How to get your ex back when you have a child together

get your ex  backSo you and your ex broke up and you are still hoping to get back together, for you but also for the kids? Are you prepared to prove to him that you can make him happy in the long run? Are you prepared to put in the work and figure out how to get your ex back? If so, I am here to help!

I have helped countless individuals overcome a separation or even a divorce in order to get back with a boyfriend or husband. I understand the added pressure that comes with raising a kid together or on your own; and why you would be willing to do anything to get your ex boyfriend back when you have a child together!

There are certain ground rules that you will need to respect in order to give yourself a chance to prove to him that you should get back together. Every breakup is different but there are overarching rules that most people need to implement to inspire an ex to trust and love you again. Through this article I will help you lay a stable foundation; and enable you to move forward confidently in the process of getting back with the man you love!

How to get an ex back: Don’t fight or argue over your children

Breakups are always complicated to handle; and few couples are able to stay on good terms after a separation. Having kids together adds a level of complexity to a breakup. It can make it even more difficult not to fight or argue constantly when it comes to issues such as custody, or any other important decision linked to your kids’ education and upbringing. Many people just can’t seem to get enough perspective to do what is in the best interest of their kids; and others are just too selfish to try to find a healthy compromise for all parties involved.

I understand how your emotions can get the best of you in such situations. Not only are you losing your boyfriend or husband, but you are also under the threat of losing your children as well. If you are wracking your brain thinking “How do I get my ex back,” you will need to do everything possible to not argue or fight over your children. This is actually an advice that should be applied to everyone, even those who are simply looking to move on; fighting over your kids will have a negative impact on their psyche and will make them insecure in some way shape or form as they are growing up.

Your ex boyfriend is probably looking to prove to himself and to others that your relationship is doomed and that he needs to move on to be happy. Don’t fall for his traps or provocation! To get your ex back, you absolutely must keep your cool and diffuse all contentious situations that will be linked to your kids; at least to the best of your abilities. I obviously do not recommend giving up custody of your children with the hope to get back with their father; but really try to think about your non-negotiables and narrow them as best as possible in order to come up with a compromise for issues that could potentially tear you further apart.

Get your ex back when you have a child together: Prove you can make them happy

Having a child with someone that you are hoping to get back with can be a huge advantage. You share something in common that is more precious than almost anything else in this world. In essence you have a distinct leg up on any other woman that may be trying to grab his attention. Furthermore, odds are that you will have to stay in touch and see each other for your kids. This is a crucial point because having a communication platform is essential to be able to ultimately get back with an ex. You will be able to showcase your changes and prove to him that you can make him happy!

If you truly want to get your ex boyfriend back when you have a child together, you need to be patient and to be willing to prove your change over time. Don’t try to rush to get him back because you run the risk of being too needy; of putting him on a pedestal and to never again be a challenge for him. If he is the man of your dreams, you should be willing and able to put in the necessary work to evolve over time, to once again become that woman that inspired him at the beginning of your relationship!

Let me put it another way; your goal should not be to get back together, but simply to prove to him that you can make him happy. That’s it! If your goal is to getting an ex back, you will act in a way where he will see you coming from a mile away. You won’t be looking to change for you but only for him; simply to tell him “look what I’ve done…for you”! But your ex doesn’t want to hear that. Your ex isn’t looking for someone who will be madly in love with him or obsessed with him. He is simply looking for someone who will inspire him; someone that will make him happy!

How to get your ex boyfriend back when you have a child together

As with any ex, they will need to see improvement on your part if they’re going to get back together with you. When it comes to getting your ex back, you need to make sure he understands that he’s not just stepping back into the same relationship that wasn’t working before. Like I always say; break ups always happen for a reason so when you get your ex back, you need to be able to fix whatever was leading you down the path towards separation.

The thing to keep in mind here is that generally speaking, men respond better to actions than lengthy conversations on the subject. Yes – communication is vital, but a little more focus should be placed on actually doing the things that need to be done.When you’re still working on getting him back, don’t hesitate to post pictures on social media of all the great things you’ve been doing and the improvements you’ve been making in your life. You don’t need to post a million shameless selfies, but if you’re going to the gym you can post something about it, or if you’ve been trying something new share it!

When you’re getting back together, if the issue behind the break up was The Routine, come up with exciting propositions (trips, impromptu picnics on the beach, trying rock climbing etc…), or surprise him! Remaining active in the relationship will prove to be one of the best ways to get your ex back and keep him!

Get your ex girlfriend back when you have a child together

Generally speaking, men are definitely visual creatures, and women respond positively to clear and honest communication, especially when you’re working on how to get your ex back! Men tend to have a bit more difficulty opening up about what they’re feeling and what they want, so when you’re working on getting your ex girlfriend back and keeping her, don’t underestimate the importance of talking to her and showing her how much she matters to you. One of the best ways to do this is to write a letter. The Handwritten Letter technique is a tried and true method that can work wonders in even the most complicated situations.

It allows you to maintain a respectful amount of distance while you’re in a tense period, and it allows you to organize your thoughts and present them very clearly. If you want to know how to win your ex back and make the relationship better than ever, it’s crucial to know how to express yourself in a constructive manner.

Learning how to properly communicate on a regular basis is one of the foundations of a healthy, fulfilling, and long lasting relationship. If one person is always in the dark, whether it is you or your ex, I can guarantee that you’re not going to be feeling at ease in the relationship.

How to get my ex back: It’s most likely still possible!

One of the questions that people ask me during one on one coaching sessions is the following: “Adrian how can I know if it’s still possible to get back with my ex?” It’s a legitimate question. What people are asking in essence is: should I keep fighting for this person? Do I still have a chance? And what should I do to get my ex back?

Through my years of experience coaching people just like you who ask me these questions I have come to realize that there always seems to be a window of opportunity to get back with an ex; when you have the right approach, the right attitude or mindset and when you are willing to put in the work! So to answer the questions that I referred to above: Yes, you should keep fighting to get back with your ex if he is The One.

You probably have been letting your emotions guide you; you are reacting to him more than acting for yourself and that’s why you haven’t made much progress yet! Don’t worry, you still have a chance to win your ex back if you follow a well thought out game plan that we could create together! And finally start taking control of the process to get back with your ex today; don’t act for him or even for your kids, but do things for you and your own personal growth and well-being!

I would like to share one of my most cherished secrets with you; when it comes to getting back your ex, most people feel like they are sad or depressed because the man they love has left them. Perhaps you too believe that once you will get back together, you will be happy. But in my opinion that’s a myth! I believe that you were unhappy or somehow not at peace and so your ex left you or your relationship ended. I also know that when you will be happy or find some inner peace you will be in a prime position to get back with the man you love. Not the other way around!

Don’t wait a second longer and get started right away with a new mindset and approach. Find your inner peace and once again seduce the man you love. For your sake and for your families sake!

I will be here to help if need be.

The coach to call if you are desperately looking for how to get your ex back when you’ve got a child together.

Sincerely,

Adrian

  • Helen Samosa

    How do I get my ex back
    We have a 2 year old son and i suffered depression after having my son and it lasted a while and got worse with a death in the family and work problems and separation problem’s
    My partner decides to talk to someone and this person seduced him
    He now has fully left me with our son
    But I want him back in our lives I love him so much and don’t know what to do

    • CoachAdrian

      Hello Helen,

      Thank you for sharing your story with us. First and foremost you are not the only one who has suffered from postpartum; I have worked with hundreds of women who have experienced depression after having a child. Figuring out how to get your ex boyfriend back when you have a child together is possible but you first need to find yourself first! It is extremely important that you look to regain some sort of emotional stability and well being before trying to get back with your ex. Once you will be yourself again, it will be a lot easier to inspire him to come back to you! The fact that you have a child together means that you will both always be connected. If you work on your own personal development and well being you will have the chance to seduce him again; it would be my pleasure to help you get there if you are interested in seeking my guidance through a one on one coaching session over the phone! Don’t hesitate to reach out it I can be of help!

      All the very best,
      Adrian

  • Olivera

    Hi Adrian,
    I am very mad at myself and now my bf is resentful of me because I was not able to move forward with our relationship. I always loved him and I still love him and I know he loves me too but he gave up on our future. He begged me to move in with him he proposed me and I said yes but I was not ready. It took me five years to realize that he was and is my true love. Now he dates other girls and he is trying to get over me and it is killing me. He has a girl and I have a girl. Our kids are extremely attached to each other. He badly wanted us to be a family. He cried and cried and I was reluctant to move in. I was a career oriented and now I see that I need all of them in my life. Is there any hope?

  • katy

    My partner split up with me 3 weeks ago we been together nearly six years and have a 3 old son and 1 year old daughter. He stated ww grown apart and felt like an 80 year old couple as we do same thing every weekend and we never have any money. My partner said he been feeling like this for last year but never communicated this to me so how was it supposed to know. In September he got a mortgage and moved us into a big family house now why do this I’d he ain’t happy in relationship he said I thought things get better. I am having to move in few weeks to new house with our children to give him the space he needs. I really love him and feel we got too much history to throw away. I know I not shown him how much I love him all the time as it’s hard with two young children and I made mistake as I am not good with money which makes him angry. I just want to make him see we can be happy again we just had a bad year when the other years have been perfect we only had a baby a year ago. I feel he concentrating on this past year when not been so good and forgetting the good memories we have. Please advice I do think want to loose him for good.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Katy,

      I feel for you and understand what you are going through; Having two young children can throw a serious monkey ranch into any relationship and it is not uncommon for people to lose sight of the “life before the kids”.

      You are in a unique and complex situation based on the information that you have provided me here; the best would be for us to touch base during a one on one coaching session over the phone or on Skype in order for me to provide you with a clear game plan.

      I would also need to know a lot more about what is actually going on at the moment: the mistakes that you may have done, and your legal status together, plans moving forward at this point, etc.

      It is probably still possible for you to make things work because you are linked through your kids and thus will have the opportunity at some point to prove to him that you can be happy together.

      I sincerely hope to hear from you soon.

      From my heart to yours,
      Adrian

  • Kelly

    Hi me and my hubby split up 4mth ago. Hes been unhappy for a while and he doesnt trust me at all. Since bresk up ive done ususl constsnt messsges calls. Saying some very hurtfull and nasty things thst i cNt take back. Ive begged pleaded everything. We hVe A 4yr old daughter i want him back

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Kelly,
      It seems that you have made quite a few mistakes. However something can always be done to increase your chances of getting back together. The face that you have a 4 year old daughter also links you, and provides us with an additional reason to do everything possible to make it work. I urge you to book a coaching session with me in order for us to put a plan in place.
      I hope to hear from you soon.
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Angie

    Hello, my boyfriend and I split 6 months ago (we were together for 8 years)shortly after the birth of our son. At the time I didn’t respond much to his decision to leave as I was in a bit of postpartum adjustment and held alot of resentment toward him and how his life didn’t change at all after the birth of our son. I recently snapped out of it and realized I still love him and want our family to be whole. About a month ago I found out that he started dating someone maybe a month after splitting up with me. We have been talking alot and at times he has led me to believe that there is still a chance. Just yesterday he has informed me that his girlfriend is now living with him. I’m so confused, when we talk he tells me he loves me and seeing this other girl as a friend. He only told me about them dating and living together because he had to and when I ask why he doesn’t tell he says he didn’t know how. Should I still believe there’s a chance or should I just try to let go?

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Angie,
      There is definitely still a chance, the signs point to it anyways:
      Him telling you he still loves you, not wanting to tell you about the other girl until he had too, the fact that you have a child together (something to build upon), the fact that your instincts are telling you that he is leaving the door open…
      I think that I could help you win him back, so if you are serious about doing everything possible to make it work, I advise you to book a coaching session with me so that we can get started right away!
      Time of the essence.
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Barbara Crowley Doyle

    I was with my ex for almost six years and I found out my ex was cheating on me and we have a two year old. For a younger girl. I had to move out.. In so shattered hurt the whole 9. I want him back.. What do i do.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Barbara,
      I know how you feel and how painful this can be.
      The most important thing at the moment is that you avoid making big mistakes, like begging him to stay together, or anything else that would make you lose credibility. Your best move was in fact to move out and make him take accountability for his actions…
      I do believe that it is possible to turn things around and would love to help by providing you with a game plan and regular support. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me by booking a coaching session so that we can work together if you are serious about doing everything possible to salvage this relationship.
      From my heart to yours,
      Adrian

      • Barbara Crowley Doyle

        What do i do. I love him with all my heart and soul.. Please help me

        • CoachAdrian

          Book a coaching session so that we can work together, and I promise to help and to give you my all to turn this around for you.
          Here is the link:
          https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
          Looking forward to working together.
          Best,
          Adrian

  • cindy

    Hi me and my hubby split about 8 months ago we have a 2 year old son. We still see each other in that way lol. We split because I have a ba temper and we use to fight about his nousy father his parents are divorced, we have been for counciling but he was not tryig from his side he is staying with his father and his father as a big big impact on our relationship it feels like I should move on but I cant we have said so much hurtfull things. Then he said we should wait then when I wanted to move to a diffrent city he was why leave everything then it is no he is going to pay lawers to finalize the divorce. I am scared if I move and we could have actually work things out even if the family is against it. Please help.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Cindy,
      I’m not sure I understood everything that’s going on here, but what I did pick up on is that he wasn’t really to see you go, he tried to hold you back and somewhat doubted his decision. I also note that you have a child together and that is also very positive in that you will be linked to this man no matter what.
      I understand that big mistakes were made and that some things were said that can’t be taken back…however I believe that I can help you make things right if you are patient and looking to put in the work!
      It will take some time but I think that I could help you, so if you are serious about doing everything to make this work, I suggest that you book a coaching session with me so that we can quickly start to work together.
      I wish you all the very best,
      Adrian

  • Trisha

    Hello Adrian,
    My names Trisha and my ex and I have a four year old together, our relationship ended and I’m unsure of the whole reason because he’s pretty closed off about his feelings, he has a drinking problem but despite that my God is he the love of my life! We were together since I was 15 and he was 17, so 7 months ago he decided nope I can’t do this I’m so unhappy and that was it no further explanation but since then he was with another woman and now he’s trying to woo his old “best friend” who left him in the dust 5 years ago. There is still physical attraction between us and once in a while he’ll come to my place or I to his and we well you know…. I just want him back I want our family back together, our son misses him he asks often when we’ll be a family again and it breaks my heart. Please help me understand a little better.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Trisha,
      Thanks for sharing your story!
      I think that you should stop sleeping with him and making it so easy; right now he has the best of both worlds…his freedom and independence and you whenever he pleases. Not a winning combination…
      You are the prize, and he needs to come around and realize this to make things right. The only way for him to fully understand the consequences of his actions is for you to pull back, give him some tough love and be strong enough to make him chase you once again.
      I would love to help you bring your family back together, so I encourage to book a coaching session with me in order for us to work together.
      From my heart to yours,
      Adrian

  • Barbara Crowley Doyle

    I want my ex back we have a 2 year old together.. We was together for six years. He cheated on me with a girl seven years younger then him . he now wont even look at me. But i miss him soo much and love him more then ever what do i do . how do i get him back

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Barbara,
      I suggest that you book a coaching session in order for us to address the deep rooted issues and for me to provide you with a game plan.
      Hope to hear from you soon.
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Samantha M

    Hi Adrian,
    My ex and I have 2 kids under 4 together. He left me 3 weeks ago and has been talking to another girl. My ex still tells me he loves me and will text me most morning to say “good morning”. This other girl knows about me. I’m not sure if he is confused on what he wants or how to go about this situation. I just want my family back together but it is discouraging when he is talking to another girl and is building feelings for her. I need help!

    Sammi

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Samantha,
      Thanks for sharing your story.
      I understand how difficult this can be because I’ve coached tons of women who faced similar challenges.
      You need to be strong and not beg him to come back; let him face the consequences of his choices and actions…
      The best would be for you to reach out to me and book a coaching session in order for us to work together so that you can quickly turn this things around.
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Emma

    hi, i am looking for some help, my boyfriend of 5 years and who i have a 2year old child with left me about 4 weeks ago, all he has said is that he just doesnt love me the same way anymore and is adiment he wont ever get those feelings back for me, he still tells me he finds me attractive. I really want to get him back and get our family back together! i need help

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Emma,
      I can and want to help!
      Book a phone coaching session in order for us to work together to keep your family together.
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Um3doul

    Hi, I am really need help, I have two kids and my husband of 6 years divorced me when I was 6 month pregnant and now my son is two month old.

    I am a Muslim and I can’t go back to him until I got married to another man.
    My ex cares his children but he says that he will never back to me what ever happens .
    He told his mom that he will not get married at least for five years and he said to me that he will never marry again.

    I really want to get him back

    • CoachAdrian

      Hello,
      Thanks for sharing your story.
      Your circumstances are quite, I suggest that we discuss over the phone or skype in order for me to provide you with tailored advice.
      Please book a coaching session in order for us to work together.
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Missing him

    Me and my husband have been on and off since we were kids. Lol he was my first “boyfriend”. We got back together in middle school and we’re together for a few years until we grew apart and 15 years later I see him drive by and we connected and after 4 years of being together we got married and we have been married for 2 years now. Right after we got married I found out I was pregnant and now we have a beautiful little girl. About 5 months ago he walks out and leaves saying he doesn’t feel the same and all we do is argue. Yes we did do a lot of arguing and once my daughter came I stopped paying attention to him. And yes he found someone else. During that time I begged and pleaded and finally he came back about a week ago and yesterday he left again saying his feelings aren’t the same. I feel my husband is my soul mate. We have had some rough times and I still love him. He says hes not sure if he loves the other woman or not but he knows he does love me and care about me just not in love anymore. He says he wants to be friends and still come by and help me with things with the house. I just want to connect with him again and I don’t know how. Please help.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey!
      Love your story and want to help you turn things around.
      Please book a phone coaching session in order for us to work together.
      Regards,
      Adrian

      • Missing him

        I would love to discuss this further and get some insight and help. But I won’t be able to its way to much and he left me with absolutely nothing. I’m just trying to get back on my feet for my children.