person that you love that you can move forward.
Yet there is a roadblock, and your attempt at winning back your ex is not moving forward simply because the thought of the person conjures up deep sadness, and results in making certain mistakes. I can’t tell you how many times I hear “I still think about my ex or I still dream of being together when I coach people on a daily basis. What will have to happen is a transformation of these thoughts. They must be avoided or transformed into a source of motivation for the actions that you will have to carry out after a breakup. To learn how to go about doing this, read on.
You think more about being in a relationship than about your ex!
While you believe that you are thinking about your ex and I see more and more examples of this in the coaching sessions I do on a daily basis; you are actually thinking about the life as a couple that you feel passed you by instead of your ex. It’s not the person itself that you are missing; it is what they brought to your life, and a future that you could envision together. I don’t mean that your feelings aren’t genuine and that your desire to get them back isn’t sincere. I am simply saying that it’s very important to avoid putting your ex on a pedestal by thinking that you cannot live without them.
After a breakup, emotional dependence is oftentimes manifested, even when we are unaware of it. You want to get back into the groove of things, feel happy again, you don’t like the single life, and you feel that your ex is the only person that can make you happy. Of course it’s not surprising that all your thoughts are focused on your ex. You imagine your future with this person, and no one else.
This reveals a deep need to be in a relationship at any cost! Nevertheless, it isn’t with this frame of mind that you’re going to convince your ex to come back into your life. You must understand that it isn’t your ex that is haunting your every thought. It’s the desire and the need to be in a relationship. The moment you realize this, you will avoid making a large portion of typical mistakes, and you will steer clear of relationship-recovery “don’ts” such as harassment and pleading. Rest assured however, even if some of these harmful actions have already been made, it’s not too late to convince your ex to return.
I still think about my ex but that alone won’t make them come back.
As with any feeling, simply thinking about your ex will not be enough to boost your success at getting them back. You tend to stay locked up in your dreams and you hope that the ex that you love will just return, without you having to even lift a finger. Whether it’s because of pride, or maybe even a misunderstanding of some of the techniques needed to win back your ex, you let time work for you, or maybe you even think that all hope is lost.
The fact that you’re thinking about your ex means a lot! Of course it’s not easy to just forget about someone with whom you shared intimate moments and memories. Even a place that you often visited together or the mention of their name can bring up a surge of emotion. But if you’re here with me today, you wish for more!
This is a sign that your feelings are still present and that you must be ready to start certain initiatives to avoid having any regrets, and more importantly, to avoid remaining inactive. A big mistake that men and women often make is thinking that when trying techniques needed to win back your ex, it is enough to just be patient and wait, without making any effort to change the situation. You want them to come back to you more and more each day. This is precisely why it is time to take action!
How can I forget my ex as quickly as possible?
It’s never easy to want to forget the person you had loved, because those feelings can still be present. This is why you’re going to have to make some radical decisions if you don’t want to live in regret and to move on. With impactful actions you’ll be able to move forward. This of course will take some time and you’re not going to be able to turn the page for good within just a few days.
Your actions must reflect your words and what you’re thinking. If they don’t, you won’t be able to move forward and you won’t feel any changes or improvements. Photos, your ex’s things… You have to return these things to them so that you can stop seeing things that remind you of them all the time; they conjure up emotions and heartache.
Steps to take to stop thinking about them
As I explained in the beginning of this article, thinking too much about an ex can sometimes prevent you from taking action. A simple yet common example that I often see is the refusal to implement a radio-silence because you are afraid of offending, or pushing away your ex. You must understand that this action is vital and beneficial for your relationship, and it isn’t against your ex.
A key step in winning back an ex is being able to rebuild oneself after the separation. A breakup leaves painful marks and so it’s perfectly normal to have a hard time bouncing back while also being able to get your ex out of your head.
This is why you shouldn’t create a situation in which you are responsible for this issue. For example if you spend all day on your ex’s Facebook profile, if you are looking at photos of you together, if you keep their things at your place and you keep wearing their sweaters or shirts to bed; I’m sorry to put it so bluntly but you are being a facilitator in the sadness that you are feeling. You will have to take radical actions if you want things to change. You should delete your Facebook page if you are spying on your ex and therefore hurting yourself. Return their belongings to them instead of gazing at them all day, basking in the memories of your relationship.
Doing this doesn’t necessarily mean that you are turning over a new leaf and not looking o get back together. On the contrary, these types of actions are preparing you to win back your ex by restoring confidence in yourself, and establishing your own independence.
Is it a good idea to forget about my ex?
In love, it’s very important to take your time with big decisions, and to never rush into something without properly thinking it through. I’m telling you this because it’s important that you don’t have regrets and so that you don’t have to come back to this site later on to learn how you can get them back. This happens pretty often and it makes things very complicated. People sometimes make decisions too fast and end up having to change their tactics (which isn’t a piece of cake, by the way.) It’s hard because it can give rise to some serious emotional dependence which in turn makes it easy to make big mistakes as your emotions are in control.
Whether you want to get back together with your ex or forget about them, it’s imperative that you take the time to really think your decision through and to not be blinded by your emotions. For example, if you want to say goodbye to your entire relationship after a simple fight, I don’t recommend doing so. In fact you might end up wanting to go back to them the moment you find out they’re seeing someone new.
If you give it a few days, you’ll be able to figure out the best possible decision you could make, and you’ll be able to start working on it. If you end up feeling like you don’t want to hear another word about your ex ever again, I will help you rebuild yourself and bounce back.
Why It May be a good idea to forget about your ex:
While in the previous paragraph, I discuss the importance of spending time making the decision on whether or not to forget your ex, it’s important to realize that even if you want to get back with your ex again now or at a later date, forgetting about them first may be the right move (either way!).
This is because when we move forward from our ex’s, we’re able to regain our self confidence and emotional control. When we move onward and upward from our exes, they stop having any sort of power over us! This in itself is HUGE! Why? Well, if you’re constantly asking yourself, “why can’t I stop thinking about my ex?”, it’s likely because you psychologically allow for the them to continue having some sort of power over you.
When your ex is at the forefront of our minds, how will be able to use confidence to re-attract them organically? On the contrary! Our ex will see that we still have them on a pedestal, and this will only empower them and make them wonder if wanting us back is even a good idea! After all, who wants to invest in someone who believes them are “less than”. We want to invest in people who invest in themselves!
Therefore, if you are wondering whether or not it’s a good idea to forget about your exif you still want your ex back, chances are it can actually help you get your ex back in the end. Once your ex no longer dictates how you feel, you can return to being who you were when they first met you. That’s the person they fell for!
Let’s take Brittney’s experience for example:
Brittney is a young woman I began working with about 8 months ago. When she first called, she was consumed by thoughts of her ex. The first thing she said was “I can’t stop thinking about my ex! I want my ex back! Help me!” The first thing we worked on during her Radio Silence period was how to help her STOP thinking about her ex and how to, instead, get her thinking about herself. This took months. Why? Because stopping to think about your ex is HARD WORK! That is why you’re on this site, though, right? We gave her to-do lists, and exercises, and over time, she stopped being driven by thoughts of her ex and was able to exert true and thorough emotional control over herself and her thoughts and feelings.
After 2 months, her ex contacted her to reach out, JUST when she was about to forget about him completely. Through coaching, we prepped her for the meeting, and we both knew she was going to do great. After all, when you put in so much work, it’s hard NOT to knock the first meeting out of the park.
After their meeting, she called me saying that even by the end of their brief “catch up,” he expressed that he saw such a radical change in her (this is the same girl who originally blew his phone up with text messages and calls, just like many of us do!)
Today, after a few more sessions of one-on-one coaching, they’re back together and better than ever. And this all started with her forgetting about her ex even though she originally wanted her ex back more than ever. This is one of the many stories we are able to share about why forgetting your ex may not be the worst plan in the world.
If you feel you could benefit from some one-on-one direction with either Coach Adrian, Coach Natalie or myself, please visit our website, www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
Together, we’ll develop a game plan tailored to your unique situation and we’ll be able to monitor your progress as the weeks go one. We’d love to help you achieve your goals in love. You, like so many out there, deserve to feel satisfied in and with their relationships; and we love to help you on your journey back and beside the one you love.
Your coach when your ex is ever-present in your thoughts.
Best wishes,
Alexandre CORMONT
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What can I do if my ex left and he’s a Narcissist? He recently change his # after 3 months of no contact
Hi Carmen,
Thanks for reaching out. I can’t answer this question without learning a lot about the situation – I invite you to book a coaching session so we can help!
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Wishing you the very best,
Coach N
Here’s my little synopsis. Me and my ex broke up. After about a month and a half we started talking again. It was a confusing situation because she knows I want to be with her, and she would state that she wants to be with me. During the split another man came into the picture. She insisted they were only intimate twice and were better off as friends but would still spend a significant amount of time together. This of course caused issues. When we would spend time together it was mostly great, laughs and talking and great sex. Eventually we got into it about the guy again and she asserted that we should stop. She said her emotional state was declining because of me and her, a bad home life, and being overly stressed at work. Prior to this she would tell me how much she loves me, how much she misses me, and how she’s mad because we shouldn’t be in this situation and should be together. Despite all this we still had a 3 hour conversation resulting in her staying her course of she needs to take care of herself. She apologized for any pain it might cause but insisted it’s what is best for both of us. We have not spoken since (it’s only been a few days). This may be the end but I still believe our story isn’t done. There’s a lot of unsurity still which makes it difficult. We are connected via Snapchat right now but she still views every single one I put up. That makes me feel that since she didn’t delete me she wants that sliver of a connection. I will stay the course and give her the time she asked for. I am not one to break my word of letting her be but I certainly do constantly want to reach out.
My break up was sudden she thought I didn’t care so I made many mistakes believing I was proving that I still did, I sent letters and messages, flowers and gifts. I found myself in a dark place without her. At first she was confused whether to get back or not and wanted things to be natural if we did get back together. She offered friendship for now but I wasn’t strong enough and listened to bad advice so I told her it was a romantic capacity or nothing. We agreed not to speak. It didn’t take long for me to calm down and regret it and I worked hard to apologise. I sent a friend request and literally two seconds passed and she accepted it. Where back on talking terms and we’ve agreed to be friends now that I’m stronger but I told her I haven’t given up on us yet. We message back and forth and it’s hit and miss. Sometimes it’s clear she isn’t putting effort in. It’s been over a month now I’m wondering should I reign back a few days between contacts or be patient and keep trying to break through with fun upbeat conversations.
Hi Alan,
Thank you for reaching out – when it comes to no contact and its effectiveness, it’s all about approach. I believe that if you play your cards right, that you can really turn this around for good. I invite you to consider scheduling a coaching session with Coach Adrian or myself, we’re here to support you!
http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
Wishing you the best and hope to hear from you!
Coach N
Bonjour Alexandre, Amazing article, thank you so much.
I’ve broken up with my ex boyfriend 4months ago and I kept trying to work it out with him which only pushed him further away. Now he doesn’t want to speak and has blocked me completely except by email.
I only as of this week started radio silence but it’s been 4 months of big big mistakes.
I went into therapy and it has help a little to control my emotions but I still have made mistakes.
Is it too late? I still love him, we dated for about 10-12 months and fought a lot and said hurtful things but I still believe in us. I would of started coaching but the amount is too much since I’m rebuilding my career and myself. He’s currently with his family but when he returns I know I will still be in this awful predicament with him. Thank you again for what you do.
Hi Dane,
Thanks you for reaching out. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I read this comment and it resonated with me directly, and so I wanted to reach out. I’m confident that with the right approach, you can turn this around. Your situation is complex, but salvageable. I invite you to consider scheduling a one-on-one session with Coach Alex, Adrian or myself. We can help!
http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
All the best!
Coach N
I cant stop thinking about my ex and how things have gone wrong lm not allowed to text or call her lm so depressed with it all what can l do ??
Hi Dave,
Thanks for reaching out and I”m sorry to hear about your current situation. I know how painful this can be!! I invite you to consider scheduling a coaching session so we can chat over the phone. There are so many ways to help cure this!
http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
Wishing you the very best,
Coach N
The ex and I have not talk since I left my old job where we use to work together and that was three months ago. I thought visit her at work, but i keep turning down the idea in my head. she wont respond to my text so I don’t want to waste my time. I have new job, house and I’ve been doing counseling for the last 8 months.
Hello there, me and my ex broke up like more than one month ago and im looking for some support on how i can get my ex girlfriend back because i truly indeed love her alot and me and her had more than a 6 month relationship that felt like a year. During the relationship we had alot of downs than ups which were arguing and being manipulative to one another mostly arguing though. Well this is how the story of our breakup started:
About a month ago, i woke up and texted my ex girlfriend “goodmorning” and at that time i was in a bad mood for some reason and i started to blame her for making me late for school because she didnt message me on time coz i asked her if she can bring my portfolio since i left it at her house and i blamed her for not messaging on time which was stupid of me to do such a thing. And then when i walked to the bus stop, i kept dragging on the situation and then i realise i was doing something that was hurting her i was about to say sorry once we meet up at school but all that was too late. She decided to ignore me the whole day until on that night, she broke up with me with aggressive manner and hung up on me. I started to cry alot because i person i used to share my thoughts and ideas with just left me because of the things i did to her.
After a week or so, she suddenly ask for help about her computer on group chat which consist of her friends and my friends, mostly her friends, and i decided to help her. After i gave her a procedure on how to fix it, we started talking on snapchat (she blocked me on sms and messenger) and it started off rough and then it got smooth after the days. I started to beg and plead for forgiveness and a second chance (which i shouldn’t have done) but it worked somehow and we started talking how we used to again but we started off being in “friendly way” not relationship wise. We hung a few times and i realise we still have these misunderstandings even though we were just friendly, but good thing was we never actually argued or yelled at each other or start being manipulative. Everytine we had those misunderstandings i just talk it out nice and calm and it worked most of the time. And all of sudden, when school began its term 3, she said to me after school throught text “i think we should just be friends because of the moodiness and the misunderstandings” and to me i was confused coz we had a great time a few days ago and then she just changed her mind about things.
I agreed to her friendship until I found out that being friends with her isnt a great thing and i decided to do the no contact rule on her. She started to be angry towards me for “leaving her” and saying im a terrible friend and all i said was “i was busy with family and friends” and thats what broke the no contact. After that i created another try for no contact rule and she started to become angry again and suddenly blocked me from messenger (facebook) and after a few weeks snapchat and possibly sms too. I dont know if the no contact rule is working because it leaded to her to block me on social media, at the moment the no contact rule is in place.
Please help me because i really do want her back and its been a while ive contacted her and im trying to get my ex girlfriend back as well.
Thank you for listening
Hi there!
If you’d like to get her back, I feel your situation will require a tailored approach – it’s going to be really important for you to take this seriously, because while I’m confident you can turn this around, it will take time and precision. To this end, I invite you to schedule a session with Coach Adrian or myself, we’d love to help : http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
Best,
Coach N
Hi Everyone my ex and I have been broken up for about 5 weeks. I have did the things you said not doing trying to contact them etc. My last text to him was last Friday when I decided not to call anymore. i met him when I was not looking for anyone. He just popped up and I thought he was very nice. He was attracted to me i was not. We began talking he was God fearing a single dad and willing to help anyone. So that is what made me become attracted to him because I love the person. We were together for 8 months but when you know you just know we talked about our families blending, how we thought our kids would get along etc. I will admit I was not perfect on my end, pushed him away sometimes. In one of my messages I did tell him that I missed him and wished it was things I said, things I would of change etc. He confinded in me and me as well. He is very simple I am a little more complex. He would say that I just want us to meet for lunch, hug you and have flowers for you. He told me that he would never run out on me and that he loved me. We had our issues and I decided if I want to keep him I need to quit stressing him out, relax and just let thing flow. What bought us to this state was he ask me to pay a bill for him gave me password etc. Did it and moved on, I have a friend who does not like him very much. He felt that he could not take care of me in the matter of what I was accustom to. Sometimes I believe thaat was an issue. But if it was I would of never spend time with him etc. My friend did a background on him with my knowledge or permission. I mentioned that my friend bought an envelope and I ddid not open it. It felt bad I told hm I took a drive and the reason why because why would you do that. I called him asked if we could not talk about it and he siad if it was about me I need to know. I did not hear from him for a few days i did call him and then he called started saying that someone told him that he was having a background. Which to be honest is impossible, but I went along with it because a PI you would not know and as much money my friend has you would not know. I told him yes he did one but you were not returning a call for me to tell you. I told him I terminate the friendship because you took advantage of my friendship. I apologize for my friend but I did nothing I did shredd the paperwork and never looked at anything. My friend told me it was a few numbers from women and a porn line number called. I told him he has 4 sisters a deacon in the search and he helps a lot of homeless people it could be anyone. And hehas a 14 year old boy. So those were the first thing he mentioned was the phone line and money. So our relationship has been broken I dont know if he thinks I look at the information, I may believe my friend or him being embrassed. But I dont understand, how can you talk about future plans just two days prior and then I am out of your life. The past two weeks I have really been missinghim and ask for an explanation, but he has not responded. I want him back i enjoyed him in my life and his son as well who is such a nice kid. Thank you
Hi Cheryl,
Thank you for your share and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I think you’ll really be able to find all you need by visiting this : https://www.withmyexagain.com/product/radio-silence-to-get-back-with-an-ex/
I know distance can be painful, but it’s your best bet given the complexity of your situation.
Coach N
Ok Me and her have been going out 6 and a half years and it was all going brilliantly. We have split up 3 times this being the 3rd time. Now the first time was when she was pregnant 4 and a half years ago. We had an argument and she was hormonal and rather than shutting the fuck up I bit and kept arguing back and things were said so we split. 9 months later we got back and everything was better than it ever was. Now 2 years later same scenario she was pregnant but only this time she was the one at fault but ended it again I accepted it this time and just gave her space and said nothing. She came around after 3months and we were back and again better than ever but this time it was my fault. We’ve split 3months ago today. Now the past 6months we were drinking 3 nites a week in the house 3/4 beers each chilling and watching shit on TV. We weren’t communicating much on our own because of normal daily routines work etc now we were planning to get married and set a date for 2020 but I sort of dragged my heels about about it not intentionally because of finances etc but I started then to work overtime now I know that we never got much quality time together or got chances to get away for a nite together and that is a major part aswell. Our intimacy took a hit and I noticed something was going wrong so I started changing it and bringing back the spark and surprising her with flowers and random things to show her I love her and it was working and getting things back on track. Now two weeks before we split up she took the kids to her mum and dads caravan never mind location lol but when she was away she said you don’t get out much or get to do anything so enjoy the weekend and have fun. But I cleaned our whole house (private rented house) from top to bottom and I mean I ripped the whole house apart and on the Sunday she came back and was buzzing with it. I told her I know it’s not easy with 3 kids when I’m not here and I appreciate everything you do but I done his to show you that I truelly appreciate everything you do. She was absolutely over the moon and she loved that I done what I did. Now the next weekend I was watching our youngest kid and the kids were fostering and she said get a few beers and have a game of online poker as you haven’t played poker in nearly a year. Put in £50 and enjoy. I was all over the moon green light from the missus why not lol so I said I’ll get my brother down aswell sure bit of company and a quiet nite of poker. She was all just enjoy yourself. I had 6 cider and brother had 6 beer. Around 10 pm I still had £50 so I used the lot on a big poker tournaments. I was really doing well and around 11pm I’m in 17th position out of 780 left top 200 get paid 18000 guaranteed so I’m playing so tight and good poker. Now my cider is done 6 cans/tins around 12pm/am i didnt have anything to drink un 45mins and I went to off license for a carryout/2 tins/cans of cider to sip over during the tournament as I was walking to off license 30 secs away from the house I got jumped/battered fucking stupid and knocked out due to mistaken identity. When I came around my wallet was gone but my cards were scattered on the floor
i got up and picked up my cards and just went home. I closed laptop and my brother couldn’t believe the swelling in the side of my face. Cutting a long story short I went to bed and never slept all nite. Shock adrenaline kept me awake and the fact I got a hiding/beat up badly I never slept. When my kids woke up in was up like a shot and took them down stairs got there breakfasts ready and tidied up the house a bit. Sent my brother home in a taxi. Closed and locked front and back door. Opened kitchen window as I always do. And then she rang at 8am to speak to kids I let her speak to kids and then I spoke to her and told her everything that happened the night before and she was shocked and said holy fuck what a shit one. The day before she was telling me how much she loved me and what she wouldn’t do without me and I’m the best thing since sliced bread. Now as I took kids upstairs to get there clothes after 3 steps I felt dizzy disorientated and I thought I’m just battered and bruised. Once I got to the top of the stairs I asked kids to go in and play with toys and I thought I locked the stair Gate but I didn’t. I went in and sat down on our bed and holding my head next thing I blacked out. I absolutely remember nothing. My youngest phoned my oldest child’s mother who stays with us every weekend ceile is her name. Anyway she tried to ring me back 5/6 times and the kids kept answering phone so she tried to ring my ex not knowing she was at her mum and dads caravan which is 1 hour and 25mins drive away. Now rachel knows what happened to me that nite so she tries to ring me then steadily but I still won’t answer. I’m out cold. So she tells her dad she needs to get home but doesn’t say the reason and he starts packing to get her home
Still she’s trying to ring me on way home and same result no answer. She rigs her uncle and best friend and they come to the house and eventually get in through kitchen window
They get up stairs and try to wake me up and I get up and start talking nonsense and then said sean what about the kids. I apparently said there ok and passed out again. 3hrs later I come around and start calling to the 2 kids but there’s no answer house is silent I jumped up and run downstairs and there not there im running to the kitchen and find a note saying this was unforgivable get your shit and get out.
Now over the period of 3months I’m in a complete daze trying to get my family back explains myself over and over and telling her when I went to hospital the very next nite the doctor and consultant told me I had a delayed concussion which aging I tried to explain to her
I would never ever in my life ever put my kids in danger in anyway and she knows this but it’s the nail in the coffin as the kids were left unattended and the drifting apart at start of story also played on her decision to end our relationship. I’ve done everything I could to get her back and then I purchase a few extra back recovery packages. And none of them are working and I used all methods here and there and still it’s not moving
Or getting anywhere. She knows how much I love her and the kids but she doesn’t feel the same way for me anymore as things drifted and I’m in bits.
I don’t know what else to say my it’s been an absolute complete mindfuck. I’ve just been in a complete daze these past 3months and have really only getting to grips with situation now but I’m still stunned
I designed her a book and got a selection of phoroses and put dates on the back of the pictures when they were taken and quotes at that time. And a 4 page letter outlining everything about us and her response was below
I love the book. It really is amazing. You put so much into it. It’s probably one of the best things I have received in my life and I’m so grateful to have it. I’m soo sorry that I don’t have them feelings for you anymore. It breaks my heart that I don’t. But if I learnt one thing in life it’s that I need to be true to myself. No pretend or anything like that. I need to find myself again Sean as you no yourself I have lost my spark. I need to get it back for me. I need to look out for me and not so much other people. I’m truly sorry I don’t feel the connection anymore. I wish I did but I don’t. You are an amazing man you really are and a brilliant dad to your kids. Don’t let no one bring you down. Just keeping doing what your doing and you will have a much better life in the future. You are a good person with a good heart and that is why I alway want to be a friend. Friends like you don’t come around to often. I wish you all the best with whatever comes next in your life.
Ive done some stupid fucked up things then afterwards. After 3/4 weeks she was seeing someone and I was told by a close source about it and when she left phone behind by accident going to a friends house I seen messages on her phone to this guy in a sexual sense and that destroyed me. I know now that she is still seeing this guy and we’re split now 4months. I’ve recently just got my own place now and starting to get it built up for when the kids come to me. I don’t think there is anything more now I can do. I’ve purchased a lot of ex back programmes from Brad browning , Chris seiters, Michael fiore and clay Andrews. Nothing worked and I followed all the advice as it was laid out. Still no further forward and have actually made her hate me now
I’m interested in the coaching, but I don’t know if it will make sense in my situation. After being in his home country for three weeks to work on a project, my (I think) ex simply let me know that he just started dating a girl and would like to tell me immediately because he respects me so much. He didn’t exactly break up with me, he just let me know in this matter of fact way. I told him that if he respected me he would talk to me in person and we haven’t spoken since then (2,5 weeks ago).
We had been dating for about 8 months, but we weren’t exactly official. We had a very strong physical attraction towards each other. But there was also a lot of tenderness between us. And at least for some months he would bring up being official, and also toy with the idea of having a family. After an incident where I accused him of not being serious, because he didn’t act like a boyfriend in front of his family and friends, the relationship kind of changed. He actually seemed really hurt, but we made the mistake not to talk about what had happened. We still spent amazing days together, but he became more distant over time (while I became more and more desperate to hold on) until the end as described above.
I’m wondering if doing the coaching could actually help in my case. I know that there cannot be a guarantee, but I really would like to have another go with that person.
Hi Anil,
Thanks for reaching out – and I agree in that a coaching session may be very helpful. Please feel free to schedule by visiting this link : http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
Best,
Natalie
Coach Natalie
My ex broke broke up with me a month ago yesterday, we have been together for 6 years and have two amazing children together. We both said hurtful things to one another. I did the whole psycho calling him, begging him to come back, I tried following him home, I busted the window out in his work truck, I just did really bad things because I was hurting. He told me he have been talking to someone else and that be has feeling for her. He told me he hasn’t been emotionally involved in awhile and that he isn’t in love with me anymore.. I did the No contact on him a week ago, I should have done it sooner but I started it then. The first 3 days he started blowing up my phone started calling my friends and family member no one answered his calls. Than all of a sudden he quit calling me for 3 days I didn’t receive not one call, does this mean he has given up on calling me and moved on? I want my ex back but sometimes I feel like if I do the NC that he will eventually give up on reaching out to me and move on. Also, how do I know that my ex misses me and want to work things out with me or if he is just calling to see his kids? How do I know the difference.? Did I lose my chances of getting him back??
Hi Krista,
Remember, you two have a family together – it’ll be challenging for him to emotionally open up to someone at this stage. Instead of focusing on her, focus on what would need to be different for you two to reconnect. If you need assistance with this process, I’d love to speak with you via coaching session. I can help generate the results you’re looking for.
Best,
Natalie
Can I have more info on the coaching session please.
Hi Krista,
Absolutely. You can find all you’ll need to know about coaching here : http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
If you have any more questions, please feel free to reach me here.
Best,
Natalie
Hi Sizwe,
Thank you for your comment. It’s so great that you took it upon yourself to do a lot of self-reflection and concentrate on you. What I would invite you to do is ask yourself if you feel strong enough to see him again? If the answer is yes, then I encourage you to answer these questions right after. Can you be positive? Can you show your personal growth without words and just actions? Also, can you go into this without expectations? If you would like for us to assist you with a more tailored approach, I invite you to reach out to Natalie or Adrian for a coaching session. We wish you the best! 🙂
Sincerly,
WMEA Team
Hello Daniel,
Thank you for your comment. At this moment NC will be the best way to move forward. I suggest for you to focus on yourself and moving forward in the positive direction you are currently in. Right now things are out of your control and she has moved forward with a new partner and blocked you from getting in contact. The best that you can do is focus on your short comings and she may unblock you on FB where you contact can open again. She will possibly do this as the months continue thats why its vital to focus on your personal development so she can see changes when she contacts you again.
Best,
WMEA Team